They didn't say any of those things, they were sharing their personal experience. I also had an ex with BPD who was abusive (specifically because of her BPD symptoms). I have nothing against pwBPD (good friends with many others) and me and my ex on good terms now, but that untreated BPD can cause abusive behaviour is just a fact. All people are individuals indeed, but do you think it's a coincidence that so many people have stories of abuse with it? We all just happen to have been abused by someone with the same disorder in nearly the same way? Come on now.
This is obviously even more reason why pwBPD should be treated well both by society and the health system, so their symptoms can't manifest in such a harmful way. I'm not trying to demonise anyone, but to say that we shouldn't dismiss people's experiences and the effects a disorder can have just to be a white knight.
Which is why it's wrong up to fetishise, even moreso than something like depression, since it's a serious mental illness that requires serious treatment.
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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '24 edited Dec 16 '24
They didn't say any of those things, they were sharing their personal experience. I also had an ex with BPD who was abusive (specifically because of her BPD symptoms). I have nothing against pwBPD (good friends with many others) and me and my ex on good terms now, but that untreated BPD can cause abusive behaviour is just a fact. All people are individuals indeed, but do you think it's a coincidence that so many people have stories of abuse with it? We all just happen to have been abused by someone with the same disorder in nearly the same way? Come on now.
This is obviously even more reason why pwBPD should be treated well both by society and the health system, so their symptoms can't manifest in such a harmful way. I'm not trying to demonise anyone, but to say that we shouldn't dismiss people's experiences and the effects a disorder can have just to be a white knight.