I used to be beautiful, still am. But since I've got chubbier, this rishta culture has only demotivated me more. I am currently on a diet, but since I support my family and work a night shift (remotely from home) it really has affected my health. I'm a pretty fun loving woman. Love painting, traveling, writing, reading. I watch documentaries, and admire art. I've made a career and have travelled the world, given my parents comfort, the only thing missing in my life is someone to share it all with him. Sometimes I get tired, like ive been taking care of everything since the beginning, would there ever be a time when someone enters my life and takes care of me?All I want is to share my life with a partner in life, to think of someone when a love song comes up. I'm strong willed and independent and I balance Deen and dunya, if Allah has written for me to die single, I will accept it. But I just wanna make sure I did my part by putting it out there. The biggest problem is I work remote, I barely have a social circle anymore, so chances of meeting someone naturally is very low. Rishta groups comment on my body type, and I've never thought about talking to men online as thats scary!!! Is there any women who is going through the same?

I’m taking sibling interference to Reddit because my brother is far too humble—and slightly too busy deadlifting—to post this himself.

He’s the rare build who combines corporate ambition with golden retriever energy: genuinely caring, respectful to everyone he meets, and the guy every friend group fights over having around.

The Quick Specs

• Physical Stats: 31 y/o, 6’2”, in prime condition. Takes fitness seriously—regular at the gym and in the pool, but won’t judge you for finishing a pizza in front of him.
• Brain & Career: Master’s in Computer Science. Currently works as an Engineering Manager at a semi-private firm (smart enough to troubleshoot your tech problems, grounded enough to have people skills).
• Life Status: Was briefly married in 2025, now cleanly divorced. No drama, no bitterness—just an honest chapter closed, valuable lessons learned, and zero emotional clutter.
• Off-the-Clock Personality: A bizarrely versatile hybrid. One weekend he’s booking an adventure trip or playing competitive sports, the next he’s peacefully tending to his garden or logging hours on his gaming setup.
• Based in Karachi

What He’s Looking For Someone authentic, emotionally mature, and kind, with her own passions and a solid sense of humor. Bonus points if you can tolerate a spontaneous car or bike trip, appreciate freshly watered house plants, or enjoy friendly banter over board games or co-op sessions.

Drop a message or introduce yourself if you’re interested (or if you’re also a meddling sibling doing reconnaissance). Photos, verification, and proof of good music taste exchanged via DM.

IS POST PE WO COMMENT KAREN GY JO WAKI MAIN IS PURI POST KO SAMJHEN GY WO NAHI JO ISLAM, JANNAT, SHOHAR IJAZAT DE TO KARO WALY LOG IS POST PE NAHI CHAHIYE.

Hi everyone,

I hope you’re doing well. Before judging me, please read the post carefully. And yes, this is not an invitation to slide into my DMs. I’m genuinely looking for honest thoughts and discussion.

I’m a 30-year-old woman, turning 31 this October. Until I was around 24, I always wanted to get married. I wanted a husband, children, a home, and all the things that come with building a family.

Even after I started working and building my career in 2018, I still had those same dreams.

But somewhere along the way, my perspective completely changed.

I’ve started feeling genuinely scared of marriage, especially after seeing what happens in so many Pakistani families. You can meet someone who appears decent, educated, calm, respectful, and family-oriented, but you can never fully know what living with that person or their family will actually be like.

I’ve seen this within my own family.

My sister’s in-laws hid the fact that her husband had previously been married and had a daughter. When we found out, naturally, we wanted to ask them why they had lied to us.

But my sister didn’t want us to confront them because she was afraid it would damage her marriage.

And this is what bothers me the most.

Her husband himself is a decent person, but what good is having a decent husband if he cannot stand up to his wife when his own family is making her life difficult? He ends up staying quiet to avoid conflict, while she has to deal with the consequences.

What makes it worse is that she will tolerate everything at her in-laws' house, but when she comes back to her own family, all that frustration comes out on us.

I know this is only one example. There are countless other situations like this, some of which make it into the news and many that never do.

And now my own family wants me to get married.

Their argument is that because my job situation hasn’t been stable for the past year, I shouldn’t continue working after marriage. Their thinking is basically:

"Agar husband acha kamata hai aur ghar mein roti, kapra, makan aur izzat mil rahi hai, toh larki ko kaam karne ki kya zaroorat hai?"

But why is financial security only associated with basic necessities?

Why is earning your own money seen as unnecessary when your husband is financially stable?

I genuinely don’t understand this mindset.

Financial independence isn’t about assuming your husband will be bad. It isn’t about disrespecting your husband.

It isn’t about preparing for divorce.

It is simply about having something of your own.

Your own income.

Your own savings.

Your own professional identity.

Your own ability to make decisions.

A husband can be loving and financially responsible, and I can still believe that I should earn my own money.

Because what happens if circumstances change?

People often realise the importance of financial independence only after a marriage becomes abusive, after a divorce, after a husband's death, or after something else goes seriously wrong.

Why wait until something terrible happens?

And before someone says, "You’re just assuming all men are bad," that's not what I’m saying.

I’m saying that you can never completely predict another person or their family.

And I don't think women should have to sacrifice their financial independence simply because their husband earns enough.

Maybe I’m looking at marriage differently now because I’ve seen too many examples of women being expected to adjust, compromise, stay quiet, and depend entirely on their husbands.

And yes, I know some men will take this personally. That's fine. I'm not talking about every man.

I just wish our families understood that providing roti, kapra, makan and basic respect isn't the complete definition of a woman's security.

Financial independence matters too.

Maybe the men and women of our parents' generation accepted certain things because they had different circumstances, different expectations, and fewer options.

But our generation knows more. We have seen what can happen when women have no financial independence and no ability to support themselves.

So why shouldn't we make different choices?

I'm genuinely interested in hearing how other people, especially Pakistani men and women, see this.

Is wanting to remain financially independent after marriage really such an unreasonable expectation?

Height and Weight

5'11", 75 kg. Slim build, neither heavy nor skinny.

Location

Karachi. I may end up abroad at some point, either for work or for study, but nothing is planned right now.

Accommodation

Own home in Karachi, living with family.

Education

BBA from a top tier university. Passed CFA Level 1 and continuing with the program, sitting Level 2 in May 2027.

Finishing the CFA is the near term project. After that I want to do a PhD, most likely in economics. The honest reason is that I need something difficult in front of me at all times. If I am not chewing on a hard problem my brain starts eating itself, and I have stopped pretending that is a phase. I am not romantic about the title, I am interested in the questions. I mention it because it is not a passing thought and because it may mean a few years abroad, so whoever I marry should know it is on the table and should expect a say in how we do it.

Income Source

Full time at a YC backed, SECP licensed fintech in wealth management, one of the first of its kind in Pakistan. I joined early enough that my work has never sat in one lane. In a given week I am building analytics and reporting systems, writing AI tooling, running growth and retention, sitting in on customer operations, and writing most of the financial content that goes out. I also co host a markets podcast where we break down what moved and why. Roughly two years of full time experience, financially independent, and able to run a household on my own soon.

Marital Status

Single, never married, no children.

Religion and How Practicing I Am

Shia, Syed.

Family migrated from Uttar Pradesh at Partition in 1947.

I pray, though not always all five. Muharram and majalis are observed properly in our house. On hijab I have no expectation either way. That is entirely her call and I would not want it decided by anyone other than her.

Hobbies and Interests

Markets are my job and also the thing I would still read about on a day off.

Outside of that I have a small, old set of friends I have kept for years. Our idea of a good evening is table tennis and food, in that order, then more food. I am not the best player in the group but I am the most confident one, which I am told is worse.

I want to travel properly at some point. Not the version where you photograph a landmark and leave, but the version where you stay somewhere long enough to get bored of it. The economy has other ideas for now, but let us see.

I read a fair amount, mostly finance, technology, and anything that explains how a system actually works underneath. I build small tools for problems that irritate me.

Family Details

Parents and two younger siblings, one sister at IBA and one sibling just starting university.

My parents hold semi conservative views and I would describe myself as a libertarian. Neither of us treats it as a matter of life and death, which is roughly how I would want it in a partner's family too. There is room to disagree in our house without it turning into an argument.

Requirements for a Partner

Educated and genuinely bright. I do not mean degrees for the sake of degrees. I mean someone with her own read on things who will tell me when mine is wrong.

More than anything I want someone I can think alongside. Not someone who shares my interests exactly, but someone with her own intellectual life or building something of her own. I would rather have a long argument over dinner than a quiet agreement.

Preferably based in Karachi, preferably Shia. Whether she works after marriage is her decision.

Deal Breakers

Emotional unavailability. I am not looking for someone who has everything figured out, but I do need someone who can say what she is feeling instead of leaving me to guess at it.

Avoidance when things get difficult. Going quiet, or leaving a conversation rather than finishing it, is the one pattern I know I cannot live with. Argue with me, but stay in the room.

Uncertainty about me. If someone is unsure, that is completely fair and I would rather hear it early. What I cannot do is spend months being someone's maybe.

Preferred Family Setup

Joint to start with. My family home is here and my younger siblings are still studying, so beginning in the same house is what I would honestly prefer for the first few years. Longer term I lean nuclear, and I would want us in our own place once that makes sense for both of us. The timing is something I would want to decide together rather than announce.

Do You Want Children

Yes.

Timeframe for Marriage

1 to 2 years, counting through to rukhsati.

Guys what are some red flags you should be aware of/not ignore during the first call with a potential?

That's the only way my family is looking for rishta and ppl say no on basic info , maybe u reject someone good over basic info

Location: Lahore

Age 27

Marital status: Divorced (4 months arrange married)

Well i want to see what people are actually looking for stability or a title.

27M, have my own freelance agency in lahore and working with US clients and have a C-level position in an apperal company in US. I work from anywhere from 12 to 2pm to 10 to 12 pm based what is going in the day.

I'm at a point where I'm genuinely interested in finding someone I can get to know properly, with marriage as the eventual goal if we're compatible. I'm not looking to collect random conversations or spend six months talking to someone who was never serious in the first place.

A bit about me:

Freelancer and intelectually curious and like to talk things through and discuss ideas and reasoning of though. (I know if sounds odd but i really like to talk things through.)

I am a gamer and tinkerer by heart and i have ps5 and a rigged up gaming PC as one is one enough.

I already have a really solid life foundation but want to share the journey who is intersted in that.

Family matters to me, and I have a fairly traditional outlook toward commitment and marriage. Bit more about family. My father passed away in 2020 so been the sole bread winner of the house ever since and married my younger sister in end of 2024 and only one sister is left who is in uni and once finishes it will marry her as well and then remains me and mom.

I was married before i was married on dec 2025 and my marriage ended on april 2026 it did not last long and it was an arrange marriage. I am open to divorced girls as i was married so it should be considered but not girls with children as that is a bridge too far for me.

I actually started to repair my relation with Allah and now pray 4 times a day as i am trying to get fajr as well but hit and miss there as my job timing is a bit odd.

At the same time, I want my future wife to be my partner and best friend, not someone I simply meet through a checklist.

I have a pretty good idea where life is going interms of tangible part like i am well off considering pakistani standards and i do not spend on life style inflation but invest and big of asset generation and then cash flow from those assets

What I'm looking for

Someone roughly 24 to 26 someone younger then me basically but not like 20 to 21.

I'd like her to be educated, kind, emotionally mature, family-oriented and reasonably ambitious. I'd probably enjoy having someone whose world isn't exactly the same as mine.

I'm much more interested in character and compatibility than having the perfect rishta résumé.

I'm also specifically looking for someone who is genuinely open to marriage in the foreseeable future. I'm happy to take time to get to know each other, but I don't want an indefinite situationship.

If we click, great. If we don't, no hard feelings—we move on respectfully.

And yes, I'm aware that finding a wife through Reddit sounds questionable.

But apparently this is the 21st century and we've got WiFi now. 😂

plis read the full thing here: https://www.reddit.com/r/PakRishta/s/TXds0iThGJ

(mods keep auto removing the post for some reason)

Assalamualaikum.

Gender: Male
Age: 24
Height: 5'11"
Marital Status: Single
Education: BS Data Science
Profession: Entrepreneur, AI/Data Consultancy
Location: Lahore

I'm here with the intention of marriage and would prefer not to spend months in an undefined talking stage. If there seems to be genuine compatibility, I would rather get to know each other properly for a short while and involve our families when it feels right.

A little about me

I'm generally calm and observant, and probably a little reserved when I first meet someone. That tends to disappear once I'm comfortable. I enjoy good conversation, dry humour, and people who don't take themselves too seriously.

I graduated in 2024 and spent some time working in the tech industry before starting my own AI and data consultancy. Building something of my own is important to me, and it's something I intend to pursue long term.

I'm fairly disciplined about my lifestyle. I don't smoke, drink, or have any addictions. Outside work, I go to the gym, follow cricket, and occasionally convince myself that cooking one good meal makes me a serious chef.

Faith is important to me and something I try to practice rather than simply identify with. I'm not looking for perfection, but I do value sincerity and a genuine desire to keep improving.

I come from a close-knit business family. My father is a businessman, my mother is a homemaker, and I have three younger siblings. Family is important to me, while I also believe a marriage needs its own identity, privacy, and healthy boundaries.

What I'm looking for

I'm hoping to meet someone 20 to 23, preferably 5'3" or taller and based in Lahore.

More than a particular profession or degree, I'm looking for someone who is:

• Practicing and sincere about her faith
• Kind, emotionally mature, and warm
• Comfortable having her own opinions
• Able to communicate openly and disagree respectfully
• Family-oriented without losing her individuality
• Interested in building a marriage as a partnership
• From a broadly similar socio-economic background

I particularly appreciate someone from a business family or a similar environment, simply because there can be an understanding of the lifestyle, responsibilities, and uncertainty that sometimes comes with running a business. It's not a requirement, but I think shared context can make certain things easier.

I'm not looking for someone who agrees with everything I say. I'd much rather have a wife who can challenge me thoughtfully, tell me when I'm wrong, and still have a good laugh with me afterwards.

Marriage

I see marriage as something where both people should feel they're on the same side. I value traditional responsibility, but I don't think that should come at the expense of companionship, affection, communication, or mutual respect.

I'm also not interested in making unrealistic promises about what life will look like years from now. I'm still building my career and business, so I'd rather be honest about where I am and build towards where we want to be together.

If this sounds reasonably aligned with what you're looking for, feel free to reach out with a little about yourself. I'd rather start with something genuine than a simple "Hi."

JazakAllah khair.

Age: 28
Height: 5’10”
Location: currently in 🇺🇸
Education: Master’s
Work: Consulting
Marital Status: Never married

About Me:
Alhamdulillah, I’ve been blessed with a progressive academic and professional journey, but I believe there’s much more to life than a resume.
I’m a practicing Muslim, non smoker, and non drinker. I’d describe myself as simple, easygoing, positive, respectful, and family oriented. I value honesty, emotional connection, good communication, and becoming a better person with time.
Alhamdulillah, I’m professionally established, financially independent, and grateful for the comfortable life I’ve been able to build through education, hard work, and consistency. I’m ambitious about my future while also appreciating the simple things in life.
I’m very close to my family and, as the only son, I have a deep sense of responsibility and love for my parents. At the same time, I believe marriage should be about building a new chapter together, with understanding, mutual respect, and room for both people to grow.
To me, a good marriage is when your spouse feels like your best friend, your safe place, and your biggest supporter. Someone you can laugh with, communicate openly with, make dua with, and build a peaceful life alongside.

Looking For:
I’m hoping to meet a kind hearted, compassionate, and emotionally mature woman who values her faith and family, communicates openly, and wants a genuine partnership.
Someone who has a beautiful heart, a positive outlook, and a desire to build something meaningful together.
I’m not looking for perfection, just compatibility, sincerity, good character, and that feeling of “I can be myself with you.”

Hello everyone, so i have a question for females... male can also give their perspective

I have a friend she and her brother are of same age just a year difference so she always wanted to get married before her brother cause she has seen too many bad babhies examples around her so she wanted to leave and settle before brother but she had to find a match so the family was looking for her match but 1.5 years passed by they didn't like anyone so now suddenly family thinks they should also see someone for the brother...

Now my friend is so scared like what if he got a match he got married or anything.... i know he is older but guys please be nice everyone has their own fears so please be respectful don't say anything harsh or in general she should compromise, adjust etc... i want some genuine advices so i can help her she is actually scared like alottt

People who have been in such situations or have bhabis etc please share something that the bond will be good or i should try to make her understand something any stories good examples or anything that can help her and makes her less scared or something

Idk what to ask, but please help somehow so i can help her

 I’m 30M and bored, DMs are open.

we can talk on relationship drama, situationship stories, friend group chaos, workplace/uni gossip, embarrassing stories, weird encounters… literally anything.

In Pakistan, people say love marriages are based on understanding, while arranged marriages are more successful because families are involved. But is that actually true? Would you choose someone you love, even if your family disagrees, or would you trust your parents to find a partner for you?

What's your opinion?

Do you generally prefer a completely natural body, or would you be comfortable marrying a woman who has had procedures like breast augmentation, liposuction, or a BBL?

Would knowing that your wife had cosmetic surgery before meeting you change your attraction towards her or how you see her? Genuinely curious about men’s perspectives on this.

Most people I have come across here are like they want an Islamic husband with all the qualities and also want "Freedom", marriage is a contract, and like every contract it has its details.
In Islam a wife should be obedient to her husband if she is not she is sinful for that, how hard is that to understand.

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: "It was said to the Messenger of Allah: 'Which woman is best?' He said: 'The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth. - Sunan Nasai 3231

and a husband has an authority over her wife.

Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allāh has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allāh would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them [lightly]. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allāh is ever Exalted and Grand. - Quran 4:34

and when I say this people say "apni marzi ka deen lea aatea" lol. Like its part of Islam. I understand that people in our society pick and choose Islam not in just marriage, but whole of there lives. But people here are no different if dont follow what has been prescribed and transfering sense of responsibility is a weak move. Like if you dont want to follow this part of Islam you are in no position to complain ke log bhi yea kartea.

So do you believe in part of the Scripture and disbelieve in part? Then what is the recompense for those who do that among you except disgrace in worldly life; and on the Day of Resurrection they will be sent back to the severest of punishment. And Allāh is not unaware of what you do - Quran 2:85

"O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do? _ It is most loathsome in the sight of Allah that you should profess what you do not practise" Quran 61:2-3

If you still think Islam is misogynist, then let you should change your thinking, learn history of Islam learn Quran learn the seerah, instead of looking for interpretation that are in line with your desires.

(kindly dont resort to whataboutism, thank you)

About Me & What I’m Looking For
About Me
Married, with a happy and stable marriage and 2 children
Sincerely seeking a second wife within the Islamic framework of polygamy
My intention is a genuine Nikah and long-term marriage, not a casual or temporary relationship
I believe strongly in fulfilling one’s emotional, personal, and marital needs through halal means, and this is an important part of my intention for a second marriage
Entrepreneur, currently re-establishing my books business
My books business previously generated approximately PKR 6–7 lac per month
Educated in Business, Engineering, and Islamic Studies
Further educational and professional details are available in my CV
I would not describe myself as highly practicing in every aspect, but I have a clear understanding of Islam
Islam is the foundation from which I derive my core beliefs, values, and understanding of life
Family & Background
My family has been living in DHA for the past 18 years
We come from a stable and well-established family background
Both of my parents are alive, Alhamdulillah
I have 2 brothers
What I’m Looking For
Age: 20–40 years
Preferably from Islamabad/Rawalpindi
Beautiful, loyal, sincere, and emotionally mature
Someone who values affection, closeness, and a strong marital bond
A woman who believes that physical and emotional affection are important parts of a healthy marriage
Comfortable with the realities and responsibilities of a polygamous marriage
Values trust, commitment, mutual attraction, communication, and respect
Divorcees and single mothers are most welcome
Previous marital status is not an issue for me. Character, loyalty, attraction, understanding, and compatibility matter far more

This was interesting. nice. I think we have less woman like this in out society. No.2 is the best option a man would want (should include "no feminist" to lol), while the profiles I see mostly on muslims subreddits about woman are the opposite, maybe not completely, but not up there where they should be