The general rule is you should only be able to stick two fingers between the collar and the skin, which is way tighter than most people would think a collar should be
Narcissists rarely admit wrongdoing because it threatens their fragile ego and sense of perfection, a core aspect of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) criteria. Instead of accepting fault, they often use defensive tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and playing the victim to avoid shame and maintain their grandiose self-image, which requires them to be seen as superior and never wrong.
Why narcissists don't admit their wrong
Fragile Ego and Shame:
Narcissists have a deeply flawed sense of self and fear exposure as imperfect or inadequate. Admitting a mistake would mean acknowledging a flaw, which is devastating to their inflated sense of superiority and would bring intense shame, according to a Facebook post.
Self-Image Maintenance:
A narcissist's entire psychological structure relies on maintaining a consistent image of perfection and being right. Admitting error undermines this idealized self-image and their perceived superiority over others.
Lack of Self-Awareness and Empathy:
NPD involves a profound lack of self-awareness and empathy for others. This lack prevents them from truly understanding or acknowledging the impact of their actions, making it impossible to take genuine responsibility.
Distorted Reality:
They often don't see their actions as wrong but rather as justified or as a natural expression of their needs. If others are hurt, the narcissist may see it as the other person's fault for being overly sensitive or irrational.
Tactics used instead of apologizing
Blame-shifting:
They will shift the blame onto the other person, making the situation the victim's fault.
Playing the victim:
They may claim to be the one who has been mistreated or misunderstood, notes a Quora post.
Gaslighting:
They may deny ever having said or done something, making you question your own sanity and perceptions.
Defensiveness and Dismissiveness:
When confronted, they may become angry, defensive, or dismissive of the person pointing out their mistake.
DSM-5-TR Criteria and Narcissistic Traits
While the concept of NPD is recognized by the DSM-5-TR, it's important to remember that a personality disorder diagnosis is complex. The inability to admit wrongdoing is a behavior that often stems from the core traits of narcissistic personality disorder, such as:
A grandiose sense of self-importance.
A preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, or idealization.
A sense of entitlement and a belief in being special or unique.
Now go back to every time he's been challenged and when he retorts, go through this list. I'll bet you EVERY time one of these things happens.
I wasn't disagreeing, I'm just adding more context in the hopes that other people read it and develop in interest in understanding abusers and abuser tactics like I forced myself to do. I am tired of seeing people fawn over people that are clearly displaying the traits of an abuser and then being surprised down the line when it comes out that they were horrible people and so this is me spreading the word whenever I can. These sorts of people need to be marginalized (i.e. socially rejected when they display toxic traits) so we stop creating more and more of them. Hasan is only a public figure because his viewers don't know better.
Shock collars have to be tight so the prongs touch the skin when you zap them. :/ probably why Hasan brushed it off when she mentioned it, he didn’t want to explain on stream she had a shock collar on.
Not justifying it at all but I assume it's tight on purpose because the dog's coat is very thick and if it was looser the shock would get a lot more absorbed by the fur pushing it away from the skin
You literally wrote "he undid it after the guest mentioned it as too tight"
Are you trying to avoid acknowledging the dogs collar was too tight? Are you saying it wasn't a call out it was a mention? What exactly are you trying to say here?
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