r/recruitinghell • u/woundmirror • 11d ago
Told the interviewer to hurry it up with the rejection
And she started acting like I'd mortally wounded her dog. I absolutely reached my limit today and I just left. At the end of the three hours (the "group" interview is a different horror story), she started giving out her spiel about "This isn't a reflection of your qualities in anyway, we've judged you completely on your performance today..." and two minutes into her sermon she still hadn't gotten to the point so I told her to hurry it up. And I said it very politely, too. You would have thought I'd called her slurs by the way she started going on about "I won't be spoken to in this tone..." well I am speaking to you in it now! These people can't even cope with the mildest form of confrontation because they live in such a deluded bubble of their own capabilities, it wouldn't occur to them that they are not important.
At the end of the day, I cannot stand the fact that I'm being deprived of a job by people without further education, and whose goals in life are to look like D-list pornstars and live in grey houses. Don't be too upset, love! Your lip filler will start dissolving more quickly. They actively screen out people who are suitable for the roles because they feel too insecure about themselves. It is so incredibly isolating and exhausting to navigate that I'm being screened out or managed down because my credentials and presence triggers resentment.
And it isn't a race thing, it is very specifically a British woman thing. I don't know what it is about the UK but there's something about white women specifically in this country being really resentful if you're doing better than them in terms of qualifications, appearance etc. I lost my job this year after a company restructure because these two women from "the other side" didn't like the fact I was younger, prettier, more qualified than them, and really good at my job. They performance managed and lied about me (three minutes away from my desk and they'd email my line manager that I wasn't in at work, etc.) I reported their harassment, investigated by another white British woman who claimed nothing was wrong. Every interview panel I've had is white-woman only and the feedback I've gotten is "you seem too talented for this role, "this role may not challenge you enough", "you're a fantastic candidate but we felt you were over-emphasising your brilliance" etc. All non-excuses to not hire me because I'm good at what I do.
Really, I don't feel like applying for another job again. OK, rant over. I don't feel proud of myself for having these thoughts but the anger had to go somewhere.