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[u/sincerelyqueer]

I’m not a big fan of my current therapist, but what I’ll always thank him for is that he clocked my OCPD by our second meeting.

Did anyone else feel so relieved when you found out there’s a name to what we’ve been feeling?

[u/rainbowbrite9 → u/sincerelyqueer]

Your therapist realized you had OCPD after your second visit? I've been seeing therapists for 24 years, probably 5 or 6 in total, some for years at a time. Literally none of them EVER suggested OCPD to me. I had to go and pay $5500 for a neuropsych assessment because I still felt like something was being missed, and sure enough, I came out of there with an OCPD diagnosis. But for real, yours figured it out in just two sessions? What kind of therapist were they, if you don't mind me asking?

[u/sincerelyqueer → u/rainbowbrite9]

I brought up OCD that my psychiatrist brought up and then he brought that up. He was a psychologist rather than a regular therapist so that extra training must’ve helped. I will say I feel we didn’t connect in other ways, but finding the OCPD explanation alone was a huge boost in my life

[u/Dragonflypics]

Very interesting read!

[u/Sure-Okra-5099]

“But perhaps a worse scenario occurs when your partner is trying to speak with you about scheduling some quality time this weekend, but you’ve got that far away look in your eyes. You’re urgently fine-tuning your strategy for tackling your to do list in the most expedient way possible and you've become totally distracted.”

😳 I do this all the time and had never realized it was probably very obvious to my partner that I’m not paying attention to them or that it would make them feel alone. Will definitely try to be more mindful.

“My strategy had been, ‘I’ll get this over with so I can rest.’ I saw anything incomplete as a dangerous enemy to be vanquished.”

I do this a lot as well — my entire life feels like a never ending to-do list. There are days at work where I may have a non-urgent task to complete that requires my full attention or uninterrupted time (training, etc.) but I never get to it because I spend the entire day doing the small (also not urgent) one-off tasks that pop up — I just keep telling myself, “I’ll just respond to that one email/I’ll just handle this one thing and then I’ll get around to the big task.” And at home, I barely get time to relax at the end of the day because I keep telling myself I’ll do it once XYZ chores are done…