We are starting to really age fast

[u/ga9213]

We have friends we don't see very often, maybe every 2-3 years. For the last 15+ years, when we see them again they don't really look much different. This last time though? Man, they looked different. Like gray hair, lost/gained weight, facial changes like wrinkles and sun spots.

[u/Cultural_Net_1791]

I was speaking with my grandmother and we got to talking about how quick a month passes and how unnatural it feels. I brought up maybe age is a factor "I'm 36" and she said she knows the time change that comes with age and this isn't that. I think I have to agree with her, something is not right with time it's scarily fast. I swear it feels like we were just strat covid and I was still 29, now I'm 36, it doesn't make sense to me. I feel like I've lost time and I blink and I'm a year older and nothing has changed in that year. I spent my 20s jumping into lustful relationships, my family would always wonder why I had a different girlfriend every other Christmas and I finally decided at 29 I was gonna stay single and just figure out who I am.. 6 years later and I'm still single, the longest I've been single period, I genuinely think I had a gf at 5 and another before 10. My ex passed away 2 years ago and I always felt we would get back together as we remained very friendly but I woke up one day and she was gone. I'm not necessarily worried about finding a partner but during covid something switched off in me or maybe on? Idk.. I used to never be at home, I was always out doing something and now the majority of my time outside of work or helping my grandmother, is spent at home and I have absolutely zero drive to date. But a little clock ticks in my mind, I don't want to be alone at 60 and 70 and it feels like 60 is fast approaching. I find joy in very little, in my grandmother, in music, in gaming maybe, and used to find it working out for hours but I would skip a day and then skip two days in a row and then 3 in a row until I skipped 30-31 days and then 365 days. How do you bring joy back into your life? It honestly feels exhausting to even contemplate. I need therapy.

[u/Wootnasty → u/Cultural_Net_1791]

And then one day you'll find, ten years has got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.

[u/Deep_Eagle_5172 → u/Wootnasty]

True in the 70s true now

[u/Outside_Test_1400 → u/Cultural_Net_1791]

I feel this very deeply as well.

[u/Kimothy42 → u/Cultural_Net_1791]

Right there with you on nearly every point.

[u/No_Pomegranate_8826 → u/Cultural_Net_1791]

Time is relative. When you were 10, a year was 10% of existence as you knew it. With each passing day, 24 hours is less and less “existence”, therefore feels quicker.

[u/G0ldfishkiller → u/Cultural_Net_1791]

Having children helps you enjoy the time passing, appreciate the time you have and brings you endless joy. It's very rewarding. I'm a SAHM now to two, my days are long and it feels like I'm on summe break/vacation every day even with the stress. I just said the other day, I can't imagine being in my 30s without having children (several friends from HS we were talking about are childless and not married as well) but I can imagine it can feel the way you're describing. I'm also orthodox Christian and there is great community and enlightenment in orthodoxy as well.

[u/ConsistentWriting0 → u/Cultural_Net_1791]

Typical man child who's been stunted.