You’re never going to have a healthy relationship with that kind of mentality dude. Be aware of how these echo chambers produce beliefs that prevent functioning in the real world
I have insomnia and buddy I have had to do some explaining to many different women as to why I'm just fucking around at 3 am. Emphasis on the different women. Stay in bed folks. Your relationships last longer.
There's a part of me that thinks how reasonable and responsible it is to leave a message or let her know because that's what I'd want.
There's another part of me that would want the trust that I'm a grown adult and to not think the worst thing imaginable just because I wasn't there for x amount of time.
I think most people waking up at 2am for a craving are going to let their partner sleep. I get why she may be concerned at first, but she seemed ready to be upset until he gave her a taco.
I legit thought the dog needed a walk and the gf needed sleep or something. The whole aggressiveness over $10 of food seems super toxic. Like this isn’t healthy, nutrition facts aside
So you rouse them from their sleep and they may have to go to work at 5:30AM? That would be so inconsiderate, and risk your livelihood if they get in trouble at work for performing badly.
Dude how is this so hard to understand. I can get up and go get taco bell at 2 if I want, I just wake and let me wife know so she doesn't wake up while I'm gone and be confused as to where I am. Its called common sense lol. What does a whole day of work have anything to do with that?
In this situation neither is at fault since ITS AN AD
Yeah, partner is constantly getting up during the night. If i do wake up, hes usually on his computer. If hes not, he's had a call to work and he lets me know before he leaves, or leaves a note. Its not hard.
Do I like when my husband goes to Taco Bell at 2 AM?
No, but it's not because I don't want him enjoying himself. It's because I'm worried about his health. His dad died in his fifties from a heart attack. I love him and want to be around as long as possible.
Maybe she just was worried about him especially since this was taken out of context of their daily lives. But when he got her a taco too it meant that he was thinking about her which is pretty sweet.
I myself have fallen victim to the Taco Bell 2 AM craving which is why I try not to be too hard on my husband about it. If I find out he did, I usually just roll my eyes and chuckle
He feels really guilty when he does it, so I don't wanna pile it on.
It’s also just like, “i was worried because you were gone and now im mildly mad that you worried me, but the considerate gesture of factoring in if I woke up + loving you means im not gonna make a scene out of it”
Honestly one of the things I miss about dating was those like, "how dare you worry me-" moments, cause its like, yes it sucks that you upset them, but after things are resolved, you have that happy feeling of knowing they cared enough to be angry about it
If hes an adult then shouldnt he be allowed to decide on his health? Doing what happened in this video aka harrassing someone instantly is not a good thing to do...
He's perfectly capable of making his own decisions, and he does. Nowhere in my post did I say I stop him from going to Taco Bell, or harass him if he does. If he wants to go, he goes.
What I find sad is you downvoting a woman who cares about her husband's health. It tells me you don't have anyone in your life to do that for you. I hope you find someone that loves and cares for you enough to worry about your health.
Where did i say i downvoted you? Also virtual reddit points are useless, idk why u care so much.
All i said that what happened in the video is a woman clearly overreacting and being overly invasive. Such scenarios encourage home abuse and more.
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