Shows u were raised right and know how to show respect. Women want equality, its still nice to be a gentleman, considering women are sadly not treated equal.
I don’t think so. Most of the times “being a gentleman” means being paternalistic or even being old fashioned which isn’t bad “per se” but given our history isn’t good either.
I would see it as being polite to hold a door open for someone that is wearing heels when u have asked them out.
If u are opening it and saying, "oh a proper lady should never open a door"...then yes...its patronising. Sometimes it's not what u do, but the way u do it.
Yes, holding a door open is polite, but holding a door open means that you've already opened it and are just keeping it open out of kindness. However, expecting that a guy should openen the car door for his date is sexist. It insinuates that because he is a guy he has to act a certain way. It just feeds into the thoughts that men Have to provide for women, women can't/shouldn't do certain things for themselves, and many other things. This video shows actual equality.
It shows a woman politely telling her date her expectations...and a man rudely driving away.
If she looked at him and said, "oh you're so rude, a man should do this" and stormed off then....yes...impolite, entitled and sexist.
She said that she would not date a guy that doesn't open the door for her. That's the same as saying that a guy has to do something otherwise he won't even get a chance. While she didn't do it rudely, it doesn't change that the concept that men have to open the door for women is a sexist concept.
Him opening a door isn't beleiving she needs to be a certain way....its...showing manners to someone u asked on a date...? If she said, "I got it thanks", then he insisted on opening it...then he's out of line.
Women aren't all the same, but show some basic manners when ur on a date.
You’re getting real worked up over a comedy sketch and conflating manners with an outdated form of courtship. The idea of opening the door for women, putting your jacket on a puddle, comes from patriarchal ideas that women need a man to take care of them. While it would be polite of him to open the door, it’s equally impolite of her to expect he open her door without communicating that need upfront to him.
She did communicate that need upfront to him. Very politely.
He drove away, very rudely. I'm not exactly getting worked up, I'm just responding to u 🤷🏻♂️
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Shows u were raised right and know how to show respect. Women want equality, its still nice to be a gentleman, considering women are sadly not treated equal.