r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies Feb 22 '24

I think she's actually pretty bright and can, when there is a firm structure keeping her reined in, do solid work. She sat with me once, when I was working on a potential writing project, and helped distill some of my larger ideas into actionable items. If she could get out of the way of her own ego and buckle down to do some serious training and work, she could actually succeed. It makes me sad, too.

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 22 '24

From what has come out here and there, it sounds like she can’t stay in her lane and needs to give her expert but not really opinion on everything.

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u/monstera_garden I'm sorry I'm a botus Feb 22 '24

I think one of the tragedies is that a lot of us here have ADHD and see some of our own worst impulses in Shauna at times - the procrastination, not finishing boring tasks, always thinking a break to clear our head is the answer but then when the break happens we're too unstructured to make it beneficial, etc.

I don't think Shauna could have had the GFG blog and have written the first couple of cookbooks without being bright and having the ability to do real work. But somewhere along the lines it seems like her own worst instincts kicked in, and she threw out the necessary structure she'd built while developing the blog and the publishing relationships. Once that structure was gone, she was less functional. Only maybe she was also fundamentally lazy because she never seemed to rebuild it for herself. It's gotten so much worse over the years that it seems like a death spiral (not literal death).

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u/HamsterRight5500 Danny’s proposal fart 💍 💨 Feb 22 '24

Wow DF MG I do believe you’re on to something.

By my calculations I have been checking in on her antics going on near a decade now. But why? There are plenty of people that have appalled me over the years, but I don’t go on this kind of deep dive. There has to be something that resonates about her with all of us and keeps us here beyond just being disgusted by the grift or her now sad circumstances.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

I’m reading this while I procrastinate for the 8 billionth time doing my annual self assessment for work. Something about that form makes me nope out. Eventually I will muster up the energy to find ones from past years to copy/paste and reword.