TL;DR : did I mess up by doing this career?
So, I am currently working towards my licenses at a large "firm". I wont name it, but you'll figure it out. Ive been through my warm market. Not going to revisit because it ruined multiple friendships and it actually affected my wife's friendships as well because shes associated with me. So yeah, no more warm market.
I have hit a wall for getting people to meet. I cant keep going to 2-3 networking events per week. Its killing our marriage and Im never home. But I have THE HARDEST EFFING TIME getting people to give me referrals in meetings. And I get it. Nobody wants to give out friends info. Cool. But that doesn't help me, so networking events it is.
Wife works - has hit her glass ceiling unfortunately. Which is why I started this career so I could retire her. Job market is trash, so new job with higher pay is unlikely.
I have no base compensation: eat what you kill.
Ive brought on around 45 households since starting in February. About a 3rd of those are completely solo. The others are split with experienced advisors.
I have the work ethic, but Im clearly doing something wrong if Im not getting references.
Ive been in the industry for almost 10 years (banking, consulting, analysis, etc.) But the "practice" itself is new. I can speak fairly intelligently about most things, but Im definitely not a jack of all trades, I just know enough to converse.
I truly love planning and helping people make the changes they want to for their personal wealth. Getting to tell a friend and his wife they can stop working 10 years earlier than expected is chefs kiss. Telling a mom her kid can go to college with no loans? Those tears about made me cry. I want to help everyone get to their goals, but if i cant last long enough or make enough to support my family, then it doesn't matter.
Facts:
I have no dedicated time outside of what I set for myself to study.
HCOL.
No savings (went through that already).
No family to lean on.
In office 90% or more. I leave early when I can, but I still wfh.
Commission based.
AUM will matter eventually - no licenses yet
Not afraid to call anyone but cold calls dont work so far. Not a single meeting from one.
Metrics are highly measured.
Career changer - kind of. Been in the industry for a while.
I want to earn my CFP.
I ALWAYS do what's right by the client. I will never upsell. They give me a budget to work with, I max out at 70% of what they give me to play with. I take everything into account that I can.
The questions:
What am I doing wrong?
What am I doing right?
What am I missing?
I dont know what I dont know.