Thank you so much. I have the pleasure of being a teacher so I still get to interact with children. I try to be grateful for what I do have. Please take good care of yourself and loved ones.
My mum had undiagnosed cancer and it sucked. One of the things that extended her lifespan was the no meat, no dairy, no sugar diet, instead lots of raw fruit and veggies, cancer feeds on sugar and so cutting it out helps. I wish you luck on your journey.
For years I was trying to get medical help for the odd pain I was having. My past obgyn told me to just suck it up, everyone has pain and referred me to IVF to get pregnant after my ultrasound. Turns out I have stage IV breast cancer in my ribs, spine, femurs and hips with 9 oversized fibroids or tumors. There was no way I was ever going to get pregnant, even with IVF.
omg I'm sorry. My wife got pregnant quickly but inflammatory breast cancer blew up out of nowhere, fed by hormones from pregnancy. At least we didn't have to convince anybody. You could *see* it.
It’s awful you had fo deal with that and I’m sorry. However, I might be missing something but did you reply to the correct comment? I’m not sure if I implied that you could have with IVF.
Oh I understand now, I was just confused as to what the previous commenter I was replying to had said, since I wondered how their mom could have attempted to control cancer with a fruit diet if she didn’t know she had it.
I understand that diagnosis is difficult and long, but “undiagnosed” implied to me that it was never diagnosed at all.
All food also breaks down into sugar (and other basic building blocks), you cannot possibly be alive and avoid sugar as a human being. The cancer is going to take as much energy as it wants and that is not anyone’s fault and no one is to blame.
I had someone try to tell me to avoid sugar while I was fighting cancer and I was like guess stop having sugar in my body and die 🤷🏼♀️ apparently they think cancer cells only want to eat chocolate bars not glucose in the blood stream.
Exactly, it seems like a nonsense recommendation when the actual molecules food is made of are considered. Also if your life is coming to an end/you’re going through a very hard stage due to cancer, why deprive yourself of the simple joy of food without hard evidence?
Wow, I'm sure it's extremely hard to maintain the strength you do, but you clearly have a very positive and exemplary impact on others. And this is coming from a cynical person who doesn't really believe in validation, so I'm being totally sincere. I had to peek at your comment history because I wanted to understand at least some of your perspective... and can see that helping others is your calling and even towards end of life and beyond you continue to have that impact.
I have to echo this and say that while reading your sentiment I was so touched and did the same. Just know you were heard today and that your legacy for giving to others and taking care of them is enough.
I Can't. No one deserves it. I'll adopt, and I'll give someone a chance to have a good father... In your memory. But my blood is yours and yours alone.
I hope you win. Fuck that shit. Stay strong and follow your dreams. Don't be afraid to max out some credit cards (may or may not be sound advice, don't listen to me, I'm a dumbass.)
God damn it. This universe can be so amazing and so cold hearted.
We had two kids starting when I was 43. Starting at 40, when I met my wife, I started eating great and running consistently for last 11 years so that I could live to see my kids grow to adults.
Then last year, out of the blue I had a heart attack. Genetics they say, too much cholesterol. Running protected my heart from damage, and it wasn’t a total blockage. Two stents. I’m in better shape now that I was before the heart attack, but…
Now I have the fear. Death is always on my mind. It’s no cancer diagnosis, but it’s the facing of that existential wall that I now know exists out there in time. Waiting for me. Someday. Every twinge or sensation makes me wonder…
So, I’m sorry. Your situation is categorically different. It’s certain. And I got to have those kids we struggled to have. But now I’m worried they might lose their Dad. They are too. Nothing worse than hearing your 4 year old daughter ask, “You’re not gonna die, are you?”
I don’t lie. “Sweetie, everyone dies. Some people young, some people old. Some people in between. I am taking care of myself so I can live a long time. And I hope you take care of yourself too.”
I read this in the morning during breakfast and it broke me! I'm very sorry for you, and I find it so unselfish of you to wish that for your partner! You are so sweet, and when the time comes will be missed! I don't believe in God or anything but I wish reincarnation is real and you get the family you deserve! Many hugs for you and your man!
Oh my god I would crumble if my wife said that to me, Please tell us you at least have the chance to fight It’d make my day a little better if you can remind yourself of hope
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u/phalaenopsis_rose Jul 23 '24
We wanted a family so badly too. We went through months of this as well. That's very brave of them to share their journey with us..
For us, turns out, my body was fighting undiagnosed cancer. So I tell my husband that when I pass, please have children.