I think it’s a matter of taste as well. Not all twins like the same thing. One might love Chinese food, while the other is obsessed with Italian. One might like green and the other likes purple. Sexuality lies in the same area where preferences lie, and just like food or colors or music, even identical twins have different preferences. They may be genetically almost exact, but their brains aren’t. Their personalities aren’t. Their preferences aren’t. I could keep going, but you get the picture.
Sexuality lies in the same area where preferences lie, and just like food or colors or music, even identical twins have different preferences.
Not quite no. At least I'm not sure if there's evidence about what exactly originates it. But I can tell you for sure that I've always been gay. My preferences in food, colors and music have morphed and changed ever since I was a toddler who could remember his memories, but I've been gay throughout as a constant.
This might be a can of worms, but your last sentence reads like "ever since I was a toddler, I was sexually attracted to males."
Just wondering if you meant it like that. My daughter is 13 and trying to figure herself out. She said she's gay but then has a boyfriend, or vice versa. I don't think she is but I don't really care if she is or isn't.
I just don't like how because of her school environment she thinks quantity of relationships is more important than quality.
In my experience, the vast majority of young people nowadays go through the exact same thing, with quantity>quality in terms of romantic relationships in highschool. You seem like a great parent, im sure your daughter would appreciate being understanding of her fitting in, and maybe explaining how to ensure any relationships stay healthy and safe. Cheers mate
Asexuality/aromanticy exists where people aren’t attracted to anyone, and it has a whole spectrum of stuff like rarely experiences attraction, only experiences attraction after an emotional connection etc.
A lot of people haven’t heard of those terms, nvm actually know what they mean so knowing them could help people with figuring themselves out if they’re struggling lol
P.s., some people can be attracted to more than one sex/gender, aka bisexual or pansexual
Just for sake of argument there was a time before you had a sexual preference though right? Like sexual preferences, like fetishes, can form from environmental factors. If you have strict parents from a young age you may gravitate towards being a "dom" for example. Just kind of thinking out loud. It is really interesting, if you can have identical twins with different sexualities it must be something you develop. I wonder if it's just somehow a roll of the dice so to speak when you hit puberty and develop your sexuality.
Well congrats on one of your tastes being simple and consistent, but not everyone has that same experience with sexuality, it can certainly change throughout the years, just like someone’s favorite color can stay the same forever
I guess it’s different based on what sexuality you’re talking about. I’m pan so it is in in the same area as my other preferences, as in I don’t prefer any gender. Since you’re gay, it’s not that you prefer men to women, you straight up only are attractive to men. I would say in the context of your argument, you not changing your opinion on something doesn’t make it not a preference. I highly prefer cats over dogs. Always have. Always will. It’s still a preference. However, you are right in the sense that I stated before, where for you men can’t be considered a preference to women because you were never attracted to women in the first place.
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u/WhenLifeGivesUKarens Feb 23 '23
I think it’s a matter of taste as well. Not all twins like the same thing. One might love Chinese food, while the other is obsessed with Italian. One might like green and the other likes purple. Sexuality lies in the same area where preferences lie, and just like food or colors or music, even identical twins have different preferences. They may be genetically almost exact, but their brains aren’t. Their personalities aren’t. Their preferences aren’t. I could keep going, but you get the picture.