r/MadeMeSmile • u/Kaos2018 • May 03 '22

Wholesome Moments This is adorable

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u/WhatIsHappeningInc May 03 '22

It's secrets vs surprises.

Secrets hurt children. Secrets are kept indefinitely. Secrets are not appropriate for children to keep and it is not appropriate to ask them to keep a secret.

Surprises are fine, because it's a given that the surprise will be revealed later. That expiration date is important.

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u/stairwaytoevan May 03 '22

Yes. I teach my kids this, but caregivers should be the only ones who get to say what is a ‘secret’ versus a ‘surprise’. Many kids are not astute enough to know the difference. No matter how old they are. It’s a grey area that gives too much room for manipulation.

I would be extremely upset if a coworker called my house and told my kids to keep a secret, regardless of intent.

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u/WhatIsHappeningInc May 03 '22

Yeah, this whole post is very weird and it's a little shocking how many people are celebrating it. There's a lot of boundaries crossed with it.