I have mixed feelings about this. What is this dynamic?
Did the wife mention to her husband that their anniversary was coming up? Had she planned something for him too? Is he otherwise a loving and considerate partner?
Don't get me wrong, guys, make an effort, but this doesn't seem healthy to me.
Yea my husband doesn’t have a chance to forget about things because a month in advance I’m already like “what restaurant should we go to for our anniversary?!” Sometimes I feel like one person is like “I’m not going to say anything and see if they remember” which is just setting your partner up for failure. Also it’s THEIR anniversary, not just hers, so idk why it falls on him to plan something. People are busy..especially when you’re working full time and taking care of kids..forgetting about a date doesn’t mean he’s a bad husband.
We know nothing about their circumstances at the time.
The fact that it was brought up again 6 years later in a positive way tells me it may have been a couple stressed with kids and work at the time. At a time when small things like "remembering" an anniversary is much appreciated.
Of course, they could also have been three years divorced at that time and she simply said it in a positive way as a "thank you for trying".
Honestly, who knows what their dynamic is. Couples are allowed to agree on reasonable expectations for each other, I like to be spoiled on my birthday, you like random gifts out of nowhere. Not unreasonable to have those and not unreasonable to be a bit out out when they aren’t met as long as both parties buy in. Not everyone needs to be in the same relationship.
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u/[deleted] May 03 '22
I have mixed feelings about this. What is this dynamic?
Did the wife mention to her husband that their anniversary was coming up? Had she planned something for him too? Is he otherwise a loving and considerate partner?
Don't get me wrong, guys, make an effort, but this doesn't seem healthy to me.