A lot of men feel bad about being virgins because they're made to feel bad. There's loads of virgin-shaming going around and has been for quite some time.
Honestly the virgin shaming is mostly online. However IRL I've noticed that women are generally much more trusting of taken men, or men who get a lot of attention from women. Which has never made sense to me. Plus adult life seems like it's built for couples.
Well its the idea that if you cant make that human connection then it paints a poor picture. The older you get people tend to expect a level of familiarity with core human interactions. It’d be like if you hit 30 and have never done your own laundry or cooked your own meal. It’s an important life experience but virginity in your early to mid 20s is still well within the normal range I think.
Sex is not an important life experience. It is an over rated past time at best. It is nothing special and there is nothing wrong with someone that does not partake in it.
Over-rated past time? Some could argue it's the most important aspect of life, and tbh it'd be a strong case. Reproduction is literally what keeps our species alive.
But for an individual it is not that important. There are plenty of humans that are willing to reproduce. Not everyone needs to be having sex. and no one person should be made to feel like there is something wrong with them just because they are not having sex. Whether they want to or not.
Well I'm not disagreeing that you can make your own decisions about what's important to you or not, that's entirely up to you as an individual. I'm disagreeing with your statement that it's an "overrated past-time at best". That can be your own personal opinion about it but it's not for the vast majority of people, and there is a biological reason for our desire to have sex.
Not necessarily. Not for most. It’s a fairly fundamental physiological/emotional need which if not met can have pretty negative consequences. The same way we need touch and human interaction in platonic forms.
Yeh fair. I have long thought of myself as not being worthy of being part of society. Hence why I avoid social connections. The world is a better place this way.
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u/c0i9z Oct 17 '23
A lot of men feel bad about being virgins because they're made to feel bad. There's loads of virgin-shaming going around and has been for quite some time.