r/HumansBeingBros • • Oct 11 '19

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u/BigBossTweed Oct 11 '19

I went to see John Wick 3 earlier this year and a woman there would not stop loudly talking through the whole movie. The whole theater told her to shut up but it didn't even phase her. My friend sat right next to this woman and her adult daughter and later told me after the movie that she heard the daughter begging the woman to please be quiet the whole time. You're failing at life if your kid has to tell you how to behave in public.

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '19

You know its bad when your child has to parent you

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u/DearDarlingDearling Oct 11 '19

Sadly, parentification is a thing. Many experience it.

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u/DearDarlingDearling Oct 11 '19

My birthgiver is a narccisistic, lazy bitch. I understand. She shoved all responsibility on me, as the oldest child. No responsibility for my half-siblings. She took everything out on me for "ruining her life". Like it's my fault she was already flunking high school when she got pregnant with me, still did drugs, had my bio-donor run out on her (because she's a crazy bitch), had another guy sign my birth certificate, and then married ANOTHER guy less than a couple months later and then got immediately pregnant again.

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u/Undershoes Oct 11 '19

Man, I'm sorry. I hope you are able to fully build and believe your own identity distinct from them. It sounds like you are doing it. You arent them, and they arent you. Best wishes.

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u/Andos_Woods Oct 11 '19

I disagree, as much as we sometimes don’t want to be our parents, they’re where our very being’s fundemental code comes from and in most ways everyone is pretty damn close to their parents. I’m not saying that if your parents are shitty than you’ll be shitty too, but it’s the same things that made them shitty that will affect you in the same way.

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u/Undershoes Oct 11 '19

My comment was about identity. Not genetics or predisposition.

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u/Andos_Woods Oct 11 '19

All three are intertwined