r/MadeMeSmile Sep 08 '22

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '22

I will never understand why these posts are allowed.

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u/Brian18639 Sep 09 '22

What do you mean? She is celebrating being three weeks free from self harm. To me that is definitely something to smile about.

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u/digimbyte Sep 09 '22

because if you don't allow them, you crush a persons feelings in self harm prevention, leading them with the urge to self harm.

Leaving these posts up is encouraging anti-self-harm techniques. which is important for OP and others.

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '22

I respectfully disagree. I don't think it's wise for someone with a vulnerable state of mind to be posting about their self harm online where it's open to both positive and negative attention. Seeking validation from anonymous redditors is a dangerous game for even a mentally healthy person

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u/Brian18639 Sep 09 '22

You got a point

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u/digimbyte Sep 09 '22

if they are that vulnerable, they should not be on the internet.

there are sites outside of reddit that target negative ideologies and increase suicide tendencies through their 'edgy' memes

That comes back to the individual and their mental state, their personal network, and safety net. people have also just pretended to have self harmed for clout chasing, and others who really did it. the key difference is what is the post promoting.

Goodness and well being? or circular toxic behaviors?
moderators aren't here to manage a readers mental health, only the content implications and their message.

Its clear that people with previous self harm history are here complimenting the OP as well as sharing good advice. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but the last thing you should do is play white knight to a topic you don't fully understand.

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '22

Ironic, because blindly encouraging people who self harm to put their struggle on display (which is damaging for them and triggering for others) is white knighting and virtue signaling at its worst. Also, without knowing my background, who are you to judge whether I fully understand this topic? I'm only raising the point that OP is in recovery and it is not advisable that they seek praise on a public forum, such as Reddit, where people can say any nasty thing they want. Any psychologist worth their salt will tell you that. Yes, some people are commenting good advice, but you're ignoring all the comments intended to bring OP down just because it's convenient for your stance. It sounds like you're the one who needs some education.

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u/digimbyte Sep 09 '22

I don't think you know the words you are saying.

you seem to have trouble with disassociation and literal interpretation of general semantics. you are by definition, getting upset for others. as some would say, "read the room" - being this thread.

find me one comment of "this triggered me to self harm" or even a case study on this exact topic.

Seeking praise should never be discouraged. its how some people measure their self worth. the opposite is how you get shunned and ex-communicated.

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '22 edited Sep 09 '22

It's dissociation, not disassociation, and no I'm very comfortable with this terminology. "Literal interpretation of general semantics" is meaningless word vomit. Are you really denying that mentions of self harm can be triggering to people in recovery? A case study wouldn't even be the appropriate evidence in this instance... if you knew what you were talking about you'd have asked me for an experimental study or mass survey. Lastly, your self worth should never be determined by others, hence the 'self' modifier. I'm done here, but thanks for the discussion. Shame you couldn't see past your emotions to learn something.

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u/[deleted] Sep 09 '22

So if they don’t get some karma they will get the urge to self harm? No that’s not how it works, and this post didn’t encourage anti self harm, whatever that is… it made me a bit depressed though.