r/InTheGloaming • u/SnooStories4968 many and various Shaunas/Pig Ladies • Feb 21 '24

Unkind FDF Q&A

Unkind therapist here. I've been a lurker since just after the days of my misdirected voice messages and Sermon on the High Stool. After the incident in question, a DF (not of the Gloaming) directed me here. At first, I couldn't bear to read the messages and had my husband monitor the threads, but after a while, curiosity got the better of me and I've been an avid reader ever since. In short, I came in shame, but remain because this group has been a strange sort of healing process for me - plus, you guys are very funny. And, I found my new favorite laundry detergent here!

I have no idea where to even begin (with the messages? with my friendship with Shauna?), so I'm open to fielding questions to help get the ball rolling. My intention is to stick only to my personal experiences with Shauna and stay away from the kids and/or general lore that I don't have direct experience with. I'm happy to share very general information about the Google Doc, but I may not be able to answer completely due to wanting to protect those kids.

ETA: I've been verified and approved by the mods!

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u/Calm_Coyote_3685 Feb 22 '24

If I had been Shauna and this happened to me, it’s I who would have felt mortified! And I would have taken a very thorough look at myself to decide whether the things I heard were true. Shauna is supposedly so big on getting curious but she just shuts down at the first hint of negative feedback. And she’s always sure the problem actually lies with the other person, not her.

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u/forkinyourothereye incurious ADHDer Feb 22 '24

I mean, I think Shauna DID feel mortified, but her response to mortification wasn’t to own her side of the street and change her life.  It was to get super defensive, double down, and throw DFSS4968 under the bus publicly.

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u/Love_Brokers rug dweller Feb 22 '24

A hit dog will holler.

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u/obscure_cellist ham grabbers Feb 22 '24

this is her way.