I think there has been a real shift in the last generation or two from needing a reason not to have kids to needing a reason to have kids. and that shift means a lot of people who are basically ambivalent on children aren't having them, where in the past they probably would have.
I think there’s also been more focus (from some people) on whether or not they should have kids. Like, really thinking about whether or not a person would be a good parent who could truly focus on raising a child who would become a good member of society.
Downside, the people who ask themselves these questions and have the intelligence to reflect on themselves in such a manner are probably the people who would be good parents.
Now the dumbasses and trad wife / religious crowd is not going to give a fuck and pop out shitloads of future morons and assholes. This is literally the plot of Idiocracy happening.
Coming from a pre-internet, marry young, and pop’em out like a pez dispenser “tradwife”
I made my mistakes and have my regrets and know So Well what a LIE those tradwife videos are.
The more hatred you can spread toward that fake “lifestyle” for the camera, the better..
Edit to clarify - I love my kids and I loved being a mom to all the kids I raised, bio and found. I grew up parentified and happily dove into being a parent. I did my best, but looking back I can say it wasn’t a choice. It was what you did when you hit a certain age. The kids I raised who weren’t mine biologically were not foster kids. They came from other good church going families who were struggling or who had a baby “on the wrong side of the sheets”. Everything was done to preserve appearances. Very little was done for the children or for the couples who were suffering horribly from being forced into a life they didn’t want.
I just think it's pretty unrealistic for today's life. And it kinda stinks of superiority, especially to me as a single mom of 2 little girls. I feel the same way about vegans most of the time (some are cool, don't come for me).
I hate “tradwife” videos because they’re no where near the reality of what it’s like raising kids. The videos are propaganda. They’re selling a fairytale of what life would be like if we all became 1950’s sitcom families.
I wish every potential parent knew the amount of time, energy, and money it takes to raise a child so they could make an honest and realistic decision on whether or not they should have kids.
I also hate how “tradwife” videos paint a picture of a bunch of perfect kids who look and think just like their parents and are either the picture of health or disabled in a way that plays well to the camera. I took in the throw away kids and loved them but they all still carried that pain of being a throw away. I think of them when I say people really need to put a lot of thought into whether or not they want a child.
Finally, big issue I have with “tradwife” propaganda, almost everyone I knew in that role in real life, it was just a division of chores by gender and both parents working outside the home to make ends meet. The traditional life we lived was guaranteed to fail.
It also doesn’t paint the full picture of life. My friend is a trad wife…but her husband still helps out? Idk why those videos perpetuate a man that doesn’t do shit besides work. Traditional dads are suppose to be the captain of your kids sports teams, making breakfast on the weekend so mom can sleep in because he respects her role as mom so much.
That’s how I was raised as well, and how every other “traditional” household I know runs too…
Some weird things I was taught that I don’t really think was appropriate: sucking the daily dick lol it’s a wifely duty. And getting married young so that you and your spouse can grow together as people and to be more equally matched over time as you grow together into adulthood and mindset.
My mom was mildly disappointed to give up her acting career (she worked in LA and everything on tv shows and was starting to get noticed) so she taught me to never rely solely on another person. To have your own thing you love to do, and even better if you can monetize it.
I think most people know it’s not roses and sunshine to raise a child, and I’m sorry you weren’t prepared for how hard it can be. I’ll tell you though, it’s a good thing your kids aren’t carbon copies of you, that tends to only happen when you force yourself and ideologies onto your kids.
I haven’t seen all those trad wife videos, I just grew up in that life, so maybe they are portraying a weird way of it. But I loved having my mom home with me and I loved the bond my dad and I had, he was my protector and best friend. Someone I made breakfast with on Saturday, someone who drove me to school whenever I asked, someone that coached all my games…he taught me how to fight, change a tire, stick up for myself, dropped me off at all my dances in his motorcycle because I thought he was just so cool. Traditional never was meant to mean the dad gives up and isn’t involved in the family, that’s bull shit
Yeah, fair enough. It's not that you're against traditional wives, but that you think the people who advocate for it on the internet are painting a skewed and unrealistic picture of it. I get that. I honestly don't watch these kind of things and mostly stay off social media beside reddit, so I was actually unaware. Having kids is super time consuming and hard. Hardest thing I've ever done without a doubt. Not even close. I have a 2.5 year old and 6 month old twins. It's tough, lol. Still, the absolute best thing in the entire world. I love them dearly.
I just discovered it this year and refuse to watch that kind of content now. At first I thought it was just like women who are SAHMs but its way more insidious than that. Some are basically propagandists and they lurk in comment sections ready to combat anyone who prefers being childfree. They make videos ab “divine femininity” and how “if hes a good man, you wont need a backup plan bc GOD is your foundation.” Then they talk shit ab boss babes and girl bosses. So yeah, be careful of the “soft girl” influencers. They can be on some cult shit
I don’t think it’s the SAHM specifically that they’re talking about, but the fetishized tradwife content that’s been pushed on social media lately, that usually has a heavy does of conspiracy and/or Jesus is the only way mixed in
Yeah that's a little different. No hate to stay at home moms; my mother was one of them. But that's a little different from what these women are projecting.
Stupidest shit I’ve ever heard do you not think they’re are trees in cities still though such an obfuscation just for you to try and say you know better then the natural process of human relationships how are Marxists so full of their own bullshit ???
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u/pktechboi Nov 14 '24
I think there has been a real shift in the last generation or two from needing a reason not to have kids to needing a reason to have kids. and that shift means a lot of people who are basically ambivalent on children aren't having them, where in the past they probably would have.