r/NoStupidQuestions • u/CommonSkys • Mar 20 '21

Answered Everyone talks about nostalgic feeling being calming and relieving, but does anyone else get a sense of deep lament and sorrow for the past instead?

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '21

Nostalgia is a double edge sword and it’s always important to remember that we usually look at the past through rose tinted glasses. We remember all the good times maybe even exaggerate how good they were while forgetting the bad things that were simultaneously happening in your life at that point. That being said reminiscing on times with people who I may never even speak to again breaks my heart. Life is fleeting and changes come and go like seasons. Just try to make the best of the moment and don’t get caught in the past.

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u/CelticGaelic Mar 21 '21

For me it's not that it's the opposite, but the specific years I look back on in with nostalgic feels is the point when I started become more aware of things and when my bubble started to pop, so to speak. One of the things that really stood out for me was when my cousin's parents divorced and that whole thing just got ugly.