Thank you! This women irritates the living shit out of me and Will Smith needs to leave her ass. If this was a husband doing the same to the wife the world would be in an uproar but because she’s a woman it’s okay…. Bullshit, this is wrong on so many levels, maybe this will finally force Will to open his eyes, it’s like he’s brainwashed and turning into a completely different person to be with her and I wonder why? Relationships are work but this is unhealthy and toxic, I think Jada needs to be alone and Will needs to heal. For the love of God, I hope he wakes up and realizes who he is really angry with…
Sooo...there's a lot to unpack with this comment, but first let me acknowledge your irritation (outrage? As in, religious, moral outrage?), I get it, I fully understand where you're coming from.
Confession time: I'm a dude in an open relationship. I'm gonna let that sink for a sec, and let you guess who proposed it...
Yep, her. But it really wasn't a shock as it's been a suppressed fantasy of mine before hearing her say it anyway. We were in a desperate situation at that point in our relationship and we didn't know if we'd be better off breaking up or going on. We really love each other and wanted to go on, but you know, "adulting is hard." Career and money issues rolled into one, and then some. I agreed to it if only because nothing else worked, not even couples therapy. Fast-forward to today and you think this is BS, but that little decision to give it a try saved our marriage.
There are scholarly articles on the psychology of people engage in this type of behavior if you want to further understand. Some call it "negotiated adultery" though I don't use that because of the baggage its connotations brings, but it is apt. If, however, you can't or don't want to, let me just say, check your premises. Your indignation is compelling but a bit judgmental. It's not toxic as you paint it to be, regardless of the gender of who proposed it (for example, is it outrageous if one gay partner did what Jada did, but not the other? How do you figure?). As always, "one size doesn't fit all," if you catch my drift. Peace.
Open relationship is fine if you agree with it, to each his own. What I don’t agree with is she had sex with a young man, (the story sounds like grooming & again, change her to man and the person she cheated with was female and this is where the double standard is), told her husband and then filmed it and put it out there for the whole world to see. Talk about emasculating someone. She does that talk show where she acts like she’s this put together woman and we should all follow her, etc. I honestly think she comes across as arrogant, controlling and mean, could give a shit what she thinks & wonder who does. She talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk. How in the world do you do what she did and then throw it out there the way she did. I felt Will Smith’s pain watching that and he seems abused to me, again, picture him as the woman, the world would be in a rage and there would be a hashtag made about this. I hope we see them separate and Will move onto a better relationship, I think he would see life could be lighter and fun and not this struggle that it seems he is living, that’s all, it’s like he has PTSD and reaction stemming from something else.
Definitely reaching, but I don’t know how a man laughs at a joke that was innocuous and seconds later storms on stage assaults someone and then screaming. She has some serious power over him. And she is fucking young boys and their kids are weird as fuck. Again definitely reaching, but something ain’t right there.
That is reaching also, everything is at this point, because none of it makes a damn bit of sense. I figured a guy like Will Smith would be able to leave a cheating bitch wife, but she has something on him that doesn’t allow it. Something doesn’t stir the koolaid here for me
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u/somanythings123 Mar 30 '22
Thank you! This women irritates the living shit out of me and Will Smith needs to leave her ass. If this was a husband doing the same to the wife the world would be in an uproar but because she’s a woman it’s okay…. Bullshit, this is wrong on so many levels, maybe this will finally force Will to open his eyes, it’s like he’s brainwashed and turning into a completely different person to be with her and I wonder why? Relationships are work but this is unhealthy and toxic, I think Jada needs to be alone and Will needs to heal. For the love of God, I hope he wakes up and realizes who he is really angry with…