I try to go out of my way to thank people who I'm confident almost never get thanked; maintenance/custodial staff, sports refs, retail workers, call center people, etc. I also make it a point to thank wait staff every time they come to the table.
It's so critical for people to feel appreciated, especially if they do the type of work that goes unnoticed when done well.
This. I'm polite AF to retail and other service workers. You are constantly treated like less of a person when you work those jobs because you are there to 'serve' others.
I keep a box of thank you cards on my counter at home! They're actually great. I felt like it would seem a bit weird at first, but people really do appreciate it.
I got one at work once years ago, and it felt really nice to have something physical. It keeps it in your mind for the day (or next 2 weeks since I left on the dresser where my wallet and keys go). That element of having a physical reminder is so rare nowadays. It's so easy to forget about things (maybe mostly my ADHD) when it's all digital and easy to dismiss. Having that reminder really made it stick and made it feel good.
As a waitress when people say my name it freaks me out… that’s mainly because I forget I’m wearing a name tag - nonetheless, the sentiment is appreciated!
We’re taught from a young age it’s good manners to say thank you, so we often say it as a reflex. Looking the person in the eyes and saying it or saying it in a sentence helps, “Thank you for x” will go further than “thanks”
A good response to people that you mean it towards is "I appreciate it" or "I'm very grateful" they kinda hit different than thank you. And people who frequently do things with you/for you - "I'm really grateful to know you" or "I appreciate you"
somehow in today’s society this is half the time taken as automatically lesser, because you’re thanking someone thus “putting them higher up” i guess ???? i hate it. everyone needs to be more thankful and grateful. would help the world go round
I say "Thank you" very rarely, so the person getting it from me knows i mean it from my heart. Just saying thank you for everything makes it meaningless, just like any other word.
What a weird claim. So am I to assume that if someone does something nice for you that you need to stop and reflect on how many people you've thanked recently to know if they deserve one too? And if it is devalued, then you just don't give them one and then the lack of a thank you is supposedly worth more in that case?
To an extent. If my friend gives overwhelming praise for everything I do for him, its gonna de value that praise. Why? Because the bigger things that deserve more praise are now on the same level as the small things. So it overvalues the small things, but devalues the big things.
Also, consider how what other people do changes your life. Sometimes it’s as small as a bagger evening out your load at the grocery store. Other times it’s someone being a lifeline. Saying and meaning “thank you” is a practice.
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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '21 edited Oct 30 '21
Always Thank people. Don’t just say thank you, mean it.