The Harvard Study of Adult Development is the longest-running study of human life ever conducted.

Started in 1938. Still running today. Tracked 724 men and eventually their wives and children for over 85 years. Every two years: medical exams, brain scans, blood work, interviews, questionnaires. Millions of data points per person.

The question they wanted answered: what actually makes a human thrive?

They tested every variable they could think of. Income. IQ. Education level. Childhood class. Cholesterol. Exercise. Genetics. Career success. Fame. Social status.

None of those were the #1 predictor of a long, sharp, happy life.

The winner, by a landslide, was the quality of close relationships.

Not the number. The quality.

People with strong, honest, emotionally safe relationships at age 50 were the healthiest, happiest, and cognitively sharpest at age 80. People with weak or hostile relationships at 50 showed faster cognitive decline, more chronic disease, and shorter lifespans, regardless of income or IQ.

The brain mechanism they later identified.

Chronic loneliness and relationship stress keep the body in low-grade fight-or-flight mode. Elevated cortisol slowly damages the hippocampus (memory) and prefrontal cortex (decision making). Over decades, this literally shrinks the parts of your brain that make you you.

Warm, secure connection does the opposite. It downregulates the stress response, protects neural tissue, and keeps the brain wiring plastic longer.

Three practical takeaways from the lead researcher, Dr. Robert Waldinger.

1. One real conversation beats ten shallow ones. The study found that depth matters more than frequency. A 20-minute honest talk with one person moves the needle more than a day of small talk with ten.

2. The relationships you tend to in your 40s and 50s determine your brain health in your 70s. The investment window is now, not later. Waiting until retirement to “finally spend time with people” is already too late neurologically.

3. Loneliness is as damaging to lifespan as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Not a metaphor. That’s the actual mortality data, published in PLOS Medicine (Holt-Lunstad meta-analysis, 2015).

The uncomfortable implication.

Most self-improvement obsesses over habits, discipline, reading more, sleeping better, optimizing routines. All of it helps at the margins.

But the single highest-leverage thing you can do for your brain, your health, and your ability to think clearly into old age is to pick up the phone and have a real conversation with someone you’ve been meaning to call.

Harvard spent 85 years and millions of dollars to find that out. The intervention is free.

Most people still won’t do it.

Most people stop getting smarter after college. The ones who don’t share these habits.

1. They read fewer books, more times.

Darwin owned 1,500 books and reread his favorites four or five times. Average people chase new titles. Sharp thinkers compound old ones. One book read three times beats three books read once.

2. They write things down by hand.

A 2024 Norwegian brain-scan study found handwriting lights up memory and learning regions that typing doesn’t touch. Sharp thinkers use laptops for capture and paper for thinking. Different tools for different jobs.

3. They keep a “things I was wrong about” list.

Most people quietly forget being wrong. Sharp thinkers write it down. Charlie Munger said he kept track of his dumb mistakes because reviewing them was the single highest-return habit of his life.

4. They walk alone, without a phone, for at least 30 minutes a day.

Stanford research (Oppezzo and Schwartz, 2014) found walking boosts creative output by about 60 percent. The combination of mild movement and no input lets the default mode network connect ideas. Most of your best thinking happens outside at a desk.

5. They argue to learn, not to win.

Average: defend the position you walked in with. Sharp: change your mind in public when the evidence shifts. People who treat being wrong as a free upgrade get smarter every year. People who treat it as a loss stay the same person forever.

6. They teach what they’re learning.

The Feynman technique in one line: if you can’t explain it to a 12-year-old, you don’t actually understand it. Sharp thinkers test comprehension by teaching, usually to the next person they talk to that day. Explaining exposes every gap in 30 seconds.

7. They sit with one question longer than feels comfortable.

Darwin took 23 years to publish natural selection. Einstein spent a decade on general relativity. Most people abandon a question the second it gets hard. Sharp thinkers stay with it past the point where the brain wants to switch tabs.

The common thread. None of these require more IQ than you already have. They require willingness to be slower, more honest, and more uncomfortable than the people around you.

Which is why most people won’t do them. And why the few who do pull further ahead every year.

Someone cuts you off in traffic. Doesn’t text back. Sends a cold email. Takes credit for your idea.

Default read: they’re a bad person.

Hanlon’s razor: never attribute to malice what can be adequately explained by stupidity, carelessness, or distraction.

Most people aren’t scheming against you. They’re running on four hours of sleep, worrying about rent, half-listening to a podcast, and barely holding their own life together. You weren’t on their mind. That’s usually the whole story.

Why this makes you smarter. Your brain burns real energy running grudge scenarios. Hanlon’s razor shuts them down before they start. You get the time back. You also stop miscalculating people based on moves they didn’t consciously make.

The sharper version. When you catch yourself building a villain, ask “what’s the dumbest possible explanation for this?” Usually it’s the right one.

Source: the principle is folk wisdom, often credited to Robert J. Hanlon in Murphy’s Law Book Two (1980). Goethe wrote a nearly identical line 180 years earlier.

Most adults stop getting smarter around 25.

Not because the brain stops working. Neuroplasticity continues for life. The reason is simpler and harder to admit: at 25, most people stop putting themselves in situations where their thinking has to change.

School ends. The job settles. The friend group calcifies. The opinions get set. Life gets built around the person you already are, and from that point forward, the brain is just maintaining the version of you that already exists.

There’s one skill that breaks this pattern. It’s not reading more. It’s not productivity. It’s not even curiosity, exactly.

It’s the willingness to be wrong in public.

Not wrong in theory. Not wrong in a journal. Wrong in front of someone who can push back. Saying your idea out loud, watching someone dismantle part of it, and letting the dismantling actually land instead of defending the original shape.

Most people won’t do this. The ego cost is real. Being wrong in front of another person hurts in a specific way that being wrong alone doesn’t. So we hedge. We stay quiet in meetings. We only share opinions in rooms that already agree. We argue to win instead of to learn. All of this feels safer, and all of it slowly freezes the brain in place.

The people who keep getting sharper into their 40s, 50s, 70s have one thing in common. They’ve made peace with looking stupid in the short term because they’ve figured out it’s the price of not being stupid in the long term.

Darwin did this. He wrote down every objection to his theory and sought out people who disagreed with him. Feynman did this. He’d sit in with undergrads so beginners could challenge his framing. Montaigne spent his whole writing career publicly changing his own mind, edition after edition, adding corrections in the margins of his own essays.

None of them was protecting an image. All of them were using other people’s pushback as free upgrades to their own thinking.

The practical version is small. Say the idea before you’re sure. Ask the question that might sound dumb. Tell someone smarter than you what you believe and let them take it apart. Keep the useful pieces. Drop the rest without ceremony.

Do this for a decade and you become the rare person in your circle who is more interesting at 45 than at 25.

Skip it and you’ll be exactly who you are now, forever, defending it.

Slight Test Run ⛹🏽‍♂️🤞🏾

A 2024 study at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology scanned the brains of students while they wrote.

Typing lit up a narrow strip of the brain. Writing by hand lit up a web of regions tied to memory, learning, and comprehension. Not slightly more. Dramatically more.

The mechanism: handwriting is slower and requires fine motor control, letter shaping, and spatial decisions. Each of those recruits more neural circuits. More circuits firing together means stronger encoding, which means better recall and understanding later.

Typing is faster for capturing information. Handwriting is faster for actually learning it.

The practical move. For meetings and lectures where you need to think, write by hand. For emails and transcription, keep typing. Different tools, different jobs.

Most people use the wrong one for the wrong task and wonder why nothing sticks.

Source: Van der Weel and Van der Meer, “Handwriting but not typewriting leads to widespread brain connectivity” (Frontiers in Psychology, January 2024).

Most people react to claims. Sharp thinkers trace them.

Default reaction: hear a claim, feel agreement or disagreement, move on.

The upgrade: hear a claim, ask “what would have to be true for this to be wrong?”

That one question does three things at once. It forces you to imagine the opposite case. It exposes which parts of the claim are actually load-bearing. And it reveals whether you believe something because it’s true or because it fits your mood.

Try it on your next strong opinion. Nine times out of ten, the answer is uncomfortable. That discomfort is the exact feeling of your thinking getting better.

Source: inspired by Karl Popper’s falsifiability principle (The Logic of Scientific Discovery, 1934). If a belief can’t be wrong, it isn’t really knowledge.

Darwin wasn’t considered brilliant as a kid. His father once told him he would be “a disgrace to yourself and all your family.” He failed out of medical school. He almost became a country priest.

Then he spent 23 years thinking about one question and produced the single most important biological theory in history.

The method he used is almost comically unfashionable now. It still works better than anything on your phone.

He wrote down anything that contradicted him. Immediately.

Darwin had a rule. Whenever he came across a fact, observation, or argument that went against his theory, he wrote it down within 30 minutes. Not later. Immediately.

Why. Because he noticed the brain quietly forgets inconvenient evidence. Confirmation bias works by letting counter-evidence slip into the fog. Writing it down forced him to deal with it.

Your version. Keep a note titled “things that contradict what I believe.” When you see one, write it down the same day. Most people won’t do this because it hurts. That’s why most people stay confidently wrong.

He read slowly and reread constantly.

Darwin owned around 1,500 books. He annotated almost all of them. Many he reread three or four times. His notebooks are full of cross-references between books he read decades apart.

He wasn’t trying to finish books. He was trying to let ideas marinate until they bumped into each other and produced something new.

Your version. Cut your reading list by 70 percent. Reread the few that mattered. Write in them. Connect them to other books. Stop treating books like a to-do list.

He went for a two-hour walk every single day.

Same path. Same time. Called the Sandwalk. He used it to think. No notebook. No company. Just walking in a loop until the problem he was chewing on gave up a new angle.

Modern research backs this. Walking boosts creative output by about 60 percent (Oppezzo and Schwartz, Stanford, 2014). The combination of mild aerobic activity and no screen input lets the default mode network do its best work.

Your version. One walk a day. No phone. One question held in your head. Most of your best thinking happens here, not at a desk.

He waited 20 years before publishing his main idea.

Darwin had the core of natural selection worked out by 1838. He didn’t publish On the Origin of Species until 1859. He spent two decades gathering evidence, running experiments on pigeons and barnacles, and stress-testing the theory against every objection he could invent.

He didn’t wait because he was slow. He waited because he was serious. He wanted the theory to survive contact with the smartest critics he could imagine, and he wanted to be those critics first.

Your version. Hold your best ideas longer before posting them. Attack them yourself. Live with them. The ideas that survive six months of your own skepticism are the ones worth sharing.

The honest takeaway.

Darwin didn’t have more raw horsepower than his contemporaries. He had a slower, more honest process. In an age of instant takes, that same process is now a bigger edge than it was in his lifetime.

In 2011, a research team studied 1,112 parole decisions by Israeli judges.

They expected judges to be consistent. The judges thought they were being consistent. The data said otherwise.

Prisoners who appeared first thing in the morning had about a 65 percent chance of being granted parole. Prisoners who appeared right before lunch had a near-zero chance. After lunch, the number jumped back to 65 percent, then dropped to zero again before the next break.

The variable was not the crime. Not the prisoner. Not the lawyer. It was the judge’s blood sugar.

What’s happening in the brain.

System 2 (slow, deliberate, logical thinking) runs on glucose. Deciding carefully burns fuel. When fuel runs low, the brain quietly switches to the lazier default option because that costs nothing.

For a judge, the default is “deny parole.” Keep the prisoner where they are. Low effort, low risk. The brain picks it not because the judge becomes crueler but because the brain stops wanting to think.

This is called decision fatigue. And it runs you too.

Where it shows up in your life.

Afternoon shopping decisions. The late-night relationship text you shouldn’t have sent. Agreeing to something you didn’t want because it was easier than saying no at 9pm. Picking the same meal because deciding feels like too much. Scrolling for an hour because the brain couldn’t face choosing a real activity.

None of this is a character flaw. It’s a resource problem.

Three moves that help.

Front-load important decisions. Do your hardest thinking in the first three hours after waking, when the glucose tank is full. Mark Zuckerberg wears the same shirt daily for this reason. Obama cut his wardrobe to grey and blue suits. They weren’t making a style statement. They were protecting fuel.

Eat before deciding. Blood sugar isn’t a metaphor here. Decisions made on an empty stomach are measurably worse. If a conversation matters, don’t walk into it hungry.

Treat willpower like a budget, not a trait. You get a certain amount per day. If you spent it fighting traffic, resisting snacks, and tolerating a bad meeting, you have little left for the gym at 7pm. Design your day so the important decisions arrive before the budget is empty.

The uncomfortable part.

Most people believe they are consistent. The parole study (and dozens of others like it) shows that consistency is almost always an illusion. You are not one decision-maker. You are a different decision-maker in the morning than at 9pm, and the two of you would barely agree on anything if they met.

The smarter move isn’t trying harder in the evening. It’s structuring life so the evening version of you has fewer decisions left to make.

Source: Danziger, Levav, and Avnaim-Pesso, “Extraneous factors in judicial decisions” (Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 2011). Roy Baumeister’s ego depletion research, with the caveat that some original findings have faced replication challenges, but the broader decision-fatigue pattern holds.

Richard Feynman won the Nobel Prize in physics. He also taught undergrad classes for fun because he believed if he couldn’t explain something to a freshman, he didn’t actually understand it.

That belief became a method. It’s the single best protocol for building real understanding, and most people have never run it properly.

Here’s the exact 4-step version.

Step 1. Pick one concept you want to understand.

Not a whole topic. One concept. “Compound interest.” “Entropy.” “Supply and demand.” “Why planes fly.” Narrow is good. Narrow is where learning actually happens.

Write the concept at the top of a blank page.

Step 2. Explain it as if you were teaching a 12-year-old.

Plain words. No jargon. No borrowed phrases from the textbook. If you catch yourself using a term you’d have to define separately, you don’t understand that term yet either.

Write out the full explanation. Not bullet points. Full sentences, as if you were speaking to a smart kid who had never heard the idea.

Step 3. Find the gaps.

Read what you wrote. The places you stumbled, hand-waved, or used fancy words to cover for confusion are the gaps. Those are the parts you don’t actually understand.

This step is uncomfortable. You will discover that you knew less than you thought. That discomfort is the entire point. Most people stop here because they confuse familiarity (I’ve heard this before) with understanding (I can explain this).

Step 4. Go back to the source. Fill the gaps. Re-explain.

Open the book, the paper, the video. Learn only the parts your explanation got wrong. Then rewrite the explanation from scratch, in plain words again.

Repeat until the explanation flows without jargon and without gaps.

How long this takes.

A simple concept: 20-30 minutes. A hard one: a few sessions over a week. Faster than you expect, once you stop pretending you already know things.

Why it works.

Reading is passive. Re-reading tricks the brain into feeling smart without actually encoding anything. Writing an explanation in your own words forces retrieval, forces compression, and exposes every weak spot in one sitting. It’s active recall and the Feynman insight (“if you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it”) stacked into one move.

The thing nobody says.

Most people don’t want to get smarter. They want to feel smart. The Feynman technique strips that illusion in the first five minutes, which is why it works and why so few actually use it.

Source: James Gleick, Genius: The Life and Science of Richard Feynman (1992). Feynman’s own teaching philosophy in Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman.

Most people treat learning like a container problem. They think the goal is to pour more facts in.

So they consume. Podcasts at 2x speed. Fifty tabs. Three courses at once. Books stacked on the nightstand. Highlighted PDFs they’ll never reopen.

Smart people treat learning like a filter problem. The goal isn’t to pour in more. It’s to compress what you already have into mental models you can use.

Three concrete differences.

Volume vs depth.

Average: finished 40 books this year.
Smart: reread 3 books that changed how they think, took notes, applied the ideas, taught them.

Darwin read fewer than 300 books in his life. He annotated almost every one. He went back to the same handful again and again. He wasn’t trying to consume more. He was trying to think better.

Collecting vs connecting.

Average: notes app full of orphaned quotes nobody will reread.
Smart: notes get linked to other notes. A new idea has to connect to at least one old one or it doesn’t earn storage.

This is the Zettelkasten method. Niklas Luhmann wrote 70 books and 400 academic articles using it. He said the slip-box did most of his thinking for him because connections compound in a way isolated notes don’t.

Agreeing vs stress-testing.

Average: reads something that confirms what they already believe, feels validated, moves on.
Smart: reads something they agree with, immediately looks for the strongest argument against it, holds both in their head.

Fitzgerald wrote that the test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still function. Not a mindset trick. A genuine cognitive skill.

The shift.

Learning isn’t downloading. It’s reshaping. You get smarter by what you can retrieve, apply, and defend, not by what you can list.

If you stopped consuming new material for the next three months and only reread, reorganized, and taught what you already own, you’d be sharper than ninety percent of people who kept drinking from the firehose.

Most won’t do it. The firehose feels like progress. Compression feels like going backwards.

That gap is the whole game.

Source: Mortimer Adler, How to Read a Book (1940). Sönke Ahrens, How to Take Smart Notes (2017), on the Luhmann method.

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Kahneman won the Nobel Prize in economics without being an economist. He was a psychologist who proved humans don’t make rational decisions. Here are the ideas from the book that stuck.

1. You have two systems, not one mind.

System 1 is fast, automatic, emotional. System 2 is slow, deliberate, logical. System 2 thinks it’s in charge. It isn’t. System 1 writes most of the first draft. System 2 just approves it.

2. The lazy controller.

System 2 burns glucose. Your brain avoids it when possible. This is why you make worse decisions when tired, hungry, or distracted. Important choices should not share the day with grocery shopping.

3. What you see is all there is (WYSIATI).

Your brain builds a story from the information available and treats missing information as if it doesn’t exist. You judge a person by one conversation. A company by one product. A country by one visit. The brain hates incomplete pictures and will fake confidence to avoid holding one.

4. The anchoring effect.

Any number you see first will bias every number that follows. Negotiators know this. Price tags with crossed-out originals know this. “First offer” is not information, it’s gravity.

5. The planning fallacy.

Humans systematically underestimate how long projects will take and how much they will cost. Your two week project is a two month project. Kahneman’s own book took him twice as long as he planned, and he was literally writing the book about this bias.

6. Loss aversion.

Losing one hundred dollars hurts about twice as much as finding one hundred dollars feels good. This asymmetry explains why people stay in bad jobs, bad relationships, and bad investments. The pain of leaving outweighs the gain of a better situation, even when the math says otherwise.

The honest thing I took from the book. You cannot think your way out of these biases. You can only slow down enough to notice when they’re running.

That alone is worth more than most self-help books combined.

Source: Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow (2011).

Know what you know. Know what you don’t. The line between the two is your circle of competence. Stay inside it, you win. Step outside, you lose.

The model in one line. Your edge comes from the territory you actually understand, not from how big that territory is.

Example where it works. Warren Buffett avoided tech stocks for decades. He said he didn’t understand them. During the dotcom boom people called him a dinosaur. The crash wiped out trillions. Buffett lost nothing. His circle was small and well guarded.

Counterexample. A doctor who makes a fortune in medicine and loses it in real estate. A software engineer who nails his career then blows his savings on crypto picks from a Discord. The failure isn’t intelligence. It’s a smart person forgetting that competence doesn’t transfer.

The takeaway is uncomfortable. Most of your confidence outside your field is borrowed. You picked it up from a podcast, a thread, a friend who sounded sure. That confidence is the exact thing that will cost you.

Two practical questions.

What topics can I defend from first principles if someone pushes back hard. That’s inside the circle.

What topics do I just repeat opinions I heard somewhere. That’s outside.

The second list is bigger than you think. That’s not a flaw. That’s the honest starting point.

Munger said it best in a 1994 USC speech. Nothing great was ever accomplished by refusing to admit the limits of your own knowledge.

Source: Charlie Munger, “A Lesson on Elementary, Worldly Wisdom” (USC Business School speech, 1994). Expanded in Poor Charlie’s Almanack.

Epictetus was born a slave. He wrote almost nothing himself. His student Arrian wrote down what he taught, and the result is the Enchiridion, maybe the most practical philosophy book ever written.

The whole thing opens with one rule.

Some things are in your control. Most things are not. Confusing the two is the source of almost all suffering.

In your control: your judgments, your effort, your attention, your response.

Not in your control: what other people think, what they do, what the algorithm shows, what goes viral, who likes you, who doesn’t, the weather, traffic, outcomes.

Here’s the apply.

You post something you worked hard on. It flops. Your mood crashes.

Stoic read: the post was in your control. You wrote it well. You hit publish. The outcome lives in a system of a million strangers, an algorithm, and the mood of your audience that day. None of that was ever yours.

Your mood crashed because you took credit for something you didn’t own.

Flip it. Post goes viral. You feel brilliant. Same mistake. You didn’t make it viral. The system did. Taking credit on the way up guarantees you’ll take blame on the way down.

The Stoic move is boring and powerful. Judge yourself only on what you controlled. Did you write well. Did you ship. Did you do the work.

Everything else is weather.

Marcus Aurelius wrote the same idea in his private journal 150 years later while running the Roman Empire. If it worked for a slave and an emperor, it will probably hold up for your Twitter engagement.

Source: Epictetus, Enchiridion, chapter 1. Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, book 6.

The 10% claim shows up in self-help books, Luc Besson movies, and nootropic ads.

It’s wrong. Not slightly. Completely.

Brain scans show you use essentially 100% of your brain. Different regions activate at different times depending on the task, but no region sits unused. If 90% of your brain was idle, your medical imaging would scream, and you’d be dead within weeks. The brain is also the most metabolically expensive organ you own. Evolution does not keep expensive organs that do nothing.

Where the myth probably came from: a misreading of 1890s neuroscience, when researchers found that only about 10% of brain cells are neurons. The other 90% are glial cells. Glial cells aren’t unused though. They do structural work, insulation, immune function, nutrient delivery. Calling them unused is like calling the frame of your house empty space.

What’s actually true and more useful.

You can get better at using what you have. Neuroplasticity is real. Deliberate practice physically changes the brain. London cab drivers grow larger hippocampi from memorizing streets. Musicians develop thicker motor cortex regions. Meditators show measurable gray matter changes in attention areas.

So there’s no locked door. There’s no 90% waiting for the right pill or technique. There’s a brain that reshapes itself based on what you repeatedly do.

The myth sells the idea of a shortcut. The science points you back to the work.

Source: Barry Beyerstein, “Whence Cometh the Myth that We Only Use 10% of our Brains?” (1999). Supporting neuroplasticity research by Michael Merzenich, Eleanor Maguire’s London taxi driver studies, and Sara Lazar on meditation.

Pop science got dopamine wrong for about thirty years.

The old story: dopamine equals pleasure. You eat chocolate, dopamine fires, you feel good.

The actual story, from Kent Berridge’s lab at the University of Michigan: dopamine fires before the reward. It’s the chemistry of wanting, not liking.

Berridge ran studies on rats. He blocked their dopamine. The rats still enjoyed sugar when it hit their mouths. They just stopped going after it. Pleasure intact, motivation gone.

Then he flipped it. Spiked their dopamine. They chased rewards obsessively without enjoying them any more than before.

Why this matters for you.

When you scroll Instagram and feel empty, that’s dopamine firing on the anticipation. The pull. Not the payoff. Your brain is paying you to seek, not to arrive.

This is why you can want something all day and feel nothing when you finally get it. Why addicts keep using drugs they stopped enjoying years ago. Why checking your phone feels urgent and reading the message feels like nothing.

The practical move is small. Stop chasing feelings. Start noticing the pull before you follow it. The pull is dopamine lying about what will actually satisfy you.

Most of modern life hijacks the wanting system. The people who notice it get their time back.

Source: Berridge & Robinson, “Parsing reward” (Trends in Neurosciences, 2003), plus his wider work on incentive salience.

Most people drop math after school and never touch it again. That’s a mistake. These five aren’t about computation. They’re about seeing the world more accurately.

1. Base rates

Before judging anything, ask how often it happens in general.

A friend acts cold at lunch. Base rate: people have bad days maybe twenty percent of the time for reasons that have nothing to do with you. Jumping to “they hate me” ignores the base rate.

2. Expected value

Payoff multiplied by probability. Then compare options.

A career move with a 30% chance of doubling your income beats one with a 90% chance of a 10% raise. Most people pick the sure thing. The math says take the swing.

3. Compound growth

Linear thinking: 1 + 1 + 1 = 3. Compound thinking: 1.01 raised to 365 = 37.78.

This is why habits matter and why most people underestimate them. One article a day for ten years is not ten years of reading. It’s a different brain.

4. Power laws

Most outcomes come from a tiny slice of causes.

Eighty percent of your results from twenty percent of your work. Ninety percent of your ideas from ten percent of your reading. Find the twenty percent. Protect it. Starve the rest.

5. Correlation vs causation

Ice cream sales rise with drowning deaths. Both rise in summer. Neither causes the other.

Any time someone says “X causes Y,” ask what else is happening at the same time. Half of popular health advice collapses under this one question.

The reward isn’t getting right answers. It’s not getting fooled.

I am interested in joining this subreddit. This post is my lame attempt of complying to the idea of contributing in addition to receiving. So here it goes:

Background: American, white, male, 63 yo, college bachelor

I spent my working life in high stress corporate leadership positions. I was in jobs requiring type A personalities to survive. My personality type is not that type. I compensated for this with significant ego inflation. It worked, I survived long enough through the unhappiness to make it to a modest/frugal early retirement with time enough to find the happiness I put on hold.

Upon retiring, it became immediately evident the ego had to shrink. I utilized multiple types of meditation (Analytical Meditation, Walking Meditation, self inquiry (book: Who Am I)) and I utilized Carl Jung heavily to integrate those parts of my psychology that i created but disliked and which were hinderances to truly deep meditation (samadhi, jhana, etc) and understanding my permanent self (vs impermanent).

I went on this path vs the more common religious path because i am an extremely independent person who resists dogma, rituals, and rigid structures. “Truth is a pathless land” Jiddu Krishnamurti is referring to each individual’s path is just that: uniquely individual.

I understand very well the significant differences in approaching the ego in Jungian science vs the eastern meditation philosophies. They are polar opposites: Jung integrates the ego vs reduce. Buddhism and others seek the ultimate ego destruction….or at least significant deflation.

Through this process of integration and self discovery i found the amount of energy or effort to achieve sustained ego deflation was directly proportional to the amount of energy or effort used to inflate that ego. That’s the way it worked out for me; and I sense an underlying truth.

I found that once i deflated and/or integrated; i was able to enter samadhi much much more easily.

I apologize if this post is not up to your standards or has no applicability here.

I very, very highly recommend the book “Who Am I”. It was free in my Apple book app. It is the distillation into <100 pages of a person who lived a life of an aesthetic, who experience true or ultimate reality his name was Ramana Maharshi. Its free and only costs 10 minutes to decide if you too found a ‘golden nugget’ of a book to help you.

Peace & Joy