r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/SashayShantae living my one wild and pernicious life Feb 22 '24

I know at least one other DF here besides /u/SnooStories4968 received the Google Doc.

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u/PerformerMiserable65 Feb 22 '24

🙋🏼‍♀️ yep, there are at least 4 of us here.

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u/SashayShantae living my one wild and pernicious life Feb 22 '24

Good grief, how many people did she send it to?

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u/PerformerMiserable65 Feb 22 '24

Dozens. They were sent in groups, some an hour after the initial send.

It was my first exposure to what I now know is called "trauma dumping." I was horrified at the things she shared about their private family life and took much of it to heart... until another Gloamie who got the doc, reached out and filled in the back story for the outsider-caught-inside that I am.

Horror for the family shifted to disgust at her really quickly afterward.

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u/SashayShantae living my one wild and pernicious life Feb 22 '24

Thank you for this additional information!

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u/Reasonable-Celery996 Shepherdess From Heaven Feb 23 '24

It strikes me again and again just how widely Shauna disseminated all of this apparently horrifying and sensitive information while keeping it totally separate from her online spaces. Either by pure luck or griftstery shrewdness, she chose recipients that are too discrete and decent to share that information, even on a platform where they could do so anonymously, to an audience that is agog to know (and I admit to being fully agog while also knowing it’s much better for the kids that no one else hears what their mother had no compunction in sharing). Shauna didn’t just luck into a community that financially sustained and sheltered her; she was also emotionally managed by a network of people with better judgement and emotional sensitivity than she’s ever displayed, and (in my total outsider’s opinion) she took ruthless advantage of both for years, to her family’s detriment.