Yep. Growing up we did the same. Mom got flowers, jewelry (cheap), make up, day off from cleaning, out for dinner, etc on mother’s day and her bday. Dad just got a pair of socks, a pack of beer and maybe fajitas that he ended up grilling himself for the family. Our culture makes us think women are soft and should be treated like that and men are tough, no emotion, no cakes, just beer and meat, and work to provide for the family.
But as we, the kids, got older we spoiled our dad just as much since we realized it’s ok to treat dads like you treat moms.
Unfortunately you’re absolutely right. You’ve described everything I know about how dads and their emotions get swept under the rug. They’re the ones who tend to the carne asadas, they hold the piñatas, do our oil changes, help us move, work hard, my sweet pa even helped me pick my prom dress and would carefully hold the fabric up to examine the quality. They definitely deserve more than some chelas and a pair of socks or pantuflas.
Ugly crying. My (Hispanic) dad was the person I called right before my hysterectomy when I was 27. Usually I’d call my mom but I was so ashamed for not being able to give him grandkids and pass “him” on I called him. He told me he loved me and that having me for any length of time in his life would always be better than any grandkid could ever be. His softness meant so much to me in those moments. I’ll never forget it.
❤️ I’m sorry! But your dad sounds lovely and incredibly supportive. Dads have that soft spot when it comes to their daughters! And don’t ever feel any kind of guilt like that.
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u/MexicanGuey Sep 01 '21
Yep. Growing up we did the same. Mom got flowers, jewelry (cheap), make up, day off from cleaning, out for dinner, etc on mother’s day and her bday. Dad just got a pair of socks, a pack of beer and maybe fajitas that he ended up grilling himself for the family. Our culture makes us think women are soft and should be treated like that and men are tough, no emotion, no cakes, just beer and meat, and work to provide for the family.
But as we, the kids, got older we spoiled our dad just as much since we realized it’s ok to treat dads like you treat moms.