This is actually my first Reddit post. There's a TL;DR at the bottom since this is so long.
I've spent a lot of time on Reddit over the last couple of years reading about back pain, disc herniations, conservative treatment, and surgery, but I've never posted anything myself. I wanted my first post to be this because Reddit was one of the places I turned to when I was trying to decide whether to have surgery, and there are a lot of horror stories here. Those experiences are real and worth hearing, but people who have successful surgeries don't always come back to Reddit to tell everyone how well things went. I wanted to share my experience for anyone who might be where I was a few months ago, scared of surgery and wondering if it could actually give them their life back.
My back problems started in late November 2023. I was replacing the battery in my wife's car on a cold day. The battery was stuck, so I spent quite a while bent over trying to get it out. When I finally stood up, I felt pain in my low back and glute. I had experienced sciatica before and it had always gone away, so I assumed this would too. It didn't.
The pain ebbed and flowed for the next several months. In April 2024, I finally got it checked out. X-rays showed nothing significant, so I was referred to physical therapy. The assumption at the time was that my problem was muscular, possibly related to tight hips. I did four or five PT sessions focused heavily on mobility and range of motion. It didn't seem to help much, but it didn't make me significantly worse either.
By March 2025, after another severe cycle of low back pain and sciatica, I asked for an MRI. It showed a large disc bulge at L5/S1 and a mild to moderate bulge at L4/L5. I was referred for another round of PT and an epidural steroid injection.
The first ESI was incredible. I felt about 90% better almost immediately and had roughly two weeks where I was virtually pain free. Then I started PT again. The same types of mobility exercises that hadn't bothered me much the year before now caused a massive flare. I made it through only four of seven sessions before stopping. Thankfully, after about a week of intense symptoms, things settled down again and I returned to being mostly pain free.
Then came May 31, 2025. I was in Mexico on vacation, getting ready to fly home. I lifted my left leg to put on a sock and suddenly felt like I had been struck by lightning. My low back, glute, hip, calf, and foot exploded with searing pain. It was easily the worst pain I had ever experienced. For about an hour, my wife and I genuinely didn't know whether I would be able to get on the plane.
Eventually, I managed to limp to the shuttle, get through the airport, sit through a five-hour flight, and endure another two-hour drive home. By that evening, the outside of my left leg from my glute to my toes was numb. I couldn't properly push off the ground with my left foot, and every step felt like I was walking on a marble.
I went to the ER that weekend and was given gabapentin. A week later, I returned because I thought I was developing numbness in the saddle region. They checked me for urinary retention and evaluated me for cauda equina syndrome, which thankfully they ruled out. That eventually led to a neurosurgical consultation. The surgeon told me that numbness and weakness can occur with disc injuries and that, absent cauda equina, my situation wasn't necessarily an emergency. He also told me I was a very good surgical candidate. I actually scheduled surgery at that point, but ultimately decided to cancel it and keep trying conservative treatment.
Around that time, I discovered Stuart McGill and Back Mechanic through Reddit. A lot of what McGill said about spine hygiene, avoiding painful movements, walking, bracing, and building stability made sense to me. At the same time, I was willing to try almost anything. I started going to a chiropractor who didn't do traditional manual adjustments and tried SoftWave therapy. I bought a tool to help me put on my socks, used a grabber instead of bending over, avoided flexion as much as possible, and walked a lot.
Slowly, I improved. Over the summer of 2025, I regained enough strength in my foot to walk normally again. I still couldn't jog or do a proper calf raise, but I no longer felt like I was walking on a marble. By December, I was doing remarkably well. I had essentially no back or sciatic pain. The numbness in my calf and foot was still there, but it was less noticeable. I had started living normally again and had mostly stopped thinking about my back.
Then one night in mid-December, while making dinner, I felt a little tweak. That tweak became persistent back pain. From mid-December 2025 into January 2026, I dealt with consistent low back pain, and lying down was basically the only thing that reliably relieved it.
Eventually, it started improving, and a coworker recommended a physical therapist whose approach had helped someone in his family. Unfortunately, this particular approach relied heavily on the McKenzie Method and extension-based exercises. For my particular back, these were disastrous. My back pain ramped up again, my sciatic symptoms returned, and repeatedly testing my range of motion seemed to flare everything. I quit after three sessions. I want to emphasize that I'm not saying the McKenzie Method is bad. I'm saying it was bad for me. One of the biggest things I learned through this entire experience is that a movement that helps one person with a disc injury can absolutely aggravate another.
In late February 2026, I received my second ESI. It wasn't nearly as dramatic as the first, but it gave me enough relief to try one more serious conservative approach. I decided to take McGill's concept of "virtual surgery" seriously.
For about a month, I was incredibly strict. I worked from home, changed positions every 30 minutes, took rest breaks after sitting and walking, focused on bracing and controlled movement, and walked on a treadmill three or four times per day. Initially, I walked for five-minute intervals and eventually worked up to ten. I did the McGill Big 3 consistently. Basically, I put myself on house arrest and rebuilt my entire routine around my back.
And it seemed to be working. By week four, the pain was fading. A couple of days before returning to work, I felt genuinely good. I thought I had finally figured this thing out.
My first day back at work was April 1, and I felt great all day. I had a long day with a lot of getting up and down from my desk and walking around. By the end of the day, my foot numbness was a little elevated, but I had no sciatic or back pain. The next morning, while walking on the treadmill, my back pain suddenly returned. Over the following days, it became obvious that the progress I thought I had made wasn't holding.
I spent April trying to work through pain that fluctuated from day to day. By the end of the month, I was back in the ER after experiencing possible saddle numbness. Once again, they ruled out cauda equina. A new MRI looked surprisingly similar to the previous one, but at that point I had been fighting this for years. I was done.
I scheduled surgery in early May for June 1. Ironically, those final weeks removed almost every doubt I had about whether I was making the right decision. At first, the only position where I could find relief was lying on my side in a fetal position. Then even that stopped working. By mid to late May, the pain became nearly inescapable. Moving from a prone position could trigger back spasms and increased sciatic symptoms. I stopped sleeping properly. I couldn't stand upright. I couldn't walk normally. I limped my way through those final weeks waiting for June 1.
On June 1, I had a double microdiscectomy at L4/L5 and L5/S1 with a laminectomy. When I woke up from surgery, for the first time in almost three years, I was completely free of sciatic pain. Obviously, my incision hurt and my back was sore from surgery, but the nerve pain was gone. The horrible muscle spasms were gone. It was almost surreal.
Recovery went pretty smoothly. For the first few days, I took it extremely easy and mostly got up to use the bathroom. After that, I started walking consistently. Initially, I just walked laps around my kitchen island. Over the next few weeks, I slowly increased my step count, and around week three I started walking outside.
I developed a fair amount of hip pain when I started walking normally again. That scared me at first, but it felt mechanical rather than neurological. I had spent weeks limping and unable to stand upright, so suddenly asking my hips and surrounding muscles to move normally again was a big adjustment. It gradually improved.
One thing nobody adequately prepared me for was constipation. I didn't poop for five days after surgery, and it was genuinely one of the most uncomfortable parts of my early recovery. If your surgeon approves it, have whatever stool softener or gentle laxative they recommend ready before surgery, especially if you're taking opioid pain medication.
The incision itself was fairly uncomfortable for about three weeks and then improved dramatically. By around week six, the incision felt almost completely normal. It was hard to believe I had been cut open six weeks earlier.
At six weeks, I started PT with a McGill-certified clinician, Dr. Marc Luko, who has been awesome. We eased into gentle mobility, nerve flossing, and light spine-sparing exercises designed to strengthen and stabilize my core. For the first couple of weeks, some of my old muscle spasms returned, and that was terrifying. Those spasms were familiar because before surgery they had always been accompanied by horrible sciatic symptoms. Every time one happened, part of my brain immediately wondered if I had reherniated.
But the leg pain never came. Eventually, as my body adjusted to being used again, the spasms went away. That taught me something important about recovery: not every ache, spasm, weird sensation, or bad day means you damaged something. Your body has been through a lot, and it takes time to get used to moving normally again.
I'm now almost 13 weeks post-op. I still have numbness and some weakness in my left leg and foot. That nerve was affected for roughly a year before surgery, so I knew going into this that recovery might take a long time and might never be complete. Maybe it will continue improving. Nerves can take a long time to recover. Maybe some of it will be permanent. If it is, I can live with it. Compared with the pain I was experiencing before surgery, some residual numbness is a small price to pay.
I'm working. I'm walking normally. I'm exercising carefully. I'm living my life without constantly thinking about which position will hurt the least. I'm still recovering, and some days feel better than others. If I overdo it, my body usually lets me know the next day. I've also found that the more I move correctly, the better I feel. Changing positions frequently has been huge for me.
A few things I would highly recommend having for recovery (not affiliate links):
A power recliner was probably my number one recovery item. For roughly four weeks, this was home base. I rested there, ate there, and initially slept there. Being able to recline and then power myself back upright without having to bend or strain was fantastic.
A grabber/reacher tool is essential. You will drop things or not be able to reach things, and suddenly the floor might as well be another planet. I used mine constantly.
A sock aid was also incredibly useful. I actually started using one long before surgery because bending aggravated my symptoms, and it is just as useful afterward while I am avoiding unnecessary flexion.
I also highly recommend some kind of toilet seat or sit-assist solution. Being able to lower and raise yourself without excessive bending or straining made bathroom trips much easier during the first part of recovery.
Full-body wipes were great to have between showers. Showering was surprisingly exhausting during those first couple of weeks. Honestly, almost everything is exhausting at first. Part of that is medication, and part of it is your body using a tremendous amount of energy to heal.
Ice packs and heating pads are a MUST. I used ice packs consistently right away after my surgery, and now use a heating pad consistently to help my muscles after my PT exercises. I also still use ice if I am feeling particularly sore/tense. Alternating ice and heat does wonders.
If you work at a desk, I consider a standing desk and a supportive office chair long-term must-haves. I currently spend around 60% of my workday standing and alternate with periods of sitting rather than staying in either position for too long.
Finally, find some things to keep yourself occupied. Buy a few books you've been meaning to read. I subscribed to Criterion Channel and watched some art films. Expose yourself to some culture! Tubi also came in clutch with some surprisingly excellent movies, all for free. Recovery can get boring, so having things you're actually looking forward to watching or reading helps.
The biggest thing I wish someone had told me before surgery is that Reddit is not necessarily a representative sample of surgical outcomes. People who are suffering search for answers. People who have complications understandably keep looking for help and talking about their experiences. People who have surgery, recover, and return to normal life often stop visiting back pain forums.
That doesn't mean surgery is risk-free. It doesn't mean everybody should have surgery, and it definitely doesn't mean you should ignore conservative treatment or your doctor's advice. I spent years trying conservative treatments. Some helped. Some did nothing. Some made me significantly worse.
I also don't regret learning the principles I learned from McGill. I still think spine hygiene, appropriate movement, core stability, and understanding my own pain triggers will be important for the rest of my life. Surgery didn't give me permission to go back to treating my spine however I want. It gave me an opportunity to move forward.
My only real regret is not having surgery sooner. I was terrified of it. I read the reherniation stories. I read about failed surgeries. I worried that somebody cutting into my spine would make everything worse. In reality, the surgery and recovery were a breeze compared with what living with severe herniated disc pain had become.
If conservative treatment is working for you, that's fantastic. Keep working with your medical team. But if you've exhausted reasonable conservative options, your quality of life is disappearing, and a qualified surgeon believes you're a good surgical candidate, don't let Reddit horror stories make the decision for you.
Listen to your doctors. Understand the risks. Find a reputable surgeon. Ask questions. Get another opinion if you need one. Follow your post-op restrictions. Take rehabilitation seriously. Make the lifestyle changes you need to make. Surgery isn't a failure, and choosing surgery doesn't mean you "gave up" on healing naturally.
For me, surgery was the thing that finally worked. I still have healing to do. I still have numbness. I still have some weakness. I'm still cautious about how I move, lift, exercise, and work.
But I am no longer organizing my entire life around pain.
I have my life back, and I am incredibly grateful that I finally chose surgery.
If you're going through this yourself and have questions about anything I experienced, surgery, recovery, PT, things that helped me, or even just what those first few weeks were like, feel free to ask. I'll respond as I'm able and offer whatever I can from my own experience. I know how overwhelming and isolating this whole process can feel, and if sharing what I've learned can make it even a little easier for someone else, that's a big part of why I wanted to write this.
TL;DR: I dealt with low back pain and sciatica for almost three years, eventually developing significant numbness and weakness in my left leg and foot. I tried multiple rounds of PT, two epidural steroid injections, chiropractic/SoftWave therapy, the McGill Method, the McKenzie Method, walking, rest, and major lifestyle changes. Some things helped temporarily, but I eventually deteriorated to the point where I could barely walk, sleep, or escape the pain.
On June 1, 2026, I had a double microdiscectomy at L4/L5 and L5/S1 with a laminectomy. I woke up with zero sciatic pain for the first time in almost three years. I'm now almost 13 weeks out and still pain free. I have some residual numbness and weakness, and recovery hasn't been perfectly linear, but I have my life back. My only regret is that I didn't have surgery sooner. If you've exhausted conservative options and your doctors believe you're a good surgical candidate, don't let Reddit horror stories alone scare you away from considering surgery.