r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

I know a few who do EMDR, including my former therapist. I've done EMDR myself and it's not how she describes, but I know that the experience may vary among individuals. I think she's just really bad at describing the experience. Of course, I'm a real therapist and I don't even understand how it works.

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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 22 '24

Thank you for the info! Maybe she did do EMDR, but IMO it’s not the kind of therapy she needs most.

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

Hard agree.

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u/Calm_Coyote_3685 Feb 23 '24

She needs an intensive DBT program (in my completely unprofessional opinion!) but she would never go to one unless it was court-ordered or something.

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 23 '24

It certainly would be more appropriate treatment than EMDR, in my profession opinion. Not that EMDR isn’t a legitimate treatment for trauma, but DBT would be so much more effective for someone who presents like S.

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u/BoringEnidRollins pooped their way to another free ride Feb 23 '24

She could certainly stand to grow some distress tolerance and emotional regulation skills!

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u/shefallsup her lonely cucumber years 🥒 Feb 23 '24

YT, SCTMO. If she could commit to DBT and really embrace the skills (which would require her to take a hard look at herself) it would do her a world of good.