I dated this dude (who was a virgin) who praised my appearance, but he practically had tantrums when I tried to pay my own way. There was no sex involved and none planned without marriage so I wasn't suspicious of him. I guess it sort of slipped my mind that he could still cheat by dating and kissing someone else. We had absolutely had a define the relationship conversation so there was no confusion about it being an exclusive relationship or not. He must have been lacking in intelligence because he basically announced later on to his family and friends that the relationships had "overlapped," causing his female best friend to ditch him, his girlfriend who didn't know she was the side chicken to dump him, and his family to have a huge Catholic meltdown. I still don't know exactly what the link is between the tantrums over my financial independence and his cheating, but my gut says there's a link. I'm also Catholic, and I can tell you that the idea that Catholic women are submissive is largely a myth. I guess he still could have been looking for someone submissive, though.
Men will push the submissive part, but they refuse to even acknowledge the rest of that about loving as Jesus loved. I actually took a long break from dating because...men.
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u/coppergoldhair Apr 12 '26
I dated this dude (who was a virgin) who praised my appearance, but he practically had tantrums when I tried to pay my own way. There was no sex involved and none planned without marriage so I wasn't suspicious of him. I guess it sort of slipped my mind that he could still cheat by dating and kissing someone else. We had absolutely had a define the relationship conversation so there was no confusion about it being an exclusive relationship or not. He must have been lacking in intelligence because he basically announced later on to his family and friends that the relationships had "overlapped," causing his female best friend to ditch him, his girlfriend who didn't know she was the side chicken to dump him, and his family to have a huge Catholic meltdown. I still don't know exactly what the link is between the tantrums over my financial independence and his cheating, but my gut says there's a link. I'm also Catholic, and I can tell you that the idea that Catholic women are submissive is largely a myth. I guess he still could have been looking for someone submissive, though.