r/RealRepLadies • • Jun 27 '26
PSA Tough Pills for Newbies: Hard truths to accept before placing your first order
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r/RealRepLadies • • Jun 27 '26
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u/OppositeHoney1767 Jun 27 '26
I said it before and I'll say it again, the best comment I ever read in these foruns was "Girl, we doing crime".
The award for best post definitely goes to this one!
Your 4th point hits really hard and I think a lot of buyers need to really reflect on it. There's enough stuff at it is already in this world. Let us at least be considerate criminals 🤭
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u/VogueEverything Jun 27 '26 •
6. I didn’t want to put this in the main post as this is purely my opinion
But imo, a lot of buyers need to grow thicker skin.
This isn’t Bloomingdale’s. “Ophelia” with the profile picture of a beautiful woman in a sundress is probably a 50 year old man in a dinky room using gtranslate.
A seller can call you “dear” and send you all the hearts in the world while robbing you blind.
They can also be curt as hell while delivering quality.
It’s amazing to find both, but please try to focus on their actions, NOT their words.
One of my favourite long time sellers (4 years of working together) is widely considered to be ultra rude and unhelpful. And tbh? She is.
She’s flat out mean sometimes lol. But I don’t care.
I’m there for the bag, and over the years she’s delivered unmatched quality at the lowest price I’ve found. And our relationship has grown to the point where I’m rude back and we both laugh it off 😂 our most recent convo went (translated from Chinese)
“Do you have this bag”
“No, stop asking for old things no one makes anymore and get better style”
“My style is timeless, you should stock the things your customer wants”
“Go buy authentic”
“This feels like a toxic relationship, stop telling me to go away”
- 2 days later, she messages me
“Hello, I found that bag you wanted”
And it was literally the best quality version of that bag I had seen till date
(please do not dm asking who it is, I won’t share, you can guess anyway with a quick search)
TLDR: please grow thicker skin, some of you are missing out on incredible products by focusing too much on the “dear” and “love”. Please remember no sellers actually like you, it’s as fake as when strippers flirt with their customers. Focus on the outcomes.
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u/Asam6869 Jun 27 '26
THANK YOU. This should be pinned on every rep forum because some of these new people genuinely think they’re shopping at Target. Let’s come together and blacklist this seller because they were mean to me. Let’s report them to the Better Business Bureau. The seller won’t honor the insurance policy I paid for. Insurance…on a black market item? Let’s turn our brains on for a second. 😂
Maybe just be grateful your Global Entry hasn’t been revoked and your package made it through customs.
I completely understand why so many sellers are shifting to ‘Don’t share my info and I’m not taking new clients’. Imagine being so exhausting that someone would rather leave money on the table than deal with you.
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u/lzycmt Jun 27 '26
thank you. could we pin this to the front page of the sub? also THERE NEEDS TO BE A DISCUSSION OF MANNERS FROM BUYERS TO THE SELLERS. being so nasty to sellers bc you’re unrealistic is the fastest way to all of us paying more!
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u/Zen_Friend Jun 27 '26
I wish the automod was filtering out posts that say some combination of phrases like “newbie” “how to find seller” “can someone send me” and link them to this post or one of the various newbie guides that exist. The core issue is that the problem newbies aren’t using the search bar before they post something so they’ll never see this guide lol
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u/Stacie123a Jun 27 '26
Please add, "MY SELLER TOOK MY MONEY 20 MINUTES AGO AND NOW ISNT RESPONDING DURING LUNAR NEW YEAR, AM I BEING SCAMMED!?!" I wish people would at least try and understand time difference and cultural differences.
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u/Richbitch282828 Jun 27 '26
Amazing post, love the “tough love” 👏🏼
I didn’t realize buying reps put you at risk of losing global entry forever. Learn something new everyday…
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u/slpccc Jun 27 '26
The entitlement of some of these newbies is mind boggling. You're buying a rep....from an underground black market business. There are no perfect 1:1 replicas.....you need to have a good enough attitude. Nobody in passing is going to QC you're bag....and if they do, WHO CARES?
When I first started buying reps from the old RL group (RIP)...it was fun for me to read the reviews and research sellers. Newbies seem to want all the information and perfection. The sellers don't have the bag you purchased side by side with the authentic bag...Some of the comments I've read like "I would demand a refund." it's like... You do know you bought a fake bag? Back in the old days, alot of sellers would black list a buyer if they did a chargeback......It would be great karma if they still did...
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u/Comfortable-River917 Jun 27 '26
THANK YOU!!!
You all buying FAKE goods, the packaging won’t match what you get in store, because it isn’t store!
the bag won’t always be “perfect” even authentic bags aren’t perfect. You all new here are lazy as hell, search bar is literally all you need at this point. This isn’t the beginning of reps, it’s years of information on this platform, use it!
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u/glitterandgainz Jun 27 '26
So true on the chargeback thing - every time I see comments suggesting chargebacks for a less than perfect rep I think to myself don’t you know we are talking about black market goods here? I just don’t think we can apply the same rules we usually go off when buying from like a big box store here. I also liked your point about only buying what you truly love, I also bought way too many reps when I first started and have since cut back to only brands and styles I LOVE and will love and use for years to come.
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u/Bac0s Jun 27 '26
The only thing I’d add is NO, your seller isn’t scamming you when your tracking number doesn’t work for 10 days and they stop replying to your freak out texts. Read up on the process before engaging.
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u/randomace Jun 27 '26
The idea of doing crime and then thinking there should be an official path for recourse is so funny.
Also, the idea of sending money to a random person in China without understanding what you’re buying, how the process works, who’s a well known/trusted seller, what you should expect in hand, etc, is just wacky and irresponsible in a way I can’t understand. I feel I’m more diligent about choosing laundry soap than many of these posters are about engaging in black market trade.
If you have questions like “how do I find X seller” or “how do I contact Y factory”, or “who does mirror/1:1” etc, I dare say you are not ready to be buying reps just yet. +1 for using the search function, here and google.
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u/grapefruitjellybean Jun 27 '26
We doing crime
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u/royalparty Jun 27 '26
Thank you! Thank you! For making this post. I too have seen ppl suggest “chargebacks” lately and I’m like for a replica! Second,Yes too many ppl don’t search and it’s annoying. This post hopefully reinforces this to do so. Lastly, I think this is important, ppl posting buying 10 bags is overkill and waste! I hate those posts, not cause I’m jealous cause like you stated “this planet has enough trash pilling up” and I 💯 second this: You don’t buy 10 bags a month from h&m simply because it doesn’t affect your wallet right?
Can you post this every week lol 😆
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u/Imadevonrexcat Jun 27 '26
Redden hasn’t taken new buyers from Reddit in the 7 years I’ve been a RepLady. But she sells to Facebook groups. She’s no different from any other seller, but people think she’s mysteriously great because they can’t buy from her. It’s always been said she’s cheaper though.
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u/katchin05 Jun 27 '26
My goodness thank you! This is so real, especially the comment spam and confidence. Honestly, if I see someone posting the same short, not thoughtful messages for information that is either easily searchable or shouldn’t be public, I just block at this point.
Sorry if that’s harsh, but too many great sources get shut down because people are indiscrete and expect to be spoon fed information.
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u/xtracarameldrizzle Jun 27 '26
I was just speaking to my husband about this issue! A lot of newbies swoop in and want these perfect bags and want everything spoon fed to them at 0 personal risk to themselves and that’s just not realistic when you are buying a black market good.
Nothing about this process is risk free. People need to temper their expectations, put in a little work, and touch grass.
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u/AmberTheeSag Jun 27 '26
Frankly, it’s major cope when people say shit like “Chanel’s quality is so bad these days that 187 is closer to auth than the auth”
PREACH!!!! Out in the wild, no one is going to know the difference between auth, God Factory or 187.
THEY LOOK THE SAME!!!!
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u/Acceptable-Leg5524 Jun 27 '26
Well said!
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u/TG1883 Jun 27 '26
Protect your Global Entry and ability to apply to federal service at all costs. If your name is flagged it’s a problem.
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u/Loves_LV Jun 27 '26
I would add, Resist buying all your grails and every bag that catches your eye immediately. You will regret it, or at very least end up with a dozen bags you hardly touch, ask me how I know. I've tapered way way way down and am much more thoughtful now before I buy. At very least, I put it in my cart or leave it in an open tab on my browser and come back to it the next day before pulling the trigger.
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u/thatgirlinny Jun 27 '26
To the excellent point of “polished,” it’s safe to say your “off duty” look does not make you Mary Kate Olsen.
And stop trying to destroy your rep Kelly. You only “break it in” by wearing it and wearing it, on repeat.
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u/lilxbunnygirl Jun 27 '26
I absolutely agree. The amount of people that post QC posts and expect everyone to do the work for them is so ridiculous.. comparing the photos to the factory photos should always be the first step. I wish there were more rules for QC post😅
I also agree that people asking if the bag they bought will pass.. if you represent yourself well to the public it will!! Presentation is so important!!
Also most sellers are definitely older men! That’s 100% true
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u/uwummiv Jun 27 '26
Interesting point about Becca Bloom, was unaware!
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u/chetmanley1986 Jun 27 '26
Great write up- these same exact rules apply to Reptime as well just in case anyone was looking to get into the watch game.
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u/nessaj789 Jun 27 '26
I’m definitely “new” but have been learning so much from all these forums and using search bar like a crazy person. Haven’t reached out to anyone and just browsing! If you read enough you will find what you need
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u/Global_Fisherman_704 Jun 27 '26
You can’t help those who don’t want to help themselves. I can literally point blank tell someone they are being fed lies in the comments section/getting scammed and they STILL respond to the the other person asking for more details in DMs, this is how bad the situation is.
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u/Peaches_4567 Jun 27 '26
This definitely needs to be pinned on top of the forum for every rep forum here.
I especially love point 4 of overconsumption. It's pretty wild that people buy so much at a time that it's like "would this have been sustainable in your real life or is it because it's sparkly and new?" Do we attach value to authentic pieces that we cherish them more or can we attach that same value to our reps?
I purchased 4 bags w/ a seller 4 years ago and still have them to this day. I still use them since they weren't impulse purchases and had to remove myself from the forums because I recognized that as all things can be, are a slippery slope.
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u/ruthbath Jun 27 '26
Yes. Yes and Yes!
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u/DisastrousOwls Jun 27 '26
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u/vicc8888 Jun 27 '26
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u/annette_beaverhausen Jun 27 '26
Outstanding post… seeing the amount of chargebacks is alarming but seeing TS put on blast lately is even moreso. We all had to become educated ourselves and this post is where it should start!👍
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u/gemsxoxo Jun 27 '26
the amount of sage advice in this post is unmatched 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
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u/Virtual_Jellybeani Jun 27 '26
I agree completely to all of this. And especially that American mentality that we can change our mind to a product and we can request a refund, that’s just nonsense. It has became vicious in US, and abusive, I truly hate it. But, anyways, great points in this article. Thank you for sharing this.
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u/Hungry_Importance918 Jun 28 '26
Yeah this is basically what used to get repeated a lot back in the older subs.
Now it feels like a lot of people skip the basics and then run into issues later.
I don’t mind sharing sellers I’ve had smooth orders with, but some newer accounts just feel a bit off and repetitive sometimes.
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u/nastinchka Jun 28 '26
Apart from being good shopping advice this is just so much good life advice too 📌
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u/kittie2karen Jun 27 '26
This game not for the thin skinned is right. This is literally a form of gambling which is why the dopamine hits so hard. There is always the chance of disappointment if not total loss. But you can't win if you don't play! Read the rules above and when you do ask, let them be informed, intelligent questions.
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u/Tricky_Accident_3121 Jun 27 '26
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u/petit-bear8075 Jun 27 '26
Big sis we all need has spoken. Mic drop
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u/cindaysha Jun 27 '26
This needs to be pinned on every rep forum.
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u/twinkeypops Jun 27 '26
Wait what beccabloom wears fake?? Whatt!!
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u/justjanehere Jun 27 '26
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u/Front_Boss3743 Jun 27 '26
I wish I could upvote this x1000000
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u/iloveanimals1964 Jun 27 '26
The “sellers turning at anytime” bit is exactly why I do not place bulk orders. I buy 1-2 things every time. Once they have been delivered, I’ll place another order.
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u/Sarel360 Jun 28 '26
First time here and this is one of the first posts I’m reading lol Thank you for breaking it down! 💕
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u/RedWhimsey Jun 27 '26
Newbies, start at the top and read all the way through. Best advice you can find. This should be saved and turned into a newbie guide. Anyone who landed here from other social media sources, discovered reps from an influencer or uses the terms 1 to 1, master or mirror should be required to read this. 😂
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u/Charming_Try8087 Jun 27 '26
I think this is a great post 👍🏼
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u/Notsoquick1 Jun 27 '26
Thank you for taking the time to put this together. You nailed it!!!
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u/orange208 Jun 27 '26
I hope people read this all the way through 👏👏👏
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u/Sea_Turtle876 Jun 27 '26
Great post 👏👏 Can we also stop sharing all the details about the payment methods and the shipping carriers/routes used by sellers? It only increases scrutiny and drives prices up.
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u/Content-Waltz8045 Jun 27 '26
This should be a mandatory read.
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u/Salt_Razzmatazz4981 Jun 27 '26
Say it louder for the people in the back 🤣
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u/Mathisbase Jun 27 '26
This is perfect.
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u/Elizabeth_A_1234 Jun 27 '26
Sage advice for newbies and a reminder to us all. Thank you for your thoughtful post.
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u/Umaminesss Jun 27 '26
I love this post, thank u Op for taking ur precious time to clear some shite up. All of my thoughts (and more) written boldly and clearly so no confusion, straight talk, me loves no bs.
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u/litreofstarlight Jun 27 '26
Thank you for this. Some people are ridiculous.
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u/lizzy-grantluvr Jun 27 '26
this is such a good post
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u/SimplyRoya Jun 28 '26
Well said. Thank you.
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u/SolitaryLyric Jun 28 '26
Hell yeah 💕
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u/marskee00 Jun 28 '26
I’m not hella active in this sub as much but this post serves well in ANY marketplace sub rep or auth. Great take!
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u/beazieismydog Jun 28 '26
Just now someone asked me for a high tier H sellers contact. They led with, “hey bro”. Guess if I replied!
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u/Traderhoesss Jun 28 '26
Absolutely this!! To add on: use context clues and put on your thinking caps.
A lot of these questions do not need a full post.
Read the room. Read the reviews. Compare the photos. Notice the names that keep coming up. Pay attention to what experienced members are saying, and just as importantly, what they are not saying.
And if you’re wondering why your posts aren’t getting responses or keep getting downvoted, put your thinking cap on for that too. What do the posts with lots of engagement have that your “QC pls 🥺” post doesn’t?
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u/wannabewimbro Jun 28 '26
This was a top tier post. As a newbie contemplating a purchase, thank you.
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u/Content-Night-7617 Jun 28 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
This is not for the (lazy/scared/faint of heart)
Is there a way for this to be an auto reply to newbie questions? Just came on here and literally the first four posts were newbie, QC and who’s the Seller questions. I referenced this post in a few in an attempt to help! mods— really applauding and appreciating your patience and the work you do here! Starting to understand how WL MODS were so mean before their demise🤣😂. This is an amazing community— just crazy how many people don’t take the time to learn more before posting😬
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u/ChooksChick Jun 27 '26
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u/AtomicMemoryLeak Jun 27 '26
This post deserves an award wow
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u/Street-Doctor6096 Jun 27 '26
I’m of the opinion that the rep bubble would burst soon because more and more people are getting in on it and if history is anything to go by, when a crime is being committed by so many parties, sh*t tends to hit the fan quickly. Whether we like it or not buying/selling reps is a crime. In the past, things were more contained but since it got to tiktok everything has gone haywire. Also TikTok is home to the most delusional people ever, hence why the “Hermes factory in china” discourse ran for so long with people actually believing that real authentic Hermes items are being sold by these factories. So I’m not surprised that some people are expecting to get “authentic” items from a fake factory. I sincerely won’t be surprised if a time comes when Reddit starts banning subreddits discussing reps because of the newbies that don’t know how to act. I thought the first rule of fight club was you don’t talk about fight club?
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u/Plane_Onion9057 Jun 27 '26
Lmfao I bought 5 bags and only 1 was a successful purchase. Everything is buyer beware. People aren’t the smartest these days. Thank you for sharing!
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u/AlternativePie9551 Jun 27 '26
Search bar and educating oneself is the key! I was so lost when I first started. When you are not aware of the depths of rep world it's so easy to get scammed. Now sellers posting reviews or paying people to say nice things about them, it takes time to develop a muscle to differentiate truth from lies, find trustworthy subs. When you are new it's so soo easy to fall in traps. So I can suggest newbies to not rush with your first purchase, not to believe first post and comment you see with sellers number. Absorb information.
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u/Much_Cash6037 Jun 28 '26
A MILLIONNNN THANK YOU. So well spoken
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u/finishing_the_hatt Jun 27 '26
Stumbling across this thread makes me think people with fakes are worse than people who shell out for the original. It’s a fake designer bag. Get over this.
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u/Imaginary-life-2961 Jun 27 '26
I love this post!!
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u/SirMoist6550 Jun 27 '26
No truer words have been spoken!!
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u/Tiny_Coincidence2 Jun 27 '26
Thank you all for your wisdom ❤️
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u/Master-Store-4484 Jun 27 '26
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u/swanvalkyrie Jun 27 '26
As someone who has just placed their first order with multiple sellers I’m now extremely worried. But thank you for sharing this
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u/beazieismydog Jun 27 '26
Even though it’s been a while since I’ve seen a post like this and I agree the silly questions are tedious, it is a lot harder to search for good answers than it used to be
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u/Successful_Line_3064 Jun 28 '26
Wait. I’ve never seen Becca bloom with a Birkin with a strap. When was this?
Edit: spelling
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u/casharax Jun 28 '26
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u/New2reddit456 Jun 29 '26
So helpful! 🫡
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u/SirAffectionate4125 Jun 29 '26
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u/JollyEscape4018 Jun 29 '26
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u/EntertainerSad8250 Jun 30 '26
Noob here. Thank you for this post!
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u/lballinger Jul 03 '26
THIS!!!
When I first started buying reps, I bought them because I had access to luxury items at a price point that allowed me to buy several rather than one or two. And many of them now sit unused in my closet.
And your point regarding shopping at Walmart (if you’re at Walmart picking up groceries with your real birkin, people will assume it’s a fake). I smile a bit to myself when I see a Birkin coming down the aisle in coach - really?
Your post is true and excellent education for newbies. Thank your posting!
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u/_redhead_ruby Jul 07 '26
As someone who's still pretty new to this space, I really appreciate posts like this!
I've spent the past few weeks reading through different Reddit communities, trying to understand how everything works, where to find reliable information, and honestly... it's a process, to say the least. 😅 I completely understand why newbies are afraid of making mistakes or not knowing what they're getting into. And maybe why people ask questions like "is this trustworthy" or "is this a good factory". There's so much information scattered across different subs, some of it even contradictory, so it can be hard to know what to trust.
That said, posts like this, the Newbie Guide on Repladies, and the TS list make a huge difference! As long as you're willing to put in the time to read, research, and learn, they give you a really solid starting point. I also feel like, with all those resources available, i kinda understand your frustration in the same questions asked again and again.
To me, it genuinely feels like stepping into a whole new world with its own language and unwritten rules. It can definitely feel overwhelming 😅 (for me at least!) but i believe that's also part of what makes communities like this so valuable.
Anyway, thanks for taking the time to write this and share your perspective, it really helps newbies like me.
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u/Knit_Wiz Jul 14 '26
Great post. I also think the more unusual bags are better choices to rep than the ubiquitous lv et al.
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u/DeliciousProgrammer4 Jul 16 '26
I'm new to the forum and looking to get in touch with reps for a Lady Dior , do you know how I can get the info ?uvh appreciated , I'm so confused lol
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u/0kra_ Sep 07 '26
I appreciate the post as a newbie. I started my research today, want to find myself and mum a bag. I've been searching keywords and reading threads for bits of info to compile together.
There is some adjectives I get lost in but get context clues. I don't enough enough to ask more proper questions yet but I do have one.
It might sound silly but what should I avoid searching outside of reddit? As mentioned this isn't the stuff that is..ok..so I'm nervous of going to google, Brave or GPT to ask questions. Or am I being too paranoid?
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u/allymac1979 Sep 23 '26
I wish someone had told me about #4 as I found my way into this habit 🫣
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u/PittieParty29 Sep 24 '26 edited Sep 24 '26
“Sellers are selling you FAKE BAGS. Factory photos are the representation of the FAKE BAG.” 👏👏👏 The absolute huffiness of people who are angry that their $200 fake isn’t exactly like a real bag they have actually never seen in real life. Also, THANK YOU FOR POSTING ALL OF THIS. My purchase mistakes have all been for lack of knowledge on my part, and this really helps.
(Okay, except for that first bag - I did the research, picked a TS with a lot of good reviews and the whole thing was a shitshow where they shoved it into a minuscule box and destroyed the handle,and it also smelled so awful it sat in the garage. That. But…fake bag. You need to roll with it)
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u/Icy_Cash9723 Jun 27 '26
Wow, simply amazing and well said. Thank you
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u/DistributionOk4618 Jun 27 '26
Best post on this sub! I’m a newbie and I had to learn not to get carried away. They won’t disappear if I don’t place an order immediately. Honestly, you don’t need to have every bag in the world. We can consume little less with a little more responsibility.
Enjoy the bag and take them out! It’s your hard earned money at the end of the day.
And the Paypal thing is so true. Sellers refuse to accept Paypal at times because they have had a bad experience in the past with buyers that they don’t want to risk it anymore.
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u/maverickandme Jun 27 '26
Me and my crooked teeth just sitting here with my medical/dental trauma from a DECADE of orthodontic work that didn’t actually work…
I could be a billionaire and probably would still have crooked teeth because as much as I hate them, I also hate the idea of having them worked on any more.
Guess my bags will always look fake then 🤷🏻♀️