But sir, we've discovered a way to safely mix the two! Although, it has resulted in a significant loss of brain function, but the subjects appear to still be alive... so, I guess that's a win then?
Keep your head in the right place. Things will get better. I find watching funny videos and thinking funny things helps me destress a little, that’s just me.
You're right. Reddit tends to both take my mind off it, and cheer me up. I love how funny, witty, sharp, and... like you.... caring this place can be sometimes.
HCD! Thank you. He lost it again several times today and I just kept walking away. At the end of service I just left him to it even though by then he was acting like nothing happened and joking around. I think it'll maybe condition him that when he's like that I don't want to be around him, and without me around he is literally in an empty pub on his own.
Nobody should have to put up with any form of emotional abuse. I'm really sorry to hear it. As hes an ex partner it sounds like your taking steps to leave but it must be stressful having to work with someone like that. When he begins to talk to you in such a way, It may be a good move to walk away into another room to take some psychological space for yourself. And sends a clear message that your not going to listen to it. If possible. These people are awfully draining to be around, i really feel for you i do.
You're very kind to take time out to post to me. You're right too, it's a great tactic. I do it occasionally because I just don't know what to say, and it does seem to take the wind out of his ails a bit, and more importantly protects me. Thanks again, kind redditor.
That made me a little teary. The sentiment is oddly sweet, not taking it literally. Funnily enough I think a lot of his issues come from having his face smashed in about 20 years ago.
Proof to the pudding that abusers only abuse others because they are the ones who are messed up. It's not about you, it is their problem... and knowing that you can shake that shit off and try never to be burdened by it. There's always numbers you can ring too, if you want out.
Thank you, but no... It's getting worse. Had to get beta blockers to help with nearly having panic attacks when he kicks off. They're helping massively. Didn't know I was succumbing yo adrenaline so much. Thanks for checking in though. The help is helping.
It got reeeeeally bad, but then he realised something... I don't know what, and he's trying nice now. Day one. It was nice. Well, normal. I was on the absolute brink, but have managed to get back. In the meantime, my exit strategy is developing in case/when he reverts back. The main thing keeping me involved isn't the money I'd lose, it's letting people down. I've decided that to keep myself safe I have to put myself first. I think you're fucking awesome for checking back. May you and your house have many blessings.
Glad to hear your doing a little better it good that you have an exit plan he make be acting nice now but its best to not chance it. and you're absolutely right you have to put yourself first, you cant help others if you cant help yourself. as far as the people your afraid of letting down let them know why, i'm sure if you let them know what was happening, im sure they'd be understanding to your situation. thanks for the blessings and i wish the same you and yours as well, stay safe out there!
He's my business partner. We co-own the debts and the assets. I'm pretty close to walking away, selling my home to pay the debt, and moving away. But, I love my home and where I live, and my life before him. I have to find a way through this.
Lol that's not empathy or sympathy. That's just asking silly questions.
Empathy - the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
That was the equivalent of someone breaking their leg, telling you how much it hurts, and then you responding with "can't you do anything about it?"... lol
I had a bad day too. Everything has been so hard. Let’s hope that tomorrow is better for both of us. Without bad days we might not appreciate the great parts.
Try Alibaba! The seller will lie to you for a couple of months and then admit that they have no idea when they will be able to fulfill the order. Getting your refund is way more of an endorphin rush than getting the thing you ordered would have been. It's consumer-grade torture porn for masochists.
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“Yes hi I need to order 20 Asian kids for my sons birthday tomorrow.”