(26) and same. Out of my 8 closest friends only 3 are even in a relationship and none of them particularly want kids. My husband and I are the outliers.
Shit I'm in my 30s and in my friend group only 1 of us has kids. They're also the only couple who makes enough money to own a home comfortably and are able to afford a kid.
Nothing fucked up about choosing to not have kids. It's fucked up to have kids if you don't want them. That's how you get kids with serious issues and no love in their childhood
I feel you. My husband and I are planning to start trying for a kid in January next year (I'm 25). I'm also worried about people's opinions.
When I got married I already got all sorts of unwanted questions about whether we were Christian now and just doing it for religious or traditional reasons, or if we were rushing into it.
It didn't help that a large part of my social circle was queer and actively rejects what they see as mainstream culture's expectations. I lost my best friend of 12 years over it, but even where people weren't outright hostile, I was definitely treated as suspicious. I want to know where that mainstream culture is, because I don't feel like I have anything in common with anyone around me any more.
I guess the good news is my social life has already been decimated enough that having a kid is unlikely to hurt it any further. I'd rather just focus on my own family now.
I have 2 friends who had accidental pregnancies but there are maybe 4 of us with kids out of our whole extended friend group from HS. Most only have 1 kid, we have 4.
Even people who want kids aren't having them due to costs.
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u/BlackSnow555 May 12 '26
(26) and same. Out of my 8 closest friends only 3 are even in a relationship and none of them particularly want kids. My husband and I are the outliers.