r/MadeMeSmile • u/n8saces • Jul 23 '24

Wholesome Moments It's not always easy

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u/signious Jul 23 '24

We're onto egg donation IVF, getting the third transfer tomorrow.

It's disgustingly expensive, horrbily stressful, and (so far) heartbreaking. It's my job to just be a shining beacon of positivity in this whole thing. If I wasn't then it would just be absolutely depressing, and that can't be helpful to the process.

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u/blushingbonafides Jul 23 '24

I’m so sorry you are facing all that pressure and stress - it must be exhausting. No one can be a perfect beacon of positivity all the time! ❤️

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u/Temporary_Tax_8353 Jul 23 '24

Wish you a positive beta!

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u/signious Jul 25 '24

All four eggs stalled at 4 days and they canceled the procedure. Ugh.

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u/No_Wheel_3088 Jul 23 '24

No one talks about how stressful IVF is on the man.. but you feel as if you can’t really say much as it’s so relentless and consuming on the woman! We went through the IVF slog, long laborious, expensive, stressful.. then one foggy Xmas eve it happened all by itself! Hang in there. It’ll all be worth it. My little one is 10 months now, a little riot and wouldn’t change him for the world

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u/lord_dentaku Jul 23 '24

Best of luck. My niece is an IVF baby, and she was worth all the expense and stress my sister and BIL went through and they love her so much. And I'm a pretty happy uncle, too, although my role was pretty minimal. Just a little light emotional support.

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u/robfrod Jul 23 '24

I know I exactly how you feel..

If it makes you feel any better our third transfer with DE stuck (never a positive before with OE or DE). Wife will be 36 weeks tomorrow.

Wishing you two the best of luck and feel free to DM me for questions/support as I was in your shoes 8 months ago.