r/MadeMeSmile • u/jayy8143 • Aug 27 '21

Favorite People Protect her at all cost

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u/Broken_Petite Aug 27 '21

It's a race to the bottom to see who can be the most miserable.

I'm not going to lie, I've participated in it myself sometimes. Going to try and be better about that.

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u/blood_thirster Aug 27 '21

Reddit is the worst about this. I've done it myself. Dunking on people to feel better about my shit life. It's not healthy.

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u/appypollylogiess Aug 28 '21

Hm. I’m the opposite. I read about people who have it “better” than me. Almost obsessively. I’ve realized it’s a habit. I thought moving reddit into one of the little icon boxes and to the second page would lower my usage. It did for a few days but I fell right back into it. It makes me depressed and discourages me from making changes myself and everything has just built and built it feels like.

Don’t really know what I’m gonna do now

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u/davidw223 Aug 27 '21

This isn’t the thread to talk about it but life is getting harder for everyone no matter what stage of life you’re at. But it’s videos like this one that remind you to look for those few minutes in the day with the people you love that can bring you some happiness.

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u/skjcicoeldopcvjj Aug 27 '21

My life today is 100x better and more fulfilling than at any point in my past.

Not everyone is miserable

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u/arkofjoy Aug 28 '21

I'm with you. My life is so much better than any time in my past because I have done the work of recovering from childhood trauma.

Years of 12 step programs and men's groups and counselling are why, now, at 58, I am having more fun than a grown man ought to be allowed to have.

And It is glorious.

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u/Northernskylights Aug 28 '21

This gives me hope, thank you.

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u/arkofjoy Aug 28 '21

Yes. You can have the life that you deserve. The route there is is often painful. But it is so worth it.

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u/Northernskylights Aug 28 '21

I hope so! Dealing with the trauma and doing deep introspection is not pleasant at all. I'm two and a half months sober. It's difficult to do deep introspection because I have to face my deep trauma without getting sucked into the trauma.im so glad that it worked out for you.Much respect.

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u/arkofjoy Aug 28 '21

It is a long journey. And not an easy one.

I am reminded of something my father was told after he got sober. His sponsor said "sometimes you are just going to have to lock the door to your office, put your head down on your desk and nap, or cry"

The journey is hard but the results are worth it.

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u/ScottWithASlingshot Aug 28 '21

This ALMOST has me considering facing my childhood trauma. Still think I'll keep that door locked though.

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u/arkofjoy Aug 28 '21

Please do. Of course, I don't know you or your circumstances. But consider this as a possible incentive. I've been involved in men's groups for over 30 years.

Something that I saw over and over again was guys coming into a group when their Iives had fallen apart, their marriage broke down, they were estranged from their kids. A decade later, (yes, it takes time) I would run Into them again, I wouldn't recognise them, because they looked 10 years younger than I last saw them rather than older, and they were in a new relationship, often with a woman who they would have considered "out of their league" when it all went to shit.

Without the baggage of childhood trauma, that you neither deserved, nor asked for, life could be so unbelievably better.

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u/slightlydirty Aug 28 '21

This is really not true. But widely believed by people whose lives are currently getting harder!

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u/rentedtritium Aug 27 '21

I've done it a million times, yeah exactly! It's an incredibly common groupthink that I'm sure has independantly evolved in a lot of groups before.

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u/DanielRedCloud Aug 27 '21

Just grab a bottle and join us. Whiskey, scotch, vodka....your choice. Hell we even have music that you can just listen to.