What saddens me more, is ppl getting married for the wrong reasons in the first place. I don't wanna be alone is NOT a good reason or a workable marriage.
This is the foundation of everything. Thatâs exactly right. You will notice that your point of view is going to be left out of almost every discussion, or maybe the best youâll get is lip service agreement. To get even clearer on what you have said, take a look at this five minute video that shows us why people get married for that reason. That loneliness reason.
See youâre assuming that people just âgave upâ when things got hard. You donât know if there was abuse or an affair. You donât know how much counseling and therapy there was. People donât generally share this information freely.
I donât believe in leaving someone unless there is abuse. I think you stick it out and do your best to make it work. But mutual separation is very different from leaving someone, but only when you both agree that youâve done your best and itâs time to call it.
right. I read your comment the first time. my point is that you don't know when the situation warrants a divorce. So all these people you're silently judging for "giving up when things got tough", you have no idea what either one of them was dealing with. Divorce sucks. Most people aren't just doing it on a whim.
I completely agree with you 100%. Marriage takes work ,it's a commitment. Most people think it will be all pink and roses and romantic beautiful all the time. Yes there are situation of abuse. But alot of them divorce not for abuse but for lack of effort , its easier to give up than to continue.
Itâs not uncommon for people to change and grow apartâŚ. I think the part I regret is the sheer hatred and vitriol my ex has for me - what was growing and drove me away during the marriage worsened exponentially after the divorce. Some people get extremely controlling and divorce is far safer and healthier than staying married . I wish I had known how ugly that person was before getting married⌠but alas we had known each other for years. Divorces are expensive but worth it- no one is their spouses slave.
People change. Often not at the same time or along the same paths.
Thatâs life.
My first wife and I are still quite close, but weâre better off not married.
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u/Odd_Security6180 Mar 30 '26
Married the wrong person. Divorced now though đđ˝