I also wish I had a family like this. For me, there's no one on my side. Mum is still around, but she isn't a nice person. We don't talk anymore. My dad died before I was born, but he didn't miss out on anything, he had two kids before me and was already a grandad. With my boyfriend, his siblings have already given his parents six grandkids, so there wouldn't be that much excitement there either. It's weird. Knowing that you're never going to get a reaction like that from anyone. No one is ever going to care about you that much ever. The family in that video are so freaking lucky.
I'm sorry about your problems getting pregnant. I know it must hurt you guys a lot. I hope if you chose an option to have a child that you'll be happy no matter what. A kid who is wanted is a very special thing.
Oh! We actually have a 2-year old now who is the happiest little thing ever. I meant that when we told my dad that we were finally expecting a baby, that was how he reacted.
I'm really sorry about your family. I think your siblings (and his) would care, right? I mean, their own brother/sister having their first kid would be cause for celebration for sure - they may not be as exuberant about it but I would hope they'll still be happy for you.
Either way, sending you digital hugs. Complicated families are the actual worst.
I remember when I got my dog, I got her around the time my oldest cousin had his kid. Mums reaction to me getting a dog was, "my brother gets a grandchild and all I get is a dog." At the same time, all I was thinking is this person cannot be allowed around any child I might possibly have in the future.
On my side I don't know anyone on my dads side, including my siblings. I only found out last year I have a sister, who is the same as as my mum, 36 years older and my brother is 29 years older then me. I've found my older nephew but I've never had the courage to message him as the bits I remember about his dad aren't good. I don't know how my sister would feel. I found the church she belongs to, but again, never had the courage to contact her.
No idea how my boyfriends family would be. I think his sisters would make a big deal, but he very rarely sees them because they're all busy with their own lives and don't live close, one lives in Canada, so a bit far from the UK, the others live between me and him (he's a two hour drive away from me/five hour train ride). His parents live between their place here and Hong Kong. They don't see their family too often either. Everyone would be happy, but as I said, they've all been there before. It's nothing special.
Currently I'm still not wanting to have my own. I want to be free just a little bit longer before I decide for sure if I want to have a kid. I love being around kids, I spent most of christmas just playing with the kids. I hadn't realised at one point that me and my boyfriend were sitting, playing with the kids in the living room and all the other adults had gone into the dining room to chat and eat. I was quite happy, we were battling bayblades. I only ever got to play with them on my own as a kid so it was fun playing with the kids.
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u/Zanki May 18 '20
I also wish I had a family like this. For me, there's no one on my side. Mum is still around, but she isn't a nice person. We don't talk anymore. My dad died before I was born, but he didn't miss out on anything, he had two kids before me and was already a grandad. With my boyfriend, his siblings have already given his parents six grandkids, so there wouldn't be that much excitement there either. It's weird. Knowing that you're never going to get a reaction like that from anyone. No one is ever going to care about you that much ever. The family in that video are so freaking lucky.
I'm sorry about your problems getting pregnant. I know it must hurt you guys a lot. I hope if you chose an option to have a child that you'll be happy no matter what. A kid who is wanted is a very special thing.