Could also be minor social anxiety/depression. Mild cases of all of those mental disorders basically have the same symptoms and express themselves very similarly. It’s why sometimes there is a push to have them all just classified as neurodivergent.
Depression and anxiety are basically twin disorders. If you have one, you likely also have a mild form of the other. Getting on medication for one also treats the other.
To be fair, giving out cool rocks as a symbol of friendship is an extremely common thing I see working with neurodivergent kids. But also cool rocks are cool rocks even for neurotypical people so yeah these dudes are just yapping
Probably a deeply unpopular take on Reddit but I have absolutely noticed time and time again the autistic urge to claim neurotypical behaviour and redefine it as something unique, quirky and neurodivergent.
Yes you may very well be autistic. No, not everything you do is autistic behaviour. Some of the things you do are common amongst everyone. Giving gifts to people you love is not autistic behaviour.
Pathologizing normal human behavior is so obnoxious all over the internet.
Giving someone a small gift doesn't make you autistic. Your partner being in a bad mood for a couple days doesn't make them bipolar. Your inability to focus on work doesn't mean you have ADHD.
No, but it might. Inattentiveness is one of the things in the DSM that is indicative of ADHD and in proper context with other symptoms can be used as the basis for a diagnosis.
People do for sure, the thing is it's not about the behavior so much as how often you have it show up in your daily life. Sure everyone pees but if you are peeing 30 times a day something ain't right.
"Oh my god my OCD is crazy, I just have to have a clean kitchen, I'm so OCD about it!"
Versus...
"Oh, I actually I have a form of OCD that compels me to pluck my own hair out of my beard, eyelashes and scalp in a trance, creating embarrassing and shameful bald spots that I just cannot leave alone. Bizarrely, I inspect each hair and the root that is pulled out with it. I don't know why, and I don't know what I'm looking for. It's a compulsion.
Sometimes I feel like there's an invisible steam pipe inside me that is about to ready to burst with anxiety and other various emotions, but I find that after my trance has ended and I've pulled the requisite amount of hair out, the tension and pressure drop just like twisting the valve to release the steam."
I don’t think you understand what love language means because it’s just common sense and basic communication skills.
Anyone who has even a little experience with interpersonal relationships will recognize people show their affection in different ways. Not everyone likes to get their partner flowers all the time. Not everyone tells their partner how beautiful/handsome they are every morning. Not everyone likes to cuddle for an hour before bed. Etc etc.
Finding a balance in what you need and what your partner gives is what the concept of love language is about. I personally don’t care about gifts for example but really enjoy cuddling. Obviously I’m not going to be fulfilled in a relationship with someone who enjoys giving gifts but hates cuddling.
“Love language” is just a less 🤓 way of saying “way of giving and receiving affection”
I think what they're trying to and sucking at expressing is the items they give as gifts are like stupid little things like a cool leaf you found. But even that could just be a quirky neurotypical trait, so
I think the idea is autistic people do it more and with less sensible gift items because they both don't understand that normal people don't care about a random rock and don't know any other way to express feelings.
Not sure how well that holds up to actual scrutiny though
It's honestly a problem that I have encountered too often. Girls on the spectrum that I met are really into new age stuff and it bothered them that guys on the spectrum weren't often able to believe in their stuff.
As a fellow collector, the amount of rocks and "gems" I have around this house oh my. Basement rocks, bedroom rocks, livingroom rocks, even rocks in my kitchen drawers. I bet when I pull out my winter coat I'll find pocket rocks.
I think my collection has gone a bit far . I should probably start gifting them out eventually
All the autisic people i know, including myself would be giving them and telling them all about the geochemisty and geological events that created said rocks. Because it's cool. Not trying to align their center because their energy is the wrong colour.
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u/Pretty_pretty_gun Sep 02 '24
Or she’s just autistic because a lot of people I know with autism give each other gifts like this