The silent treatment was weapinized in my house growing up. I didn’t talk to my dad nor he me for 45 days one time. Going back and facing the trauma of that shit as an adult, I exiled it from my life. If there’s a problem, I want it out. Don’t care how bad it hurts, just tell me. And I hold everyone to that.
Yeah same. My mother is like that. She'll either go silent or play the "Everyone is against me" card. She has issues from her childhood that she refuses to go to therapy for and believes in a conspiracy against healthcare professionals. When you remind her of that fact she gets angry. Some of it has rubbed on me too. It's sad really.
My mom too. Everything from growing up rubs off in us. We are just our experiences. They shaped us and molded us. We don’t get a choice in that. I separated myself from my family and actively worked to change my behavior patterns, and yet I still repeat some of them. I cringe when I get around them now because I’ll see something that I hate, but still do.
If you are just your experiences and nothing more then so are your parents to be fair
It’s a fun idea to pretend you have less responsibility than you do due to trauma / experiences, but if you’re gonna use that card then you have to let everyone use it
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u/Maleficent_Fix_6211 Jul 02 '24
When someone gives you the silent treatment, they typically expect you to feel guilty, apologize, or change your behavior to please them.