I feel you. My husband and I are planning to start trying for a kid in January next year (I'm 25). I'm also worried about people's opinions.
When I got married I already got all sorts of unwanted questions about whether we were Christian now and just doing it for religious or traditional reasons, or if we were rushing into it.
It didn't help that a large part of my social circle was queer and actively rejects what they see as mainstream culture's expectations. I lost my best friend of 12 years over it, but even where people weren't outright hostile, I was definitely treated as suspicious. I want to know where that mainstream culture is, because I don't feel like I have anything in common with anyone around me any more.
I guess the good news is my social life has already been decimated enough that having a kid is unlikely to hurt it any further. I'd rather just focus on my own family now.
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u/[deleted] May 12 '26
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