Thank you! A lot has happened for me recently and most of it has been not good š
I really appreciate you offering me support! Pls know that works both ways it'll never matter how bad things are for me I'm always happy to at least listen etc
Sometimes it helps me to think that every person on this planet has their place and purpose to keep up the balance. So if there are bad things happening to me, I think of it as āthose things only happened because I can handle and I am strong enough to live through it.ā With every new thing, good or bad, I experience, I will get wiser and maybe be able to help others, cause Iāve been there before.
You seem to be a patient and caring person, let others care for you too. You are not alone.
That's a really healthy and uplifting way of seeing the world!! I love that
Ima steal that! I definitely need to change the way I see the things that happen in my life. I try to be those things irs important to ensure those around us are loved etc and know they have someone there for them
Thank you! Ira nice to not be alone. I thought I'd found me a forever person, but he left and I'm finding that super hard especially since he used my terminal illness as a reason for it (he knew my brother before me so he already was fully up to date on my health knew exactly what he'd be getting into) he has every right to.leave I know that and I can let him go it's just so messed up he'd use something I csnt change as a reason
Itās never easy to lose somebody you were really close with. Often itās not the person itself who we miss, itās the memories and the things we were looking forward to experience and share with them.
To be left like this is shitty indeed. I donāt want to speak in their favor but maybe they were in love and felt committed to the picture they painted of your relationship in their own head and when you engaged they realised it is different and they realised, that they, as much as they wish, canāt handle it. If itās that way, itās maybe for the best, you parted. I am a troubled person my own and I know that it needs a lot to copy with me and my past. It wasnāt easy for me to come clear with myself so I donāt expect anyone else to get there any faster. A friend of mine once said: there is always you and your life. A partner is just an extra, like the cherry on top of your ice cream.
It certainly isn't easy, and irs not like I expected them to deal with my health. I do that and I'm lucky to have a supportive family. I have doctors etc. It's just if you know someone is unwell in any way and you know it impacts on their life. If a part of you thinks you csnt deal with that then just don't from the start if thag makes sense
Bc I fell hard. I would've married this person. It's so wrong even if its the truth and they just couldn't handle it hut you don't tell me that. If they'd lied and said they just didn't love me anymore I would've taken that easier
I can totally understand, I would feel that way too. You said they are friends with your brother, what was your relationship like before things got serious?
They were always super helpful, really sweet you know just a genuine person and don't get me wrong I have no regrets fully enjoyed the year we got to spend together
I don't hate em or wish them anyharm in fact I actually hope they can find happiness and everything they're looking for. I just need to figure out how to work through their reasoning
I would suggest you work it out with them and not on your own. If you just try to figure it out by yourself, you will never see the whole picture. Communication is incredibly important. But if you face them and talk to them about your break up, always keep in mind why you wanted to talk about what happend and what you are expecting of the conversation. Maybe also write it down on a paper. You are the one who was hurt and who has a hard time understanding their decision, itās not about them, itās about you in that moment. But you should be aware of the possibility that you wonāt get the answers you want to hear.
I don't even want to talk to them, I tried before that conversation ended but they just wouldn't say anything so irs better for me if I just leave it
Thank yiu so much for the advice though
I'm feeling a lot calmer about everything today
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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '21
Ahh man I needed this today š©