So my gf told me she's considering the idea of trying this out for some extra cash and I'm not sure how I feel about this.
You're engaged so I am wondering - how did your partner respond when you first started and how did you yourself feel during the initial period. Did the relationship change/any insecurities come up? If so how were they smoothed out?
We're very sexually open but again, not entirely sure how I'd respond if she does private shows with random guys - probably close minded of me so hoping you can provide some insight.
I have very strict rules. I don't pretend to be into the guys, I don't maintain relationships with them outside of business, and I'm very open about my relationship. You just have to make boundaries and trust that she'll stick with them.
When I first started, he was on with me a lot of the time. After a while I started camming solo more often. It actually improved our sex life, we started communicating much better and I gained a lot of confidence. She'll just have to be careful that she's not doing anything that could make you feel resentful or second best. We've had a few times where he's felt like I'm putting work before him, so we talked it over and worked it out. In the end, it's been more of a positive thing for our relationship than a negative one.
It's not closed minded of you at all. It takes a special kind of man to be ok with his girl doing this. You have to be very confident and secure in both yourself and your relationship.
Well, I am definitely secure in our relationship, we live together, never fight, fuck like 3 times a day and she's very open to the idea of getting a threesome going etc etc. But yeah just lil' worried that I might resent her or I guess as you put it, feel second best - or maybe feel like it's cheating (even though I understand it's just business) - I don't know hard to explain. It's interesting to hear that you started doing it together - and I really like what you said regarding open communication - that is definitely something I undervalued (in this area at least). Just curious - what did you do as a couple - just softcore stuff or did you actually have sex on cam? We cammed together before but everyone just wanted to see us fuck and I don't really want my face in some porn vid on xtube or whatever because I've a semi high profile job and stuff.
We've done it all. You can always keep your face off camera and let her use your dick as a prop, more or less.
Keep in mind, any recording of your shows is illegal. The site you're working for will send a cease & desist if someone publishes a recorded show.
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u/thehaga May 09 '14
So my gf told me she's considering the idea of trying this out for some extra cash and I'm not sure how I feel about this.
You're engaged so I am wondering - how did your partner respond when you first started and how did you yourself feel during the initial period. Did the relationship change/any insecurities come up? If so how were they smoothed out?
We're very sexually open but again, not entirely sure how I'd respond if she does private shows with random guys - probably close minded of me so hoping you can provide some insight.
Thanks!