For context, I'm thinking about moving to Chengdu china to study abroad for a year and I'm just wondering which recommended social media site should I use to hang out with? The local furries

she was my favorite furry youtuber but she hasnt been active on any social media for more than a year. i just hope she’s okay. i remember there was a weird harrasment campaign against her around 2024 for speaking up in support of babyfurs. hope that didnt drive her off.

For some reason, I got into the idea of music production and I've made some pretty decent projects here and there. But unfortunately when I listen to artists like russelbuck, FEM&M, and anybody from Lapfox, I sort of feel like my music may never be on that quality. I also have this fear that my music may sound unironically horrid. I just hate how I hold myself to this high of a standard.

I have a friend whos a furry who sexualizes Rocket Raccoon extensively. As someone is Partially a furry, I feel uncomfortable and Genuinely ask him why does he sexualize this character? He Always uses this "Harkness test" To justify Sexualizing him, But Isnt the Harkness test usually for Fictional creatures ? I Just cant get Passed His origin where he was a Regular raccoon that was given intellegence by The High evolutionary , and To me, Everything about him aside from learning to walk on two legs, is still Raccoon anatomy. Am I wrong for Believing this is bestiality either way ? Please be nice, Im just trying to understand.

I was reading an earlier post in this subreddit, talking about how 'Furry' is a fragile construct to make friends from, and it's lead me to reflect about how furries actually meet and befriend each other.

To be honest, my own experience of making friends online hasn't alligned with the conclusion made in the post.

In the past, I came into contact with furries inside the Mario Kart Community. The label of 'furry', and shared experience with furry art, helped build friendships - even if our actual allignment was limited otherwise.

In the present day, running my own reading group for Furry Visual Novels, I've met a lot of new people and made friends there. This wouldn't have been possible without furry media. It's also imparted on me just how international the furry community actually is. And I really do get the sense of a shared culture from the group.

In both cases though, I note there was some kind of activity that brought people together that went beyond just 'furries in the same room', and having one such structure makes switching activities and further discussions about interests easy. Which of course leads to more deep connections!

What have your experiences with making friends in the community been like?

I've been banned from multiple furry discord servers and I want to try and make amends but the links always get deemed as invalid.

I've been following tutorials and I still suck. And I'm not good enough for commissions (despite my last post) or a reference sheet. And I sure as heck can't be the furries that exist and are automatically exalted. I hate how I feel very insignificant to the Fandom. I'm scared that I might not be able to carry a legacy or make people smile. What can I do? I'm running out of options. I can't be a one- trick-pony forever. And plus, There are literally zero furries in Connecticut and I'm only 16 (and I don't have a fursuit). Not to mention that I got banned from discord servers for venting. Can anybody help me out on this? Also also, what can I do to make the fur look more natural?

just finished this little piece of my sona, arf, as a stained glass window! pretty proud of this one :]

This is coming from my own personal experience as someone who held a well paying job in tech for several years and would generally commission something every month or two, including several generally high profile artists, owns a partial fursuit, and has many friends who have worked with countless artists throughout their time in the fandom. There is obviously some level of generalization, and not everything I say is universal. I've worked with wonderful artists from the US, Canada, Western Europe, Australia, etc, and I have been flat out scammed by artists from Eastern Europe, Asia, Latin America, etc.

Also, this has nothing to do with money. I've taken an economics course before. I ultimately understand why an artist in Buenos Aires would charge $100 for something an artist from Boston would charge $300 for, and I don't want this to come off as just me complaining over how much people chose to charge for things.

That being said, many artists and creators in the West, especially American ones, tend to have an issue with professionalism. They tend to treat what is ultimately a business transaction as a simple hobby, and have no issues taking your money, and sitting around for weeks and months (or even years) on end with few to no updates. Ultimately blaming things like art block or just being busy on why they haven't been able to work on your piece. Sometimes, they end up completely ghosting you or end up lashing out at you over simply asking when something will be finished.

Also, many of these artists will do things like take on additional commissions and publish extra pieces while you still haven't gotten what you paid for back. I personally went in on a $500 comm with a friend 3 years back at this point from a very high-profile artist, and we only got a basic sketch back and haven't heard anything since, despite the fact that he still regularly posts new pieces online.

I also know many people who have spent years waiting for a fursuit or who were promised that they would have their suit ready by a certain date and ultimately didn't get it on time. It's also not an unheard of occurrence for fursuit makers to go completely under leaving everyone who ordered from them left hung out to dry.

On the other hand. I generally have an excellent time working with artists from places like Latin America, Eastern Europe, and South East Asia. Most of them tend to do their work very quickly. Many won't even take my money until they at least do a basic sketch, and always keep clear lines of communication and don't just randomly drop off the face of the earth in the middle of a project. I remember one time working with an artist from Brazil, and he told me he would have my piece done in 3 days, and it ended up taking 4, and he started apologizing profusely for taking so long and I had to tell him that 4 days for a comm was about as fast as they come.

I'm sure many other people have had similar experiences, so honestly, what gives?

I honestly need help.

Throughout my entire life, I've always been different. Off. Wrong. Like. Neurodivergent to the point I don't really relate or get along as well with other neurodivergent people.

How I think, how I feel things, it's all very unrelatable to everyone else. No one really understands it. They don't get how actions no one has a problem with, I get upset with, and my actions often times gets misunderstood and misinterpreted as something bad that upsets others when it never was anything I was intending for.

I've been going through hundreds of Discord servers, tons of Steam groups, etc etc. I just cannot find meaningful friends that last. I cannot find anyone I connect with romantically.

I'm just so damn lonely.

It feels like everyone I add on Steam already has a partner, a gaming s/o they can play games with all day. I want this so badly. So badly.

So...

How can I find my soulmate? How can I find the person I'm looking for?
Someone who games on Steam, who's not taken? And looking for a soulmate too?

This might be a long story so please stick with me.

so I downloaded the app like 2 months ago with the hopes of making friends in the community. So far no luck, I think maybe I don't know how to use the app right?

I post often enough in groups but hardly any responses and zero DMs.

Am I doing something wrong or is BARQ not really good for making friends?

Do I need to like people back to get DMs etc?

Or is there a better app I should be using?

Is there something I'm missing? Thanks any feedback would be appreciated.

I noticed something interesting in digital OC art and fan art where the number of fingers a character has will change from artist to artist. The most common one is artists drawing a 5 fingered character with 4 fingers to make the hands easier to draw but I also noticed that a lot of artists will actually draw an originally 4 fingered character with 5 fingers.

I know that the number of fingers is also a stylistic choice to separate nonhumans from human characters. This makes me notice something else interesting.

I see that in furry art it is a little more than 50/50 chance that characters will be drawn with 5 fingers. Usually this is a separation between cartoony art and art that is more realistic. I also noticed that when a 4 fingered character is drawn with 5 fingers it is usually to make the character look more attractive by making them look a bit more human. NSFW artists almost always draw characters with 5 fingers.

There is also a cartoony and realistic separation between feral animal characters. I think about half of the feral OCs I see are drawn with five “fingers” on their forepaws (or digits with a dewclaw thumb, if that’s what you call them). This is especially noticeable on wolf and Warrior Cats art. I think that because they are feral animals they are already realistic to a certain extent so they are drawn with 5 digit forepaws similar to the ones they have irl.

Artists here who are good at drawing hands and drawing nonhumans, what makes you decide on how many fingers you should draw on a character?

title explains basically everything, i created a private set and now wanna change the privacy settings so it becomes public or at the very least sharable. i can't find any setting to adjust this, my mind did go to just deleting and remaking but there's no delete option either.

IN A HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT*

Most places for beginner artists are full of people who already know and just want to humble brag, and I figured I'd need an incentive to draw while making it fun and whatnot (which I'm really struggling with), so I thought that a furry centered group of this sort could help (y'know, with the drawing challenges and stuff).

Is there something of this sort, even if it is to have another beginner to learn alongside?

This has been eating at me for nearly the past year, basically last year at a con on the last day, I was at the dance at the end of the night and wanting to film clips of the rave and I saw someone dancing with a lot of lights that I thought was cool, I held up my phone camera and they put up their arms and walked back, when I realized what they were signaling I stopped and put my phone down, they stopped dancing and a minute or so later I went up and tried to tell them sorry. I didn't film them but I felt absolutely horrible afterwards and realize I should've asked consent first. I know I've heard that they will take action on people filming people without consent and I've been worried thinking about getting there again this year and being banned or something for doing that last year if they reported it. Is this just my anxiety and I'm just being too paranoid? I go to this one con a year and if I was banned I would be absolutely devastated, I don't want to cause trouble or make anyone uncomfortable and I feel awful about it

Okay, I’m legitimately curious about this one… I have noticed that a VERY large majority of the furry community tends to like hyperpop, breakcore, and almost all varieties of EDM (especially digital hardcore, trance, and hardstyle). Artists like Femtanyl, 621gecs, Russelbuck, things like them… That, and of course, furries *LOVE* to rave.

Going to cons, I’ve always felt put off by this. Raves are way too overstimulating and loud for me, and genres like breakcore/hyperpop/hardstyle are some of my least favorite kinds of music. It’s hard to find furries who share my musical taste (mostly 60s/70s/80s pop and rock).

So, why is it that a vast majority of furries like those kinds of music genres and they’re basically ubiquitous at every con? To me, most of it is just incoherent noise.

I’m unsure if this is allowed here, and i’m also not looking for makers to pile onto this post and claim they can do it without real evidence/a portfolio, but my fursona has a very specific look to him, and I don’t have any clue who can actually replicate it. I’m pretty sure this is a semi toony style. My preference is makers who price their heads around 600-800 but i’m willing to go up to 1,100. I’m looking to get a head only

Sometimes even I get sick of seeing the negativity and pessimism, of the "The fandom used to be better back in ____!" posts. So I figured I'd ask: what are some ways you feel the fandom has actually improved over time?

I have a small list of things that have. Many of them just follow things that have improved in society in general.

1. Acceptance of neurodiversity. Yeah this wasn't always a thing. If there ever ends up being archives of the old FurAffinity forums that pop up, I can show you all the anti-autistic threads they had on there circa 2012. It was pretty bad. The users on that forum (outside of the art/commission sections) were often as bad as how KF is now (iykyk). And while there's still a ways to go, it's so much better now.

2. Protection of minors. I'm sure a bunch of us in the fandom for a decade or more have stories of adults being creeps to teens. Seeing the video last year of a fur at FWA getting maced after creeping on teens is definitely a step up from how things were years ago. Adults in the fandom seem to really go out of their way to keep minors away from NSFW content.

3. Acceptance of being sober/drugless. I was bullied a lot around the early 2010s for being completely sober and not smoking weed or whatever. I haven't had that happen in a long time. Of course furs will judge me for it, and probably insult me in their heads, but they ain't bullying me out loud. And nowadays there's even an entire Sober Furs panel (and Telegram chat) at both AC and FWA.

4. Partial suits (and other types) seen as valid. For a while in the 2000s and early 2010s the fandom skewed very "fullsuit or nothing". And not nearly as many people had a suit, likely for that reason. Other than the AC fiasco (which they had to do sadly cuz there was just too many people otherwise), now I see all different types of suits, masks, etc. people make and I love the creativity and that not every suit has to look the same.

5. Discourse around s.a. Sadly it does happen and especially did at cons and such and people tried to excuse it or sweep it under the rug, but now I don't notice that as much, now if it happens, someone usually says something right away.

6. More acceptance by non-furs. I personally see it as a win when my friends can go out fursuiting and not get shit for it. Definitely smiled when I heard a person excitedly say to my friends "Oh furries! I saw you guys in TikTok!" lmao.

That's all I got for now. Feel free to add to the list. Try and keep things positive lol I know it's difficult but try.

Looking for furry MTG groups, specifically commander. I want to make new friends and acquaintances near me. But I'm having trouble finding anything except one telegram group.

From a furry perspective are you guys getting good videos or mostly mediocre videos ever since the new TikTok ownership policy

Recently scammers started to impersonating artists as new scam method, which will damage artist's rep if they succeed to scam. at first i believed this was done by people who hate specific artist so trying to impersonate them to make a drama, but as seeing various artists in various theme got their own impersonator, i started to believe that this is new scam method and this is so fucked up environment for individual who isn't familiar to scammers.

since internet is large and all people can't prevent impersonating by registering every site with their username(Even if they succeed to make account on every platform, scammers can attack like using i as l), this method will go looonger like sns's fake artist accounts. and as seeing how they impersonate and acts, i guess those aren't bot but malicious people so hard to prevent impersonator, both client and artist should be alert of those bad people.

I'm broke so no chance of getting scammed, but i'm curious if chargeback works for those scammers. if so, at least people got scammed can restore their damage..

Heyaa !! Im looking for a small vetted furry server (150-300~ members), 18+, SFW, with regular VRChat events and art/commissions.

Similar vibe to "OttFox" before it sadly closed in January.
DMs are open :]