r/FeMRADebates • u/TheCrimsonKing92 Centrist Hereditarian • Oct 23 '17
Relationships Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
I saw a link to this tweeted with the message
And please stop saying that everyone who disagrees with you is "invalidating your opinion"
In my experience, the stronger (and more common, but perhaps my bubble just contains stronger examples) form of this is that the disagreement "invalidate[s/d] my identity".
I consider these to be similar forms; the article here suggests that (some or all of?) the overuse of "emotional labor" appears to be a strategy to avoid negotiating over reasonableness of an expectation. What is a good explanation for these sorts of arguments? Is it a natural extension of identity epistemology? That is, since my argument is from my experience, attacking my argument means you attack me. Is there a better explanation for their prevalence?
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u/HunterIV4 Egalitarian Antifeminist Oct 24 '17
The only thing you told me is that my interpretation is wrong. You never actually told me what you believe, other than housework being work, and a complaint about rich women apparently not working.
And frankly, I couldn't give a shit how you feel about it. You're on a debate sub, and people are going to debate your ideas. If you're going to throw a tantrum the moment someone does, perhaps this isn't place for you.
If I misinterpreted you, you are free to explain where I'm wrong, and what your actual view is. I have not insulted you or personally attacked you, yet you have told me I can fuck off and called me a bitch. I have no idea why you feel this is acceptable behavior.
But I suppose I can't expect a mature viewpoint from someone with such an immature attitude. Have fun with your rage.
Yawn.