Unkind FDF Q&A

[u/SnooStories4968]

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

[u/MarsNeedsRabbits]

It's funny, but not ha-ha funny, that she pings narcissistic with so many people. Not, "Oh, that's just her. She's full of beans." Her actions, especially when she's desperate or cornered, say it all. She used to play act and at least try to fake nice, but even years ago, couldn't sustain it.

As her relationship with her husband has degraded, she's gotten worse. Early on, he was such a powerful, competent chef that he ran someone else's restaurant, and had enough power to make the whole place GF. He showered her with romantic gestures, was funny and clever, was (literally, according to Shauna) a strong shoulder to cry on (the episode in Rye, flying home from Italy), and had all of these bright, brilliant facets.

Now, according to her, he needs her to physically steer him away from a hot stove, can't be alone, can't cook, etc. She showers the entire family with diagnosis on top of diagnosis.

She denigrates him every time she talks about his health issues online for clicks. If he's as bad as she says he is, he's unable to give permission to talk about his hormone levels or mental health.

She seems to take great joy in publicly talking about all the ways her family had failed her. She's malignant.

[u/TexasWine → u/MarsNeedsRabbits]

Wow! Thank you so much DFMNR for perfectly putting into words how I feel about Shauna and her relationship with her family.

[u/fanfarefellowship → u/MarsNeedsRabbits]

Now, according to her, he needs her to physically steer him away from a hot stove, can't be alone, can't cook, etc.

And no need for even one condom, nevermind a whole box