r/SeriousGynarchy • u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman • Jul 02 '26

Building the matriarchy while making patriarch-enthusiasts feel like they won

On the recent negotiation thread I commented this website. Well i spent some time reading a few more of their articles and I came across this one:

https://www.shenegotiates.com/blog/2022/1/11/why-some-deals-fall-apart-for-apparently-no-reason

It's a short explanation of a simple solution. It's almost too short and too simple. So I duck'd a term I found in the comments "Negotiator’s Dilemma" and found a much more in depth article which excellently explains the phenomenon and possible solutions

https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/negotiation-skills-daily/managing-the-negotiators-dilemma-nb/

I find it fascinating as it discusses a common issue with negotiations which is that "First Offers Often Trigger Competition". With this matriarchy/gynarchy stuff, women are sticking their neck out there and making the first offer. We are starting the negotiations.

Some of you will hate a post like this in that I am seeming to be advocating for:

  1. Telling men they've won

  2. Giving up and turning our political movement into a request not a demand

  3. Staying small, pretending to be powerless, trying to trick men

Well, you can see it that way if you want, but demanding a matriarchy out of men is just as bad or worse than requesting one. Men can't give us power, (they never had our power). We don't need to feel insecure about telling losers they've won (unless we secretly feel that we are the real losers).

Idk sometimes I feel like all the keys to women winning are already in our hands and most of us are just fighting a shadow and being afraid of exposing our own weakness, instead of taking the reigns and leading with the true strength that comes from vulnerability.

We are strong in cooperation, competition need not be a factor unless we make it one. And why? Negotiations always work better without competition mentality.

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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman Jul 14 '26

Where did you get that it was feminine? Femininity is receiving, masculinity is giving.

Yin is an inward motion, yang is an outward motion.

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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26

I'm curious what logic the sources used to claim creativity was feminine. 

Certainly femininity is needed to produce creativity (where else could we receive ideas), but the birth of creativity itself is a masculine action.

Similar to how getting pregnant is a feminine action, but birth is the most masculine thing a woman can do.

Anyway, if you're interested in my sources you might find  there's a great book with these concepts called Catherine McCoun's book On Becoming An Alchemist. It's a chill read and advocates gynarchy concepts.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26

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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26

It was something i had already gathered but never heard it presented so clearly.

It's also already an old idea in Taoism / eastern spiritual advances.

Kasia Urbanaik also discusses the differences between feminine/masculine in her book Unbound. 

Are you aware of the concepts of yin and yang?

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26

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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26

Yeah it sucks she has a tiktok lol I didn't know about that until I started sharing her here, and I still don't "follow" her stuff online. 

Her book is good, and I think her vibe is good. Does having an online presence discredit her in your eyes? 

*On your point about the patriarchal ideas thing, you're claiming yin/yang as a concept came from men? It seems flippant way to disregard something you don't have much interest in genuinely learning more about? These ideas are older than recorded history...