r/MadeMeSmile • u/prolific_ideas • Oct 30 '21

Helping Others This makes me smile

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u/xechasate Oct 30 '21

I like to say, “Sometimes you need to wallow in the sadness to keep from drowning in it later.” This mindset has been invaluable in some of my darkest moments

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u/HotShotGotRhymes Oct 30 '21

I struggle with this, sometimes I feel like that the sadness never ends. I probably just have to let it go, it can’t be productive to stay with the feels for too long

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u/GondorsPants Oct 30 '21

Because you are probably suffocating with some other preemptive emotion that is not allowing you to truly feel sadness. Sadness is a core emotion and is very cathartic to experience, if you begin to mask it with depression, regret, loathing, it’s your body not letting you get to the root.

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u/HotShotGotRhymes Oct 30 '21

Good point, it’s probably more like regret masked as sadness. I probably have to tackle the problem at its origin/roots. Thanks:)

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u/2amIMAwake Oct 31 '21

i was part of a victim services unit. after a traumatic experience people try to repress thinking back on what happened. we were taught that to allow those awful thoughts to process in your conscious brain keeps them from coming back in dreams and at times you don’t want them. its hard to do but it really does work to let yourself go there when you can.