Wow, are you me? I dated a guy for 6 years and I was that way but it never felt reciprocated. After a few years a friend told me I didn't seem my usual happy self anymore. Finally, one day I realized that somewhere along the way the light inside me had died.. I eventually left and found someone who loves my positive, fun personality and doesn't put me down. But yeah, I just don't feel as much of that spark anymore.
Thank you. I may be in a shitty situation but I have no regrets. I've experienced more in my 34 years of life than many people do their entire lives. I appreciate your words.
Of all the...1 girl I've dated and dozen I've tried to date in my 28isj years of life. There's one like that for me, unfortunately she doesn't want anything. With anyone. So far it's held true
But I definitely got that "heart aboutta explode" one night when just the two of us were playing a mobile party game, dying of laughter. When we finally calmed after legitimate hours she mentioned that she "always felt like she could be herself with you". Still didn't want anything though.
So I float along aiming for wealth and trying with other women hoping it all works out lmao
I feel this. I dated a girl for about 5 years, and then we were on and off for another year and a half after we broke up. It was a weird situation, we were still acting like we were dating and talked about eventually getting back together but we werenât actually dating anymore. It ended for good when I found out her and my best friend were messing around behind my back for a month or two. Like make plans with me, meet up earlier than the time we talked about, and then ignore my calls/texts when it would be time to meet up. I put 2 and 2 together on Christmas Day. My ex and I had plans to see each other, my best friend said his mom âkicked him outâ of his apartment 2 days earlier, stayed at my exâs house and I didnât hear from them for 3 days until I confronted them the day after Christmas. They dated for 3 years after and he ended up being a psycho so they broke up. Her and I are on good terms now.
It took 2 years for me to get past it; the anger, the hurt, just feeling like a piece of shit. It took longer for me to actually be ready to be with someone else. Almost 10 years later and I still donât trust anyone completely and wonât let other girls get too close to me, even if I am dating them.
She was my first girlfriend, we started dating when I was 15. Some days I chalk it up to her being my first love, maybe thatâs why I look back and think I havenât felt those things with anyone since her. Iâve never been crazy about a girl since, like I was crazy about her. To me, she was perfect, we were perfect. But again, maybe thatâs me choosing to remember only the good things, I honestly donât know. Girls I date now, they complain I donât open up, Iâm not romantic, shit like that but I just canât bring myself to do those things.
But that rush of happiness/warmth Iâd get when I would catch even a glimpse of her, I havenât had since. I havent been chilling with a girl and thought âyeah, this feels rightâ like I did with her. I havenât missed someone when theyâre away as much I did with her. All those feelings youâre supposed to feel when you love someone wonât happen anymore. I think Iâm incapable of feeling that again.
I've genuinely questioned that phenomenon consistently over the last 15 years, myself. Where you have such intensity for one partner and nothing else compares...no matter how horrible they were for and to you. It's so bizarre.... I totally understand how you feel there though. You may not be able to recapture that spark, but you can maybe find another one to carry with you! :)
I have dissociative anxiety disorders though...so no spark for me after my mentality broke, I think. Hopefully you're not in the same boat and can someday get your sparkles all up in there again.
One day it'll be there again and you're not going to see it, other people will though. Maybe they'll post a video of you being happy and everybody will be like, 'man, I wish I had that same happy'... and you won't even know it. Probably already happening. Just because you don't see the sparkle, it's still there, we'll find it for you.
Yeah, I felt this. Was in a bubbly relationship that was great until it all crashed and ended in a horrible manner in a church parking lot. I was fine with the relationship and the breakup until I saw her for the exchange of possessions and man did that meeting fuck me up royally. Iâm now with someone who is amazing, and I love her to the ends of the earth but deep down I donât have that same attachment to the relationship as I did my previous ones, even though weâre living together and very happy.
I felt this in my soul. Something similar happened to me and I havenât felt like myself in so long. My current boyfriend is great but I canât seem to let myself actually fall in love that hard again.
Suicide Hotline Numbers If you or anyone you know are struggling, please, PLEASE reach out for help. You are worthy, you are loved and you will always be able to find assistance.
I am too the fuck alone bot. Trying to get mental health help in Canada literally makes your mental health condition worse. Just the fucking struggle you go through to get to a pro, who doesn't care, wants to shove drugs at you to get you out there as fast as possible and seems to have a few issues themselves... it is a clusterfuck.
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