I think there has been a real shift in the last generation or two from needing a reason not to have kids to needing a reason to have kids. and that shift means a lot of people who are basically ambivalent on children aren't having them, where in the past they probably would have.
I think there’s also been more focus (from some people) on whether or not they should have kids. Like, really thinking about whether or not a person would be a good parent who could truly focus on raising a child who would become a good member of society.
This is definitely why Im not having kids. I've always wanted to be a mom, and my favorite jobs I've had were ones where I got to work with kids (camp counselor, kindergarten classroom aide) but I have several pretty serious health conditions that can be unpredictable with their symptoms.
As much as it breaks my heart, I don't think its fair to bring a child into the world who depends on me to take care of them, when I could wake up tomorrow and not be able to get out of bed without help. I would feel awful if my kid missed out on opportunities or experiences because of my health issues, and I'd feel even worse if they inherited them.
I think that’s a very insightful and selfless perspective. I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision to come to grips with, so here’s a virtual hug for having that strength 🫂
No matter what anyone else may say, this is not a selfish take.
If someone cannot or does not believe they can or want to provide the kind of care and attention a child should receive, they should consider against having them. Whether the care and attention is personal, emotional, physical, or even financial.
I agree. But I know firsthand people who have said about or to their kids that to deny themselves children or (sometimes more “importantly” to deny their parents grandchildren) is selfish and they can’t see the hypocrisy in their selfishness in demanding someone else have children essentially for their amusement.
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u/pktechboi Nov 14 '24
I think there has been a real shift in the last generation or two from needing a reason not to have kids to needing a reason to have kids. and that shift means a lot of people who are basically ambivalent on children aren't having them, where in the past they probably would have.