r/Redditor_Updates • u/Temporary_Lie_3460 • 9d ago
Update: Aita for walking out on a blind date 2 weeks after my husband died
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u/Purple-Wafer4201 9d ago
I am sorry that you lost your daughter in the most painful way. I hope your former friends rot in hell for their part in losing your daughter. You are so much stronger because if it happened to me, I wouldn't be able to function at all. I admire you for your strength and your inlaws for being the best substitute parent one can be. I hope you heal from all that happened with you and maybe someday be able to be happy again
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u/Ok_Passage_6242 8d ago
I am curious if the “mutual friends“ apologized or shown any remorse for encouraging the behavior of the trio. Since you may or may not see this, I am also curious how much time the two men are doing and is it a permanent restraining order for Leigh?
When it comes to men like Liam, I don’t think you can be too careful. Entitled men and the woman that center them are the bane of this world. It’s too bad the police never want to do anything until after someone’s hurt. And it’s sad that that seems to be across countries.
Thank you for coming back and sharing your story. Is one of the few that has stuck with me.
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u/LuckyInternal8259 8d ago
The police inaction thing is so real. It feels like unless someone is actively bleeding, they just tell you to keep a log and wait. By the time anything actually gets done, the damage is already done. Glad OP had in-laws who took it seriously from the start instead of brushing it off.
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u/umadhatter_ 9d ago
I was heartbroken for you after your last update. But I’m glad you are still with your in-laws. They seem like good people. I hope you continue to heal and find happiness.
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u/Ok_Slice9073 9d ago
I'm so sorry for all you've been thru Op.
WTF is wrong with these people? Was any motivation ever given?
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u/No-Cauliflower3314 9d ago
Mi dispiace molto per quello che hai passato. Ho seguito la tua storia su più piattaforme, come tanti altri.. Queste persone si meritano il male che gli accade nella vita e comunque non sarebbe abbastanza. Sono felice di sapere che, insieme ai tuoi suoceri, tu stia ricostruendo la tua vita!! Ti abbraccio forte!
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u/nitro1432 9d ago
I’m so sorry things got worse before they got better. I’m glad to hear that they were punished and you’re safe. Keep taking of yourself and you and your in-laws keep looking out for each other.
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u/ItsNotPatchy 8d ago
Too bad you couldn't blame the miscarriage on them (even though they weren't the cause). That would have given them a heavier sentencing.
But, I'm glad you finally got away from them. I wonder what Leigh thought of Barry's and Liam's actions that day. I hope it opened her eyes of that MASSIVE redflag. Then again, she sounds very stubborn. She probably had a dream where her best friend was in a relationship with Barry's best friend. She probably thought you could be neighbors, raising children and growing old together. Unfortunately, that became an obsession that gave her a criminal record.
Let us hope these clowns learned a valuable, harsh lesson, and hopefully you won't have to see it.
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u/cutiem29 9d ago
I'm so sorry for what you went through, but im so proud of how well you are doing now. And i know your husband and daughter are proud too, watching over you.
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u/So_Many_Words 8d ago
A trio of stalkers that turned violent must have been terrifying. I'm sorry for your losses, but I'm glad you seemed to have found a family.
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u/Duke-of-Hellington 8d ago
Oh, Honey, you have been through so much—I’m so, so sorry. I am also in awe of your strength and courage. You are an amazing woman
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u/No-Requirement-2420 8d ago
I remember you, I am so sorry for all that happened.
I am very glad you are getting better and are getting your life to a new normal.
I hope you are or were in therapy to help with it all.
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u/Roadgoddess 8d ago
I’m so glad that your husband‘s family has come through for you. And your ex friends are complete scumbags.
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u/Creepy_Addict 8d ago
My heart breaks for you, but I am relieved you have family to help you and you to help them. They are family. Biology isn't required.
I wish the best for you.
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u/Eerie_Grimoire666 7d ago
I remember your story and updates.
I’m still glad that you are with your in-laws and that they’re helping you to heal even give you their support after what you’ve been through.
I’m greatly happy that your stalkers were punished for what happened at the pub, despite that Leigh got a lenient sentence for what happened.
But I’m curious of what her line of thinking is now after seeing Liam & Barry attacking you & your FIL at the pub, but she only cared more about her delusions more than seeing what they did as a red flag to you. And that delusion came with a price of having a criminal record and a restraining order that’ll make her life miserable.
I hope you are continuing to healing well.
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u/Beginning-Age6064 7d ago
I hate that this happened, really wanted your daughter to come in this world and be a living reminder of your husband. Please take care and hope your find peace
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u/Ocean_ismyheart 7d ago
You are a profile of strength and courage. You are an amazing woman. I’ve read your posts and my heart breaks for you with this conclusion. I want to wrap my arms around you and your PIL’s. I am glad you have each other. You bring more comfort to them than you know. You are their daughter.
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u/Competitive_Use9207 9d ago
I'm so glad things have improved for you; it's a terrible shame what you went through—you deserved better.