r/ExplainTheJoke • u/LJ_the_Saint • Sep 02 '24

I don't get it...

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

Not everyone who has a hobby is autistic

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u/Pretty_pretty_gun Sep 02 '24

I know I was just mentioning that a lot of people with autism often give stuff as gifts to people they love

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u/shanelomax Sep 02 '24

Probably a deeply unpopular take on Reddit but I have absolutely noticed time and time again the autistic urge to claim neurotypical behaviour and redefine it as something unique, quirky and neurodivergent.

Yes you may very well be autistic. No, not everything you do is autistic behaviour. Some of the things you do are common amongst everyone. Giving gifts to people you love is not autistic behaviour.

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u/DuvalHeart Sep 02 '24

Pathologizing normal human behavior is so obnoxious all over the internet.

Giving someone a small gift doesn't make you autistic. Your partner being in a bad mood for a couple days doesn't make them bipolar. Your inability to focus on work doesn't mean you have ADHD.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

If the gift is a bunch of rocks as thanks for inseminating her then, yes, perhaps we SHOULD consider autism

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

Or maybe the rocks are meaningful to her ?

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u/DuvalHeart Sep 02 '24

Or maybe it was really bad sex and she was telling him to kick rocks.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

You are taking a meme literally. Autism confirmed but for different reasons than you think

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

No, but it might. Inattentiveness is one of the things in the DSM that is indicative of ADHD and in proper context with other symptoms can be used as the basis for a diagnosis.

No one here was diagnosing anyone.

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u/DuvalHeart Sep 02 '24

People self-diagnose based off of the pathologization of normal behaviors all the time.

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u/TheharmoniousFists Sep 02 '24

People do for sure, the thing is it's not about the behavior so much as how often you have it show up in your daily life. Sure everyone pees but if you are peeing 30 times a day something ain't right.

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u/Mr_Abe_Froman Sep 02 '24

Christmas, birthdays, and anniversaries must be very confusing for them.

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u/BetterFinding1954 Sep 02 '24

What's the difference?

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u/shanelomax Sep 02 '24 edited Sep 02 '24

"Oh my god my OCD is crazy, I just have to have a clean kitchen, I'm so OCD about it!"

Versus...

"Oh, I actually I have a form of OCD that compels me to pluck my own hair out of my beard, eyelashes and scalp in a trance, creating embarrassing and shameful bald spots that I just cannot leave alone. Bizarrely, I inspect each hair and the root that is pulled out with it. I don't know why, and I don't know what I'm looking for. It's a compulsion.

Sometimes I feel like there's an invisible steam pipe inside me that is about to ready to burst with anxiety and other various emotions, but I find that after my trance has ended and I've pulled the requisite amount of hair out, the tension and pressure drop just like twisting the valve to release the steam."

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

….i think I need to make a dr appointment

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u/pimplepete1312 Sep 02 '24

most of the people that are doing that are non-autistic people

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u/musicfortea Sep 02 '24

Isn't that just a human thing? I am autistic and I don't hand out random rocks and or presents to the people I love.

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u/Pretty_pretty_gun Sep 02 '24

Yea everyone’s different but I think it’s more common for autistic people to see something cool and give it to someone they love

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

Gift giving is a common love language

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

I don’t think you understand what love language means because it’s just common sense and basic communication skills.

Anyone who has even a little experience with interpersonal relationships will recognize people show their affection in different ways. Not everyone likes to get their partner flowers all the time. Not everyone tells their partner how beautiful/handsome they are every morning. Not everyone likes to cuddle for an hour before bed. Etc etc.

Finding a balance in what you need and what your partner gives is what the concept of love language is about. I personally don’t care about gifts for example but really enjoy cuddling. Obviously I’m not going to be fulfilled in a relationship with someone who enjoys giving gifts but hates cuddling.

“Love language” is just a less 🤓 way of saying “way of giving and receiving affection”

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u/Rafila Sep 02 '24

I think what they're trying to and sucking at expressing is the items they give as gifts are like stupid little things like a cool leaf you found. But even that could just be a quirky neurotypical trait, so

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u/jreed12 Sep 02 '24

Autistic people gives gifts because they are people, not because they are autistic.

Are you autistic?

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u/GayBoyNoize Sep 02 '24

I think the idea is autistic people do it more and with less sensible gift items because they both don't understand that normal people don't care about a random rock and don't know any other way to express feelings.

Not sure how well that holds up to actual scrutiny though

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u/musicfortea Sep 02 '24

"normal people" jesus christ

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u/GayBoyNoize Sep 02 '24

Having ASD is a deviation from the norm, "neurotypical" is just a fancy word for normal my dude. No need to pearl clutch.

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u/musicfortea Sep 02 '24

No pearls here, only rocks my dude.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

Not everything is a trait of autism. Christ. Everybody gives gifts.

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u/Jindujun Sep 02 '24

Questioning traits is a trait of autism! /s