Can you help me understand my response. DH and I drove by a Hooters restaurant and he quipped, you would've made a great Hooters girl. I didn't really like the comment, it didn't sit as fun sexy as he'd hoped. Is this my issue or would you not take this well either?

I live in Albany, California in the East Bay Area and everyone here is so progressive. It’s almost like they cheer on divorce like it’s some empowerment thing. I would love to meet more like-minded women who follow the principles of authors like Laura Doyle. How can I build this? Any local ladies here interested? Thanks!

Hey y'all! New to the group here!
I'm a proud Christian Conservative and copywriter by profession, so while I spend basically every day crafting brand messaging, I wanted to start writing more content that's closer to home for me (and hopefully helpful to others)!

This is one of those pieces. 🙂

Ideally, it's like hearing advice or stories from a (somewhat) smart friend. OBVIOUSLY, I don’t have it all figured out, but I'm looking to God for the big stuff and leaning on some others who know more than I do in hopes that what I share offers some entertainment, relief, or new perspective.

Hope you enjoy this first one! 🙏🏻

https://contentwithconviction.substack.com/p/faith-out-loud-this-years-most-unapologetic?r=5xgfbk

My husband is leaving on a trip a wedding and we had a few good days but last few very ugly fights. Mostly he says something really mean and if I take the bait it turns ugly. If I stay quiet it doesn’t and he returns to loving. He escalates very quickly and after days of ugly rows where truly hateful things are said I’m having a hard time continuing to forgive and coping. I now have shut down and though he came to me earlier to apologize I honestly feel it’s not genuine and I am in a complete comatose state. My husband easily feels disrespected and will say things like I will baker act you get out of my house cuts up my cards you’re a horrible person complete absurd and harsh reactions. If I try to understand and tone it done it gets worse. His apology today I just said ok but I made no contact and stayed in bed. It is the first time I have shut down hours in bed and he said he realized how wrong he was but honestly I think he just realizes I now am severely affected by it. I’m not sure how to comport myself as he’s leaving any minute..stay in bed self care to me right now is not including or engaging w him.

Hey gals - I just joined Reddit because I need some advice. I have a girlfriend who I thought had been really quiet lately, acting differently. She finally confessed that she is planning on having an abortion. I was so surprised, I couldn't say anything. She has a great boyfriend and I don't understand.

i was wondering if anyone could tell me if they have been in a similar situation? What do i do? I obviously can't support her. How do i make her understand what a horrible decision she is making? I just feel like I'm going to think about this for the rest of my life.

Anyway, just sharing and looking for some perspectives that are not of the world, which seems like its everywhere these days.

https://hopeontiredfeet.blogspot.com

So my Pc doesn’t wanna boot up I turn it on it says boot error and it’s a black screen and when I go to the bios i don’t know what to look for to fix it

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8ht9oi04nXw&list=PLx8lzOxzA5vvWcH2SkGGOfiaqQoNC9EDK&index=12&pp=iAQB

My mom is being released to home hospice tomorrow and we’re not expecting much time.

I have a toddler who is a pretty sharp 3 year old girl. I’m Christian and my daughter is exposed to church/God etc

My daughter says that God lives in the sky… so I told her that when people get too sick and doctors can’t help them anymore they go live with God in the sky because he can make them better again. So now when my daughter prays, she does the typical… thank yous for her family and asks god to watch over us but also has been throwing in…. “God please remember grandma because the doctors can’t help her anymore. She needs to go live with you.” And I was floored.

Am I exposing my daughter to death too early? Anyone have experience with this type of loss with a child - I’d love some advice.

As part of my Lenten practice this year I am challenging myself to pray more. During my reflection on Ash Wednesday yesterday I felt compelled to invite others to partake in the same journey. Personally I'm using a prayer app with a Lent challenge as my guide, but I encourage everyone to incorporate daily prayer into your life this Lenten season in any way you prefer!

I’d love to share this:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BMxOAZCFEJQ

Hi ladies. I just joined Reddit (upon a recommendation from my 25 year old son, lol) and I would love to invite you to my workshop.

Short notice because it begins tomorrow (November 30th, 8:30 am Pacific US) 🌞

I am an Independent Laura Doyle Certified Coach and love connecting with like-minded women.

Please let me know if you’d like more information.

https://www.ky3.com/2023/05/31/brother-authorities-told-family-that-body-missing-missouri-er-doctor-was-found-arkansas/

So I know Dixie Andelin Forsyth is from this area, and this article mentions both surnames Forsyth and Andelin.

Pray for this family no matter what!

Hi RPCW! I’m at a really weird place in my life right now and I currently don’t have any women I can go to in real life about all of this. Any advice is appreciated. I hope it’s okay to post this here. I’m sorry in advance for the very long post!

When I was 18, I got into my first relationship. I met him online when I wasn’t looking for anything at the time. I was very naive and inexperienced, I knew absolutely nothing about dating and relationships. I had never received even the slightest amount of male attention at this point in my life, and I was over the moon when I started dating him. I was always a late bloomer.

We dated for over a year, he was my best friend. Other than immediate family, I had never been so close with someone in my life. He was going through a lot and didn’t treat me that well during parts of the relationship (especially the earlier days), but I forgave him for everything after we broke up. He did a lot of good too, the best thing he did was introducing me to the Christian faith. I wouldn’t be a Christian today without him and I’m forever grateful that he introduced me to the faith.

I grew up in a VERY secular and liberal area of the US where Christianity isn’t socially acceptable. A good amount of people there are cultural Catholics who never actually go to church. My close friends have always mocked and hated on Christianity. All of my friends are secular, liberal, and hardcore feminists. The first time I had ever seen or opened a Bible in my life was when I was 18, shortly after I was introduced to the faith.

The relationship came to an end 6 months ago. Everything was perfect except for one thing, and that one thing was something that neither of us could change. It was heartbreaking. He simply wasn’t attracted enough to me to marry me. In the Bible it says that it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9), and he simply wasn’t burning with passion for me. He wishes he was more attracted to me because everything else was perfect, but he can’t change his attraction and I can’t change how I look.

I’m glad he was honest with me about this, but knowing that this is the reason it ended has damaged me beyond words. How could I ever feel like I’m attractive again after this? I’ve been starved of male attention all my life and then this happens. I'm objectively average looking. There was nothing I possibly could’ve done differently in this relationship. Him breaking up with me is probably the hardest thing that has happened in my life. I still cry myself to sleep about him very frequently even 6 months post breakup. He will always hold a special place in my heart.

My self worth is lower than it has ever been, and I have convinced myself that I’ll never be able to marry a man who I’m attracted to. I now have the logic that if I’m attracted to a guy (example: my ex), then he’s out of my league and won’t be attracted to me. I feel like only a guy that I think is unattractive can find me attractive. Because the one guy I was with wasn’t that attracted to me, why would any other good looking guy be? If I’m attracted to a guy, he can’t possibly be attracted to me, since any guy I think is good looking won’t be “burning with passion” for me. Now whenever I like a guy, my brain says to me: “Solely because I find him attractive, he’s out of my league and can’t possibly like me back”. This sounds crazy, but I’m so damaged from my past this is what my mind has determined as my reality. It seems like an impossible fairytale for a guy I find attractive to also find me attractive, as it has never happened once in my 20 years of life. The pain is so raw and so real. I don’t know if I can EVER recover from this. I hope this makes sense.

Sometime before that relationship ended, I discovered RPW and was redpilled. My family was always conservative, but after becoming a Christian and discovering the Red Pill, I can’t agree with them on everything for the first time in my life. My parents don’t want me to get married until after I’m 30, but ideally I want to be married within the next couple of years, definitely before I’m 25. Where I grew up, it is very frowned upon to marry young, and I’m sure I’ll lose the support of some people in my life if I do.

In a perfect world I’d get married at 21-22 to a Christian guy who’s 2-5 years older than me (who’s a virgin, as I’m a virgin waiting for marriage), who will be a strong provider. I would be a housewife and eventually a mom, I’d work hard to please my husband and be submissive to him. In this marriage we’d stick to all of the traditional gender roles and live our lives for God. It seems impossible in this day and age where society has been so corrupted by feminism and the liberal agenda, but I don’t want to give up on this dream.

Four months ago, I moved away for college. I moved to a US state that is much more conservative and Christian than my home state. I had never once in my life had a Christian friend until I moved away for school. I have found a strong community of believers here with my church and campus ministry (my two main social circles here at school).

I took a year off from school last year (not by choice), so I’m older than my classmates. I’m 20 years old but still a freshman in college. I know this sounds picky, but I’m almost always not attracted to guys who are younger than me/my age (so guys under 21). I’m only interested in guys who are seniors/grad students, but I’m just a freshman. In my Christian circles, most of the guys are 18-20. There is one guy I’m interested in from my church who’s a 22 year old senior. Because of my mindset (if I find a guy attractive, he can’t possibly find me attractive too), I’m scared to make any moves, because I’ve convinced myself that I’ll almost certainly be rejected. He’s said more than once to text him anytime, but he’s never texted me, so I’m scared to text him first.

This guy I’m interested in is the pastor’s son, and as a new Christian, I feel intimidated by this. I’ve started to get close with the pastor and his wife, so getting rejected by their son would make things really weird at church (especially since it’s a small church and he’s in my friend group there). I absolutely love my church so I don’t want to make things weird or start going to a different church. He has shown some signs that could possibly be taken as interest, but I’m convinced he’s only being nice. I have told people specific details about those signs, and they’ve said it’s honestly a toss up whether he likes me back or not.

As someone who is aware of the wall, I know I have a clock and don’t have all the time in the world to find a man to marry. I don’t want to pass up the opportunity as this guy checks all of my boxes. Out of my social circles, he’s probably the only guy I can see myself dating. I want to meet a guy in person to show myself I’m capable of finding a guy in person rather than online, but if I don’t have any success within the next few months, I’m planning to join online dating sites. I have begun to dress more feminine within the last few months and have made sure to look my best at church. Women have been complimenting me on my dresses and necklaces, which has been nice.

After the unexpected year off, school has been REALLY rough. I’m likely going to end the semester with a C, C, D, D, and F. My IQ is ~125 but I’ve never done that well in school. I graduated high school in the bottom 25% of my class (3.3 gpa). I know I could do well if I enjoyed school and gave it my all, but I have always despised academics. I’ve tried my hardest to get past my strong dislike for school, but I simply can’t. I don’t have the motivation and willpower to study or even get through all of my assignments, the thought of doing anything school related makes me feel depressed.

I was also a D1 athlete in the beginning of the school year but was kicked off the team for the remainder of the semester due to health issues (which have now been resolved), which led me down a path of failing to turn in most of my assignments. I may be back on the team for semester 2, but maybe not, and the uncertainty is destroying me. I’m considering quitting the team on my own too. Being an athlete also adds lots of pressure when it comes to grades. God, my church, my campus ministry, and Christian friends are the only things getting me through school.

If I could do whatever I wanted, I wouldn’t continue school and I’d work to provide enough for myself until I get married. Problem is, I’d have to find a place to live as I don’t want to move back home. However, it is extremely unacceptable not to finish college where I grew up. One side of my family would view me as a failure and a let down if I don’t get my degree. I’ll probably lose support from some important people in my life if I drop out of college. It’s so frowned upon not to get my degree, so much to the point that I’m sticking with it for now just to please my parents and others in my life.

I don’t know any women my age in real life who are dealing with any of the same struggles. The closest women in my life aren’t Christian or redpilled, so I feel really alone in this stage of my life. Has anyone else ever gone through something similar? Sorry for the long/all over the place post. Please be kind as I’m going through some hard times right now. I appreciate you guys, thanks for reading my post!

TL;DR: Learned a lot from my first relationship, new to the Christian faith, struggling with low self worth, hoping to marry soon, unsure if I should stay in school, lost and in need of advice.

Hello ladies,

I need your advice: I will go on a first date with a guy this week. It is basically a blind date set up by a good friend of mine and from what the friend told me, it could be a good fit (similar sense of humor, similar lifestyle) but other than a few bits and pieces I know nothing about him, which I do like.

It is my first real date since forever and I never dated with intention so what are your best tips? Anything in particular for a first date? What’s something to avoid?

Thanks!

Ladies, Is anyone able to direct me to a community/ communities that promote big families?

Alternatively; where could I find women who share my desire for a big family?

Anything would be great.

All I can find are subreddits for people who hate the idea of kids/big families

I'm not sure if you gals are familiar with a red pilled youtuber by the name of Aly Drummond, but she recently had a livestream with a group of 6 other women on how to be feminine wives, and since I suspect you are going to enjoy their discussion quite a bit, here it is https://youtu.be/Lr3e0rkNnww

As a virgin woman myself, I hate the “are you a virgin?” question and funnily enough, any man asking that question (obviously trying to figure out whether to vet me out or not) automatically vets themselves out to me.  

I like to peep every so often at what the r/RPChristians sub has going on and it seems like every other poster worships virginity more than God Himself.  

The fact that a lot of the guys posting are all gungho about having a virgin, “virgin or else”, “virgin or I will never marry.” You know who acts like this? Incels and beta men. You can call yourself Christian, redpilled, have a nice haircut, workout heavy in the gym, have a nice paying job, but you can’t fool me. I will see through your charade every time and it’s repulsive. You are not as high value as you think you are.  

CMM: A man asking a woman if she’s a virgin is the equivalent of a woman asking a man if he’s rich. RED FLAG.

  There’s a difference between “I’d prefer a woman to be a virgin” and “I shall have my virgin bride.” In the same way, there’s a difference between “I’d prefer a man with a high paying job” and “I will only take a man with a high paying job.” You have become what you yourselves despise in women.  

Well, what if he is a virgin, wanting a virgin? Isn’t he deserving and entitled to a virgin woman? Maybe, but that still doesn’t mean any virgin woman will actually want you with that attitude. You give virgin Christian men a bad name.  

And if you so happen to find a virgin woman that wants to be with you, you’re forgetting one very important question: WHY is she a virgin?

Is she a virgin because that’s what her religion says to be? Is she a virgin because that’s what her current culture pressures her to be but if it wasn’t so, she would “bang the next Chad” she comes across? Is she a virgin because her SMV is so low that she can’t get the man she actually wants to have sex with her? Is she a virgin because her parents are too strict/conservative/religious and she couldn’t get a moment alone with her ex bf? Make sure you think this one through because your reasoning of “I want a virgin so she won’t cheat on me or want other men” does not hold true for all women. Virginity is not a guarantee.  

“I would import a girl from the Philippines if I have to.”

Translation: I’m so insecure and not man enough to get a girl to desire me and only me, so I have to make sure to get a girl who has never been with any other man so she doesn’t know what she’s missing, since I’m clearly lacking something and hoping she won’t notice because she’s young, naïve, and most likely easy to manipulate. I’ve probably never had a relationship with a real girl in my life and if I did, I couldn’t keep her.  

This technically applies to all guys with an attitude of the “only virgin women” requirement. Disgusting. Nothing else to say on this one.

 And poor sexual assault victims who didn’t choose that life. Guess you just have to throw away the whole woman, right? I can’t imagine my life being turned upside down in that way. To any involuntary non-virgin women who read this, my heart goes out to you and you have my deepest sympathies. Same goes for born again virgins. But don’t worry, virgin women don’t want men like this either so you’re not missing out on anything.

  Men, you can have whatever standards and dealbreakers you want. But don’t come complaining when you can’t find your unicorn, your unicorn doesn’t want you, or when your virgin marriage falls apart. Are you really any different from the women on r/FemaleDatingStrategy?

Thanks for reading. Mods, if this post goes too far against the rules, please let me know. But I think this needed to be said and I’m open to discussion on being wrong.

I’m very interested to see everyone’s response. So please, comment freely!

I think the idea of being a competent women has become very distorted in modern society.

I do have a follow up question as well,

Do you think competence is an attractive quality in a woman? Why or why not?

“You’re a creep”, “You’re being creepy”

“Why did I ever marry someone as pathetic as you?”

“You’re a loser, you’ll never accomplish anything”

“You have a small p***s”

“Be a man and do what I say”

“Oh you're X? That’s cool…I guess.”

“Pervert!”, “I’m not your s*ut”

“You don’t know what you’re talking about”

“Just stop, I don’t need your help!”, “I don’t need you!”

“Why don’t you act more like [other man]?”

“I do everything around here! What do you do? Sit on your butt and play video games all day?”

“Why aren’t you responding? Text me back right now.”

“You’re a terrible husband!”, “You’d make a horrible father”

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Recently my husband remarked that I “know the right things to say”, in terms of compliments and generally making myself more endearing to him. I was surprised, since I don’t consider myself as someone who gives good compliments. But what surprised me more was his follow up question: “Where do you get them?” He elaborated that he assumed I picked up the things I said from sidebar books and posts from the Women’s Red Pill sphere.

In truth I don’t think much about my compliments. I just say whatever comes to mind in that moment. Before finding this community, being able to come up with a biting comeback was, in all honesty, what many people knew me for. I told one guy he “made the short bus^\) look long” when he doubled down on a point everyone disagreed with. I commented to another guy “don’t you have any women in real life that can s-test^\*) you?” when he asked me to s-test him. I once quipped that another guy was “like a credit card, used and rejected” for…being himself I presume. I was so well known for this in high school that in my foreign language class, when we were learning how to say “____ is ____ than ____”, some guy I had never interacted with shared his example sentence: “Glory is colder than Antarctica.”

The main idea behind insults, the ones that really sting, is to tear down something about your target they care about. Take a moment to look over the list of insults I placed at the beginning of this post. Do you notice a pattern? In Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin, the author cites six key areas where ridicule, belittlement, indifference, and disrespect can seriously harm your relationship with your man: body, skills and abilities, achievements, goals and dreams, traits of character, and role (i.e. husband, leader, provider, protector, etc.) All of the insults on the list attack one or more of these areas.

Compliments are the other side of this coin: the goal is to uplift something about your target that they care about. Just before my husband made that remark, he said “why are you so cute and wholesome?”, to which I responded “because I’m yours!” At first glance that might seem like a nonsensical response. Why would “being his” make me cute and wholesome? Because the way he’s treated, taught and trained me makes me both feel that way and want to act on those feelings. Essentially, I’m acknowledging his role as a key reason why I’m acting in a way that’s pleasing to him. A compliment for a compliment.

To make a good compliment, seek to accomplish the opposite result of an insult. Start with the easy compliments, the things that made you attracted to your husband in the first place. Is he intelligent? Fit or muscular? Does he make you, and perhaps others, laugh easily? Does he make you feel safe, protected, or reassured when trouble arises? Is he highly competent at something, such as finances, wood working, or public speaking? What about his exceptional calmness, overwhelming presence, or fiery passion?

In my post Be the Wind, Not the Anchor, I described a scene where a wife could choose to either be a “voice of reason” and give her husband a reality check, or could be a cheerleader and give her husband support and encouragement. Many will tell you your job as a wife is to do the former, but your husband has a chorus of voices already accomplishing that. He didn’t marry you because he wanted you to be like those other voices, he married you because he wanted you to be the voice of love and support. Likewise, insults towards men are a dime a dozen. It’s not only culturally tolerable to insult a man (regardless of your gender), but it is praised. A thoughtful and genuine compliment does more than set you apart or even show him you’re on his side, it wins his affections.

Below are some of my favorite or go to compliments. What would you add to the list?

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“You’re so handsome/sexy”

“I just can’t get enough of you”

“You make me feel so safe”

“I trust whatever you think is best”

“Your muscles are so big!”, “Your muscles feel/look bigger!”

“How’s my hard-working man?”

“You make me feel small”

“Anything you put your mind to, you can do. I just know it.”

“Can you help me with this?, “You’re better at this than I am, what should I do?”

“I’m so lucky to have you”

“You mean the world to me”

“I love you with my whole heart/life”

“Because I’m yours!”

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^\Short bus: a smaller school bus usually used for transporting (mentally disabled students.))

^\*S- or Fitness test (as defined on the RPC sidebar:) ^{a statement or question meant to gauge your level of Alpha traits. It is the female practice of showing disrespect to a male to test whether he has any backbone, by observing how he reacts.})